I'd say its true, I'd even go so far as to say that they aren't capable of loving anyone but them selves. They never loved you in the first place, they only saw you as a utility, a resource to be used, not a human worthy of love.
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I'm glad the voted agree with me. To those making excuses for cheating, that right there is a red flag and direct evidence that you should not date, period.
True or false, a person who cheats on you cannot love you and have sex with someone else at the same time?
I cannot fathom how brutally cruel (and awful) some people can be. The amount of disrespect they have towards their partner and the relationship is appalling.
Sometimes, you cannot prevent someone from cheating on you. How much ever amazing you are, or how good you treat them won’t matter because they are self absorbed and let their libido take control of their decisions. They often tend to have a victim mentality and will refuse to be held accountable for their actions.
I could never live with myself if I ever cheated. Usually, most cheaters do not show even an ounce of TRUE remorse, it might all be just for the show, in hopes that they can get back together with you and use you as a sex toy to satisfy their carnal desires.
A Leopard never changes it’s spots. The same way, cheaters *generally* don’t change. If they leave you for the person they cheated on you with, I assure you, they’d most likely cheat on them as well.
You have to realize your self worth and should not tolerate such behavior from anyone.
No woman can give herself to another man unless the guy she's with has to become less in her mind. It's far more emotional. Typically the guy strikes a emotional nerve and or has been stroking those emotional flames for some time.
She just feels so alive. She just felt so good In the moment. He made her feels so etc etc.
Feelings. Feelings. Grantee I wish guys made their women feel amazing all the time but if my cheated it over because I know it starts in her head.
Yes. Men can fall in love with someone else and but usually it happens the way I described.
I've been cheated on before. The disrespect you need to have for your partner in order to cheat on them is so great that then saying they love you after is a blatant lie.
This is true. Someone who loves you would never cheat on you. If he or she does, they don't love you and perhaps never did.
If you're a man, it is virtually certain your girlfriend or wife will do it again if you catch them. If you married a woman like this, you need to understand that she can't be trusted ever again. Studies have shown that women who engage in infidelity and get caught and go to counseling etc. will do it again over 90% and will generally run off with the other guy over 85% of the time. For wives with a husband who cheats, it's not as bad, when caught they reoffend about 45% of the time and very rarely run off with the other woman. So, at the very least your husband will probably remain at least partially loyal. A woman's betrayal is total.
How do you prevent marrying a woman like this? Do a thorough background investigation. Studies have consistently demonstrated that the more partners a woman has had, the greater the likelihood of infidelity and divorce. 10 sex partners is a 95% chance of infidelity and divorce within the first 7 years. Disregrd any claims by women that this can't be true.
It's very easy to estimate how many men she has screwed before you. If that number is higher than 5, look elsewhere as she is already higher than the average (studies done as of 2019 show 3 to 5 partners for women).
Now why do women seem to become tainted? The research shows that after so many sex partners, women lose the ability to truly bond with a man at the emotional level. In other words she becomes incapable of romantic love.
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I was young and dumb and I’ve cheated before, that happened bc I was no longer in love with my ex. I initiated a break up but he refused to let me go. Of course I felt guilty, even to this day (years later), I still cared about him, there’s still love, even when I was cheating on him but I was also being super selfish. I made up excuses in my head to try to justify my cheating (like oh my bf’s never around anymore, our relationship is going nowhere but he won’t break up blablabla) but it still doesn’t excuse my behavior.
We eventually did break up and I realize that I was such a shit girlfriend to him and he deserves so much better - especially after seeing that I broke his heart when I told him about the cheating. Ever since then, I made a vow to myself that I would never be that immature and selfish ever again. I’ve kept my promise and never have I cheated on my relationships after that one.
But coming from a cheater, it’s possible that they can still have love for the person they’re cheating on. Maybe not in love, but there’s still some love. Some people can separate sex from emotions so when they hook up with other people they think that it’s just sex and it doesn’t mean anything bc their main man/chick still holds their heart. Fucked up I know but it happens…
Love, respect, and support, are all three different areas partners can struggle with that can result in the breakdown of a relationship.
Often you will hear of stories where a man can love and respect his wife, but also fail to support her by helping with the load of shared chores, looking after the kids, or anticipating that she might just need a day off.
A woman can love and support her man, while disrespecting him in his public sphere by airing dirty laundry or making him act like a simp to please her friends.
A traditional Victorian marriage consists of respect and support, where love is but a fleeting insignificant fancy and so both are resigned to spicy emotional affairs.
Cheating makes you far from a good or mature person, but I do think ones ability to be selfish (choosing their needs over their respect for someone else) does not mean they completely stop feeling love for that person at all. It is just a lot less love (and respect) than the other person might want.
Actually, no we don't often hear of a man who doesn't do chores around the house since men work on average 20 hours more per week.
That being said, if these women who cheat want men to take a step back and understand it, then women need to understand why, we are going to start smacking them around. See how that works? Women have a monopoly on sex, men have the monopoly on violence. Unfortunately, now that we are here, it also means we just took your monopoly away from you by force.
When you say they only love themselves, that is not true. Many cheaters don't love anyone, not someone else or themselves.
Every man I have ever been with, sooner or later cheats. Even when they say they are happy with me, no idea why.
They do still seem to love me though and truly show it. Some I could tell they didn't care, they had no feelings but others really had feelings and wanted to fix things. Not all were caught some confessed out of sheer guilt and still loving me.
Lol the fact that so many women answer false to this is very indicative of how many toxic women are on this site. If you answer false to this and think that's normal. Then you just don't really get even how terrible of a person you really are. Lol
They may think they love you, but that definition of love is skewed to being gratification based, not support based, maybe? One can't have their partner's best interests in heart and cheat on them.
I'm not a cheater but I know weirdos who cheat on and love their partners at the same time. Some people don't have consistent feelings but majority limits their emotional focus exclusively to themselves and pretends they care about others.
I think honestly cheating is the highest form of egoism, disrespect for the partner and disinterest for the relationship. I can’t accept it and I think who cheats has only his personal pleasure in his mind.
Men need respect to feel love. Women need love to feel respected. Cheating is a lack of respect towards your partner and is a deal breaker. Having sex with someone that isn't your partner is admission of no respect between you and your partner.
Sex isn't everything in love and love isn't everything in sex. I've never cheated, but I get how some people crave variety in sex while also having the stability of love. It's the main idea in poly relationships, but it's not really considered cheating when the other partner consents.
I don’t agree with cheating, but not everyone who cheats is a narcissist. …. there are always reasons why the cheating happened. I don’t think it’s black and white
I don't condone cheating in any form, and I think it's a horrible practice. But I don't believe that everyone who cheats is a monster who is incapable of love.
False, you can hurt someone and still love them. It's never quite as black and white as you would like it do be.
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I disagree. In order to cheat on someone you have to stop caring about how the person you cheated on feels. You literally have to place your won wants and feelings before that of your partner. Which is by definition selfish in the extreme, if not narcissistic.
As someone who had been cheated on twice, the only thing that they cared about, they regretted, was that they were caught.. Not that they cheated.
No disagreement. I see cheaters as less than human, monsters without empathy, without a soul.. Because only a lack of empathy for your partner would allow it.
though, promiscuity IS a a trait of a sociopath. though, in certain cases--the person that is cheated on can be the one at fault... my uncle being a prime example as my aunt treating him like shit.
When I speak of cheating I speak only and specifically of having sex with someone who is not your partner while in a relationship. Let's limit our responses to that only.
@U4ea0 They do, but love doesn't need to be present for sex. To not cheat on someone (especially if it is only sex, not emotional) is based on respect. Generally your SO is expecting a monogamous relationship. So to cheat on them without putting emotion into the cheating indicates a lack of respect. For example: my girlfriend "cheated" on her ex by kissing his best friend. I put cheating in quotation marks because my girlfriend had tried to break up with him, but he didn't seem to understand that. So she kissed his best friend to show that she had no interest in continuing the relationship, because he was having trouble understanding it was over. There was no emotion involved in this kiss, it was just to show a lack of respect. While her lack of respect was with intent, lack of respect from cheating (sex) may not be intended.
Did you see what that lexi chick said? She got so defensive. Even called me a bitch.. Something tells me, getting that defensive she is indeed a cheater.
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