Can you cheat on your partner and still be in love with them at the same time?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

So, I hate to say this and know this is coming from a man who was married for 24 years and never cheated... she did more than once. I was the one that divorced her as well and she took half my net worth with her. $800,000. That was the price of her infidelity and the courts in a none at fault state will not care that she violated the contract of the marriage.

But the answer is YES! When you are in a relationship where you really love the other person, but there are years and history of unhappiness. Yes, you can cheat and still love the other person.

I am not saying it is right, but it happens all the time. You cheated with a person, but you have no desire to leave your marriage or be with the other person... it's just that you had an itch that had to be scratched.

[Asker]

Question wasn’t can you love someone and cheat
It was can you be IN LOVE with someone and still cheat?

[Asker]

I feel like there’s a massive difference between deep infatuation and adoration

[DaveJord]

I was married to her for 24 years and I loved her the entire time, and she was cheating and still loved me, while she was cheating. I just didn't know and I still loved her and didn't care... until 24 years later!!! ANd she had done it numerous times.

So YES!

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'm just looking around, seeing who have a healthy mentality in relationships

[Daniela1982]

Cheating has no place with love. Loving someone is honoring them above yourself. Cheating has no honor to it, and it certainly is not honoring your mate ( whom you agreed to love and cherish, and to "forsake all others" for). If you truly love your mate the thought of cheating would not be considered in any way, shape, or form. Loving someone is in all ways. You can't just love them part of the way or make exceptions. when you don't love them in order to cheat. It is either all or none. Love does not act unbecomingly and cheating is exactly that!

[HollyK21]

Genuinely loving someone means you won’t do anything to hurt them if you can help it. Cheating is a conscious decision to be selfish, wanting to have their cake and eat it too rather than letting that person be free so you can explore your options as well.

[coachTanthony]

Yes. Cheating is greedy and careless and most of all disrespectful. Most times has nothing to do with loving your partner or not. Humans crave passion and excitement this is why you always need to keep dating your partner and reigniting those feelings. So many couples get so busy and forget that they are a loving couple.

[Biancam13]

I would say definitely not. When you genuinely fall in love with someone, you stop "looking" elsewhere. It gives you tunnel vision for that person. Yes, you will still be attracted to other people outside of the relationship, but you won't desire them because what you have at home will be far better than anyone else.

Being in love with someone also makes you care about their wellbeing. You wouldn't go out and hurt them or risk losing your relationship with them because what you have is precious and valuable to you.

[Anemone978]

I personally don't think you can.. people will say they love you but if they are cheating, there is no love.. because they don't care they are hurting you over and over again.. they might like you but it defo ain't love. When I am in love I don't see any other person but them, I would never cheat on a guy I am in love with.

[Singing_Hollow]

I have heard this from many men who have cheated. Sex is a physical thing so when they cheat it's not because they don't love their partners it's due to other factors that are more instinctual. That's why when a woman cheats it hurts a man that much more because when we have sex there are emotions and we tend to make connections with the person we sleep with. It might still hurt for women but overall we tend to be less affected, that hurt heals for us but for men they carry it forever.

[andreasderjuengere]

I love my dogs.

When I now like other dogs as well... am I cheating on my own dogs?

Love comes in many different shades.

To me it's more a question of remaining loyal, not to hurt others' feelings, and add some 'discretion' to it.

[Asker]

A woman is not a pet or a dog…

[andreasderjuengere]

She is one target of my affection. Where I can assure you that my dogs are loyal, they don't hurt my feelings and they don't gossip.
Can you say the same about human ladies? :D
...
''Cheating'' is actually a human invention that came out of romantic fiction.
To be clear: I also 'love' my women of course.

[abc3643]

No.
That's impossible with one exception.
The exception is intoxication so that the inhibition center of the brain, which would otherwise prevent you from cheating, is overcome by the intoxication. In that condition, the brain is all about selfishness.

[Anonymous]

Cheating on your partner is generally considered a breach of trust and can be very hurtful to the other person. Love and infidelity are complex topics, and people's experiences and emotions can vary. However, many would argue that true love involves respect, trust, and loyalty. It's important to communicate openly with your partner and address any issues in the relationship rather than resorting to infidelity.

[love_conquers_lust]

By “in love” I assume you mean emotionally connected. Yes, I’d say one can. Should you? No. You’ve broken the love and commitment, the bond. It would be best to come clean, face judgement, atone, ask for forgiveness, and move on. Better to deal with it sooner than later.

[Billlewis]

I have a split view regarding infidelity in relationships; I think it's very possible for a woman to cheat and still love her husband or boyfriend, but I don't believe men should cheat in relationships. This is my opinion only.

[Lisia]

I don't think so. You wouldn't do that to the person you love.

[Miristheiss]

Irrelevant. That isn't the love anyone wants. Real love is that they don't have eyes for anyone else. They can't cheat because all they want is you. If they are lusting after someone else their "love" is hollow and a joke.

[Sasha0426]

Absolutely not. If they truly loved you, they wouldn’t think twice betraying your trust. I’ve seen how cheating affects people and it’s heart wrenching. It causes them to lose belief in love and have major trust issues.

[Angxl3120]

I guess not, if you love someone you won't even let yourself fall for someone else

[crystalline0909]

No!
If you love someone, you would never do something to them that you don't want to be done to yourself.

[rebeliouse]

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[crystalline0909]

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[RedInnocent68]

Yes. The physical urge in the moment, doesn’t eliminate the emotional connection with an established partner.

[Asker]

Not sure how you can have an emotional connection with someone you can look in the eyes whilst simultaneously lying to them.

[SolitarySolace]

No. If you actually loved your partner you wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. No one else should matter but your partner. Cheating should never be justified.

[LazerBean]

It's possible. And that's why not all love has value.

[OfMiceandMen]

People who cheat rarely love themselves much less their partner.

[Nikki1989]

People who are truly in love and have good sex lives never cheat on each other.

[Tim2nice]

It is possible to love more than one person at a time or to love someone but still want other things. You can’t help what you like

[m33ladEmjay]

Guys yes! Girls NO!

That's why guys can have many s3x partners and it means nothing.. But they will always go back to the 1 that he loves. but not for women.

[Metallsturm]

Men yes. Women no.

A man needs a location to cheat. A woman needs a reason to cheat.

[Dargil]

You can be co-dependent on them, but not in love. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.

[Night_Angel]

It is not possible, love prevents doing something bad, so a person who is in love cannot betray the person she loves.

[AmeerX]

Well, it's complicated. It is better to be polygamous than to cheat.

[more_than_a_guy]

I don't think it's possible. Maybe you think you love them, but in reality you don't. If you truly love them, you won't hurt them in such manner, you will care for them.

[JesseJayNeak]

In my opinion, no. And, if you do, you're being selfish. I don't care that the woman in question is Helen of Troy, Queen Esther or a prime Gisele Bundchen. Cheat on me once and it's over

[Sparkie460]

I guess you can but I would never want to find out.

[Staximus]

If you're in love with somebody, you wouldn't want to cheat on them

[Kelly6]

Yea you can but only if you are keeping sex as different from love.

[LiamJHayden]

I do not cheat, and with the way I define love doing so would preclude loving the person.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

No

The second you permit yourself to have sex with other person is death to relationship

I dont care what others say

[Nemesis2k7]

NO. that means you do not love the partner or respect them. no excuse. cheating is narcissistic

[Anonymous]

Not really
I'm not in love and i still don't/won't cheat

[boggboss]

Guess that depends on people's definitions of love

[EmmaMary]

No, absolutely not.

[John_Cobretti]

You never loved them if you cheated

[Anonymous]

Nope, you don’t cheat on someone you love.

[Anonymous]

Yep--sure can!

[Bklynbadboy12]

Sure you can believe it or not that happens a lot

[JamesRandiDebates]

Sure. I do it all the time.

[Cheerfull009]

Two opposite actions, cheat and love

[Slim57]

No, that's the opposite of being in love

[MaxUsefull]

Nope…maybe a guy…but not a woman

[JackCarter]

Never

[jahaims]

Definitely not.

[msc545]

Yes, you can.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[riverrat3]

It is possible