Would you break up if he never proposes?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I have a 7 year relationship with a great man, he's intelligent, responsible, honest, has a great career, we share a lot of values in common and have the same belief, both practicing catholics, plus he is handsome, tall, strong, and good looking. He's great and I love him. He's been my only boyfriend (I had never had nothing with a guy or anybody before him, at all, no-thing) he gave me my 1st kiss! We meet when he was 20 and I was 23, we were both finishing university. Now he's 27 and I'm 30, and even though we have good chemistry, great communication, interests in common, good paying jobs, and we laugh a lot and cuddle and say I love you to each other daily, all that and he has not proposed at all. We don't live together and we haven't had intercourse cause I am a virgin and I want to wait until marriage, although we have experimented already seeing each other naked, but not intercourse. So, I don't know, what would you do in this case? Is it unlikely for him to propose at this point? We broke up once already and splitted for 1 year and after that he came to me and asked me to come back and said he wasn't able to date anyone else. I've talked to him about this marriage stuff, he says he wants to have more money and maturity to be able to marry, but I'm 30 and I don't know if I have the time to wait for that to happen, I want to have children and loving marriage with a man who really wants to be with me no matter what.

[hahahmm]

Sounds like you did a lot of talking about what you want... how special what you have to offer is.. and he nodded his head a bunch. He forgot to mention that he's an asexual monk or gay & using you as his beard. And I say this as someone who is all for traditional relationships and women having high standards so I get why you thought it was a good idea to wait for sex but you did it all totally wrong. Waiting till marriage was the traditional way because people GOT MARRIED VERY YOUNG. They weren't putting it off so they could get a degree, build a career or because they thought their privates were like golden awards you keep polished above the fireplace. I'm not saying one can't 'wait' even when their 30s but you have to be reasonable. Don't expect a grown man to be interested in waiting a long time. That means either be the kind of woman he is begging to marry early on or re-evaluate what the hell you're doing. You also have to know how to pick the right guy and I don't think you did that here.

[kkirk4442]

It all depends on how important marriage is to you, and how important it is to have a full commitment from him. Personally, I would not stay in a relationship for much more than a year, is they were not interested in marriage, and if we were not heading in that direction.

[SamA_nold]

Maybe he doesn't want to get marriedYou could always propose to him 🤷

[LiamSawyer]

You have a biological clock, he has a financial clock, time to help him reach his financial goals so you can reach your biological goals and be happily married, and producing the fruit of marriage that God has in sight for you.

[jahaims]

I would know my partners values well before 7 years