2 months ago, it was my ex-gfs birthday. I got her a bracelet, but she complained that she didn't like it. Complained it wasn't expensive enough.
I then went and got her a designer bag, from a guy, but i didn't realise i got scammed. My ex-gf (who was my girlfriend at the time) dumped me on the spot when she took it to the store to get it verified.
Im shattered, Heartbroken. But it makes me wonder. Is this normal female behaviour? Is this a valid reaction?
Should I even be upset? Is she just materialistic and only wanted me for money? I dont know if this is worth mentioning but 2 months ago she had to put a Mirena IUD in (its a form of hormonal birth control) due to bleeding issues and since then I noticed her behaviour has changed. Since then I feel that she has been unrecognisable.
As a woman, this is not normal behavior. If she didn't like the bracelet you got her... well, that's a bummer. She could have let you know in a nicer way. Now, to break up with you because the DESIGNER BAG you got her was a fake... that shows you where her heart is. Where your heart is, there lies your treasure. Clearly, she is showing more interest in the material items you are providing her with. These things can be talked about calmly and in a rational matter. You don't want to date someone/have someone like this in your life. Do not remain in contact with her and leave her.
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To be honest, my answer is specifically on what you wrote. I don’t know this girl and am not sure what the entirety of your relationship was like but, it sounds like she wanted to be flourished with expensive things. Is there a reason she may have had this behavior with you? Like, did she think you were rich? Did she ever come off as a person who expected only nice things? Did you ever notice this behavior before?
It sounds like she only she cares about money based on what you wrote. If she didn’t think you were rich and didn’t appear as a gold digger- then I could only wonder if maybe she is a good girlfriend but sometimes feel under appreciated. She maybe really wanted to feel special on her birthday and was begging for an expensive gift and thought you would save up to get it…. How much was the gift? Because we can assume you spent a lot and she was ungrateful. And maybe you spent very little and she felt like you could’ve spent more.
I guess I would like more context.
Woah dude, that's messed up. Sorry to hear she dumped you over something so shallow.
Forget what her problem was - seems like she's the one with issues, not you. No way is that normal girl behavior to act so entitled and ungrateful.
You busted your ass trying to find her two gifts, and she dumps you just cause one wasn't legit? Total overreaction man. No need to feel bad at all - her loss, not yours.
And honestly yeah, sounds like she might have been using you for the cash and nice things. Real relationships ain't about material stuff.
Plus who knows what's really up with her since the birth control thing - hormones can mess people up good sometimes. Maybe that played a part in her changing tune.
Either way bro, don't stress it. You seem like a caring dude who tried your best - you'll find some girl who appreciates you for you. Give yourself time to heal, then get back out there when you're ready. You'll bounce back for sure!
Hate to tell you this man, because I know it’s going to hurt, but this wench is a selfish, materialistic, entitled, a**hole. She is clearly self-centered and narcissistic. She may love the way you fawn over her and you love her but, she does NOT love you. That’s a fact. You’re blind to it because men are blinded by women and they rob the mind of clarity. Listen to your mates and move on.
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You actually lucked out , she is a gold digger that is meant for the streets
I’m sorry to hear she did that to you.
you did your very best and it looked like she was wasn't appreciative of it and that’s on her.
sounds to me like you’ve saved a lot of money and headaches later. A person worse than an ungrateful one is an ungrateful materialistic one.
Brush this one off and continue living life.sorry you got scammed.
Dude, you should feel grateful you're no longer with her. Imagine having to put up with that sh*t all the time. It wasn't real love from her side that is such a petty reason to break up with someone. She values the wrong things. How expensive a gift is is not a measure for how much you love someone. What a F*cking B*tch. I'm sorry but I had to say it.
I think it's valid for you to be upset by this breakup. But honestly, it sounds like she just wanted money & gifts from you, not an actual relationship. I wouldn't go chasing back after her, just go out there and find yourself a new girlfriend (one that will love & cherish you).
the dumping, from my view as guy, was justified because same as you felt tricked for wanting designer but not getting it, she felt fooled that you gave her the fake, to fool her it was designer and that you want to give generous when you didn't. so in contrast to mist comforting replies here that are good to say i see her view And she correct to "dump you for feeling fooled" that you wanted to spend when you didn't want.
that is not good, normal or healthy. I've had crap like that in the past, somewhat. Move on. Life should not be that stressful like you are walking on eggshells.
It is easy to get scammed of knockoffs if you don't know those products well.
talk to Dr. about her behavior... maybe it messed up her hormones. Wouldn't shock me if she comes running back.
In essence, I guess your gift said "you aren't good enough" and she took that offensively.
I'd say, it's a possibility those mones she's ion are fucking with her head as well as her pussy but, if you find out they're not, tell her to go pound salt!!
She seems pretty trash any way you look at it. Congrats on getting an upgrade.
I would say your better off with out that gold digger. Be lucky you found out what she was like sooner then later.
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sorry it happened
on good side u discovered who she truly is
It’s normal if the person you were dating was shallow in the first place.
Don’t be heartbroken over someone like that.
I’ve been super pissy and grumpy because of BC before, but she was just ungrateful.
You should have left her when she complained about the bracelet and but taken to her again. Never buy a woman some designer bullshit.
She sounds like a gold digger dude. It's probably for the best.
Be happy you are rid of her. You aren't missing anything.
Upset? You should be happy as fuck. If the hormonal change brought this out in her, praise the powers that be! Better you learned now than later.
I could never imagine anybody behaving like that. Too bad you did not dump her first.
Least she showed her true colors as a piece of shit
Don't be too upset.. You're actually lucky.. you don't need a person like that in your life..
You dodged a bullet dude. You're way better off without her. She sounds like a real toxic mess.
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