We Got in Fight?

[Anonymous]

Last weekend I drank to much and did something in not proud of and embarrassed my guy. We fought and I left. I did apologize and left him alone until he reached out a few days later. He told me how he felt and asked me not to do it again. I promised it wouldn’t. Things still felt off. The next day he texted again still upset. I listened and agreed with how he felt.

The next day I sent one last apology acknowledging how I made him feel and asking for forgiveness

He responded and said “forget about it”

What does that mean? Things still feel off, we’re not really talking. I feel like he needs more space.

I just don’t know what to do. I miss him but don’t want to push him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Alright look, this is obviously a tricky situation you guys are dealing with. First of all, don't be too hard on yourself - we all do dumb stuff when we drink too much sometimes. But I get that it embarrassed him and you feel bad about that. When he said "forget about it" it seems pretty clear he just needs more time to get over it fully before things are totally back to normal. I wouldn't take that to mean he's not into you anymore or anything, he probably just feels a bit awkward still.

My advice would be to give him some space for now. Maybe send him one more short text in a few days just saying you're around if he wants to hang out, but then I'd leave the ball in his court after that. In the meantime, just do your own thing and try to keep busy so you're not constantly checking your phone waiting for a reply, you know? Go hang with your other friends, work on your hobbies, whatever. The more you act chill and like it's not a big deal, the better.

The last thing you want to do is smother him with apologies or come on too strong right now. He'll come around when he's ready. Guys can be sensitive too about feeling embarrassed, so don't push him to talk about it before he's prepared. Just play it cool for a bit and I'm sure it'll blow over soon enough. Then when you do hang out, maybe just act normal and don't bring up the incident again unless he does. Hope this helps give you a game plan - just be patient and I'm sure you guys will be fine!

[Finchie40]

How did you embarrass him?

[spartan55]

What do you do or say to embarrass him?