My boyfriend spat on me while we were play fighting?

[Anonymous]

So I was play fighting pretty rough with my boyfriend for a while, he slapped me and I slapped him and we were biting each other and everything but then my boyfriend spit on me and I lost it. I was so mad and told him to take me home. He apologized and said he was just playing but I wouldn't forgive him so then he got mad at me for not forgiving him. Am I wrong for being mad? I just felt disrespected and like he crossed the line

[theccanyon]

Sounds like foreplay to meeee. ;}

Seriously though, that was such an idiot move on your boyfriend's part. I take it he has not been in many fights or confrontations before because, as @onlyinit4fun said, spitting on someone will get you ass attacked real quick. I'd chalk this one up to stupidity and probably seeing it in a porno somewhere.

You've made it known that you will NOT tolerate that action. However, there is too much grey area in terms of the circumstances to where you can't definitely prove that his intent to disrespect extended beyond that exact heat of the moment. It would be unfair to punish him for a rash action. To sound condescending, he may not have know better.

BUT - You were 100% clear about your boundaries and his understanding is crystal, yes? So if he ever spits on you again, you exit stage left. Immediately.

[Onlyinit4fun]

Okay.. I agree with those who say did you set up a no-spitting rule but I also don't agree because it's common sense that you don't spit because that is SO disrespectful. It's for most people a reason to physically attack someone.

So I get why you're mad. But I also get why he's mad.

[LittleSally]

Yes... you were right in being mad at him.
I think he doesn't know the line...

Maybe he was just into humiliating you and you don't know him well enough to realize this yet, or he does this with other people and thinks it's socially acceptable.

[ilovchipmunk]

he did that as he haven't known you too well and to the boundaries, too, you mad at him cause he didn't take a give in as a gentleman and a boyfriend should, and there's a double reason, he didn't know he should take it seriously to apologize cause he steped on your boundaries, and what no idea how much it's meant for you, now there's a treble, his ignorant attitude on the doing wrong first and wouldn't take it in sincerely instead he bring it out on you due his failed to understand.

[AmandaLynn1930]

i think you have a right to be upset. but you guys were both play fighting, so you did over react a little bit.

[CherryPieBlackCoffee]

You have the right to be comfortable and uncomfortable in any situation. If you feel like that was rude, you have every right to express that.

[takumii]

1. Did you mention to him earlier "no spitting " ?
2. If no, is he illuminati?

[QuestionMan]

He didn't know that you wouldn't like it.