Boyfriend says he thinks he loves me more than his ex wife if that’s even possible. Am I overthinking this?

[Anonymous]

He’s been divorced for 8 years. They’ve stayed friends. At one point after getting divorced they dated. This was before we met. She didn’t want anyone to know that they were divorced so they kept it a secret until about 2 years ago. We’ve been dating for over three years. He’s no longer spending time with her like he did when we first met.

[melnc]

What's the difference? You are all friends with benefits
Deal with that.

[BetaBucks]

"like he did when we first met" is doing a lot of lifting in this post. You definitely have to clarify what this means.

[Asker]

They hung as friends. Going to dinner. Hanging out with their son. Going for walks. Watching each others dogs.

[BetaBucks]

Oh, they have a kid in common. that's an important part of it. As long as they stopped spending time together after you two started dating, it's all good. And as long as their communication is only about the kid. They def don't need to keep a personal relationship anymore. Especially considering their history together. Don't listen to the weirdos that will tell you it's cool for exs to be bffs. 99% of these people are either cheaters or oblivious af.

[Asker]

All of that stopped because I told him I wasn’t ok with him being so close to his ex. He tried saying they were just friends and the divorce was mutual. That I have nothing to worry about. He saw it upset me and decided staying friends with her wasn’t worth it.

[BetaBucks]

Good. He did the right thing and your feelings were completely valid

[BarryLiverstone]

Probably