My boyfriend thinks I don't love him as much as he loves me?

[Anonymous]

I'm not very good at expressing my emotions and feelings, I'm just not very comfortable making myself so vulnerable.

But my boyfriend is very in touch with his feelings but thinks I don't love him as much as he loves me.

What kinds of things should I tell my boyfriend to reassure him that I love him so much? He makes my life so much better and I want to be with him for the rest of my life.

[TaurusFemmeFatale]

Why are you uncomfortable with expressing your emotions and feelings? What's holding you back? Here are some gestures...

(1) Writing " I love you so much. You make my life so much better. I want to be with you for the rest of my life." Write it on the bathroom mirror, a post-it, or send it to him via e-mail.

(2) When he's laying down, and he's HALF-ASLEEP, rub your fingers through his hair, nibble his ear, and whisper sweet-nothings in his ear. I think if he is fully awake, something tells me that you would be rather unconfortable and freak out!

(3) Try an ego -booster, tell him how sexy he is in a joking romantic way. This way, you do not feel ill at ease with expressing yourself verbally.

(4) Find out what he likes, (sports, entertainment) and suprise him with a considerate gesture.

(5) Try a candlelight dinner, or a romantic picnic, wear his favorite dress, or perfume.

Good Luck,

I hope this helps...

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

These are some good tips! =D Especially the first one!

[martyfellow]

Great answer, Taurus! But there are less sappy ways!

[littlemissfrancesca]

say that to him... tell him exactly how you feel and if its hard for you to say write him a letter by hand and give it to him in person :) congratulations... I really hope this works for you :) good luck x

[ErikM]

Do things that shows that you appreciate him. Tell him what you like about him, thank him when he does something nice for you. Say sweet things to him and compliment him. Hold him, kiss him, gently caress him, do something kind and thoughtful for him like preparing his favorite food for him. You can also give him a thoughtful gift that shows him that you know what he likes and you understand and appreciate him. Basically, do everything from him that you'd appreciate him doing for you. Guys aren't that different from girls when it comes to wanting to be loved, respected and appreciated.

[nuvan]

You taught a lot

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

Do small things for him that shows you care. Prepare things for him sometimes. Do cute things that will surprise him. Remind him that you also think of him throughout the day. Don't just wait for him to always contact you and stuff.

[Relationshipexplain]

I've been thinking about why someone might feel their partner doesn't love them and what can be done to address these concerns. Here's a summary of my thoughts:

• Lack of Shared Thoughts: If you're not open and communicative, your partner might feel distanced. Share your day-to-day experiences and thoughts to bridge this gap.
• Hesitance in Intimacy: If there's a sudden change in intimacy levels, your partner might feel unwanted or unloved. Understand the cause and communicate openly about it.
• Absence of Personal Touch During Intimacy: Using your partner's name and showing affection are important. If lacking, this might create a feeling of disconnect.
• Not Sharing About the Past: Sharing significant life events helps in understanding each other better. Not doing so might make your partner feel excluded from your life.
• Relationship Status Unclear: If the relationship isn't defined or made public, it might create insecurity. Discuss with your partner about making the relationship official.
• Lack of Quality Time: Regular quality time is essential. Ensure you're allocating enough time to your relationship, regardless of your schedule.
• Conversational Depth: Ensure your conversations are meaningful and empathetic. Superficial talks might lead your partner to feel a lack of emotional connection.
• Effort in the Relationship: Reciprocate your partner’s efforts to show your commitment and affection.
• Forgetting Special Days: Remembering and celebrating special occasions like birthdays can reinforce your care and love.
• Balancing Friendships: If you're closer to a friend than your partner, it might create feelings of jealousy or neglect. Balance your friendships and relationship.
• Not Capturing Memories Together: Taking and sharing photos together can be a sign of happiness and willingness to share your life with your partner.
• Availability: Being available only at specific times can make your partner feel like an afterthought. Show that they're a priority in your life.

These points cover a range of issues that might lead to feelings of being unloved in a relationship. It's important to address these issues with open communication and understanding. Feel free to check out my post on Relationship Explained for more details on any of these points!

[Anonymous]

I think a 4some with your 2 other triplet sisters is in order. That will brighten his day.

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

LOLOLOL

[ApurbaLahiri]

m in the same problem.. toooooooo