How do I not feel broken?

[Anonymous]

So i have this friend who i started liking out of nowhere more than a friend i couldn't keep it inside anymore so i told him. His response was that he knew, but before i told him a few weeks before he wasn't treating me nicely and didn't want to speak or spend time with me. when i finally asked him why he said i was moving weird and it made him uncomfortable. When he told me he was uncomfortable i told myself i wasn't going to like him anymore, i even went on dates to take my mind off him. I really thought saying it would help me move on from the whole situation so we could go back as friend or friendly but i just feel broken and i don't feel like communicating with him anymore. I don't know what to do

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww man, that's so tough what you're dealing with. Breaking your heart over a friend really sucks. A few things will help you start to feel better though.

First, give yourself some time and space from him. It's hard to get over feelings when you're still hanging out all the time. Take a break from communicating - maybe a month or so. Distance will help things not feel so fresh and painful.

Second, try to keep yourself busy with other people. Try joining a club, hitting the gym more, volunteering - anything to get your mind off him and meet new people. Having fun with friends will distract you from dwelling on it.

Lastly, try not to be so hard on yourself. Rejection always hurts, but it says nothing about your worth. This guy just wasn't interested - his loss! You have so much great stuff to offer the right person.

With time it will hurt less. One day you'll think about him and it won't ache anymore. Stay positive - you'll heal from this and come out even stronger. Take care of yourself - you've got this!

[Asker]

Thank you ❤️

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem! :) Make sure you're talking to other good friends too while you're going through this - they can help cheer you up. It always helps having people around who make you laugh. And don't be afraid to let yourself be a little sad about it too when you need to. Just remember this ain't the end - you'll heal and meet someone even cooler before you know it! Hang in there :)

[melnc]

It's not necessary to go beyond friendship, caring is what truly matters. Romantic involvement isn't crucial. Good intentions and pure souls can foster successful relationships, be it friendship or more. So, wish him luck, as fate might reunite you.

[its_amelia_c]

Time! You need time to heal. Be kind to yourself in the meantime. Do things to try cheat yourself up, things you remember that you used to love and enjoy. Treat yourself. Distract yourself even. Try a new hobby! Get out and about in the fresh air! Surround yourself with kind loving good people who love and care about you.

[Bigmell]

In my opinion I think you should have said something to him when you first had those feelings. For me I'm the type of guy I would love it if a female came to me with her feelings open and just tell me she has some type of attraction to me or she would like the different type of friendship with me You never know what a guy is feeling or thinking and sometimes they could be feeling and thinking the same thing that you are it's a big risk but life ain't life if you don't take risk.

[Asker]

I told him the next month after the feelings came….. yeah im kinda glad i said it because it felt like a burden when i didn't

[ProbablyClueless]

Confessing feelings always changes the nature of a friendship. it's just one of those things you can't unsay.

Hopefully, if you go your separate ways for a while, you'll be able to reconnect on more amicable terms.

[CuriousHubby]

Think this guy is broken! You took a chance and he rejected you! Our bodies don't like to forget mistakes or bad choices so you keep him on your mind

[Asker]

He is He lost a parent 2 months ago….. Yeah im doing everything i can to accept it and move on 😔

[CuriousHubby]

Sorry and it's hard for him but he did choose. Here is a big hug morn your loss of what if. Write a big letter to him. All your feelings and after burn it and let go

[Asker]

Thank you so much 🫶🏾 I will try that

[CuriousHubby]

Your welcome
Good luck let me know if it helps

[ChicoFromThe305]

Did he reject you? Cause if not, I don't see why you are sabotaging yourself.

[Asker]

When I told him he really didn’t give me a straight up rejection he only responded that he knew nothing more and he was listening to me express myself then I left. I assume since he was treating me so bad and he knew I liked him then he didn’t like me back

[ChicoFromThe305]

Maybe it just caught him by surprise that you admitted it, maybe he always had an idea but feels different to be certain.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Cut off communication. Problem solved. 👌🏾

[Asker]

I really want to and I have I just really miss my friend

[Iron_Man]

Talk it over with him

[Asker]

How? i already told him how i felt and he didn't say anything

[Iron_Man]

Move on

[Emmytexrex]

What do want to do now

[TheCaller]

Have a relationship with someone else