I feel heartbroken. How do I get over this feeling?

[Anonymous]

He broke my heart by breaking up with me and then we tried to be friends but that ended horribly with him blocking me on everything. I feel so depressed and sad. I can't eat, I can't sleep. It's really bad.

I don't know what to do. I don't have but one friend for emotional support but he was part of my support system because I have clinical depression. Now it's like someone ripped my heart out.

I never thought he would block me. I thought we would always be cool but I guess I was wrong. This hurts like hell.

[Anonymous]

Feeling heartbroken like this after a major breakup just comes with the territory unfortunately, and if you suffer with depression or bad thoughts how a lot do then it makes this whole thing even worse. But you had to go through this because you would not have walked away on your own accord no matter what.


With this outcome, there was no other choice because if he didn’t block you, you probably wouldn’t leave him alone. That’s not to say something is wrong with you or he’s mad, but just setting a boundary because you’ve become so codependent of him. He has become your everything since you have nobody else, and that’s a lot of pressure as both a boyfriend and friend. For someone like you, you probably would’ve done your absolute best to make the friendship work because underneath it all you don’t wanna lose him at any capacity, even if it’s hurting you to be only platonic.


You may still have hope or find a way to try and keep the romance in tact by flirting, talking about the past or whatever else. Not healthy. Blocking was his only way to send this message.

[Asker]

You're so right. Thank you. I know it was the best thing for him to do but it still doesn't take away the pain and hurt. I feel so lost and broken. I just don't know how I'm going to get through this.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem love, sorry you’re going through this. I remember going through that in 2021, interestingly enough right around this time and it was the most miserable I’ve ever been to date. My depression was through the roof, I cried constantly, didn’t have any friends, family is all over the country, everything was shut down due to Covid so I couldn’t go out much on my own, it was torture.

I had to force myself out of self-pity and start building myself up, and so do you, because you know he isn’t moping around over you, so use that as motivation to do that less over him. Rediscover yourself, and how you can navigate your life without feeling so lost on your own. If you need to vent, use your journal, written or verbal. I made dozens of voice notes just to hear my thoughts out loud and since I had no one to talk to.

I found small things I could do on my own to conquer my social anxiety. I watched shows, walked my dog, etc. I made a friend sort of at random in that time, she was a bit younger but single and loved to do things. I guess it all fell into place as time did it’s thing. One day I woke up and it didn’t hurt so much, I guess time helped. This all took a year, not to make it look so bleak because everyone’s healing is different, but I didn't fall for him overnight, plus we were together 3 years, so healing took time to. But it did happen, as it will for you a well!

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing this. It's very helpful and comforting to know I'm not the only one who went through this. It's so hard but I know I have to try to get over it and him and focus on myself. It's just easier said than done. But I will try my hardest.

[Opinion Owner]

Totally agree. There’s nothing easy about what you’re going through right now, like you are quite literally grieving a loss, so allow yourself to feel those emotions but then dust yourself off and keep moving forward after.
You don’t have to think about getting over him today, or tomorrow, take it a step at a time. What helped me a lot was keeping things in perspective. I really put that relationship and my ex on a pedestal, so post-breakup all I could think was ‘what a loss’. I was feeling so bad and guilty, like if I had done this or that differently maybe we could’ve worked. But doing all that really made me lose sight of why we needed to breakup in the first place.
It’s easy to get into your head and put so much emphasis on the pluses of that relationship, but all that the reminiscing did was conjure up excuses to reach out. I was rationalizing even the bad things in my head in order to be with him again. Love makes you do that! That’s why perspective is so important, to remember why you are here and why this is the better route. Shifting your mindset to that of understanding and closure helps a lot.

[Asker]

Yes definitely! I will definitely take it a step at a time. Thank you again!

[Opinion Owner]

No problem 💛

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep the results of a heartbreak, the first step in healing is to accept what happened and then remember you'll get better, don't go with the mentality that you'll never get over it even tho it feels that way, you'll get over it, the wound is still fresh, the only cure for this is time, you'll be alright.

[Asker]

Thank you! I will try to have the mentality that I will get over it eventually. It sure doesn't feel that way right now but I know time heals all wounds like you basically said.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Indeed, it's also okay to express your emotions and the pain you are going through, cry if you have to cry and let it out, if you want to isolate yourself and think of everything and react to those emotions then it's good to release these emotions, it's part of the process, no matter how you feel always bypass what those emotions tell you and remember that you'll get better and look forward to that.

[Asker]

Ok I definitely will! I cried so much today and I feel a bit better now. So you're definitely right! Thanks again!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep, get well soon anon 💯🙏🏼

[Asker]

Thanks! I will try!

[Hellraiser1984]

There's therapy. Try calling a warm line. Love sucks that's why I don't have relationships. The pain is unbearable. Just don't start drinking or doing drugs.

[Asker]

I wish I could afford therapy. Right now I just can't but when I am able to I certainly will! Love does indeed suck. And I definitely won't start drinking or doing drugs.

[Hellraiser1984]

Most mental health centers work on a sliding scale. They will make it affordable as possible for you. I used to pay $3.00 a session.

[Asker]

Oh ok. I guess I could try to do that then. Thanks.

[DrPepper12]

Yes but it's temporary. Truly it is. You can bear this and even thrive cuz of it. You got this! Some mindless ONS NSA sex always helps too... 😉😁

[msc545]

The best cure for a man in this cas is another man.