What is my child’s father always mean to me?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been broken up for a month now. He complained about messes & laundry. I work 12 hrs plus overtime. I’m always tired! He doesn’t have a job. I paid everything & for everything. Now he’s back at his parents, if our son (he’s 1 just started walking) goes to the doctor I let him know, he gets mad at me that he had fell with his bottle, he gets a scratch with him he thinks I’m accusing him of something. I told him he needed wipes “well I don’t have any f****** money!” I asked him to set a schedule for him & our son & he told me to do it. But his daughter’s mom won’t allow her to meet her brother so I feel like when she’s there he should make the schedule around that. I’m never rude to him or anything that would make him upset. & he’s the one that said we’ll do fine “coparenting” he ended up popping up at my house before all this started with people he said “don’t worry whoever’s here tell them to wait in the room until I leave” (nobody was here) & I told him you chose not to be here so you can set a schedule or ask me first… it’s like I mind you being a father then I don’t even wanna bother with it being treated that way when I’ve done nothing bad. I nurtured, provided put my needs last. I’d give anything not to be tired & tend to my home with my family.

[Nerdvana]

Why did you ever have a child with a man like this? I don't get it

[Fireguy17]

@Nerdvana sadly she probably believed him what he was saying etc before they had sex.

[Asker]

He was way different before the child. He had a job & more ambitious than I was. He was very sweet & helpful during my pregnancy but he did get pretty deep into drinking. But he definitely was a completely different man before. We were good friends before on & off since 15/16 years old.

[Nerdvana]

Did he start drinking after you got married?

[Asker]

He was just little like for fun but yeah after it got really bad. His boss told him to sober up & he can have his job back but it’s gotten way worse since. I didn’t want to say too much at first but he’s been bout 6 years clean from drugs so I don't know if it’s to fill the void

[Nerdvana]

How old is your child?

[Asker]

He just turned 1

[Nerdvana]

That's such a cute age.

[Asker]

Yeah he’s amazing! Lol his dad is a good dad just can’t seem to coparent. I understand mental health & that people change. But it’s hard coparenting with him when it doesn’t have to be.

[Nerdvana]

Can you pm?

[Fireguy17]

drinking does not help make things better.
Good luck!

[noohair]

So you picked him because he is a loser ot just a dig dick.

[Asker]

No I picked him because he wasn’t this way before

[noohair]

He had a job and took care of his child?

[Asker]

Yes, he was a good man before

[missindiana93]

Sounds like a straight up fucking lazy piece of shit.

[LiamJHayden]

Mulyiple baby mamas? Put him on child support and let the state deal with him.

[Anonymous]

Because his child's mother is pretty dumb, naive, or both.

[jahaims]

Because you let a moron dump loads in you

[Asker]

Before he dumped a load in me he wasn’t like this. You guys act like some people come with “warning” or “caution” tattooed on their forehead or something

[Jamie05rhs]

He's a lazy piece of shit!