Why do I keep having dreams about an ex?

[KittygosMeoWW]

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1 y

They’re not sex dreams just ones where we’re seeing each other or talking. This was an ex who was extremely abusive and narcissistic, I will never go back to him. I currently have a restraining order.

[ohsheeT]

I think in life when we really know ourselves and we've really understand ourselves and we become one with somebody there is a connection of energy energy is a very beautiful thing there is a clarity that comes with it

And when both people have this there is a connection that your energy will pick up on no matter where you are no matter who it is if there was a true Bond there there is a true connection still they're always will be doesn't mean that you have to be in love this is the way we're supposed to be with all people
But the way that we were raised or the way that we have been lied and cheated to through our society has changed our Outlook of things as a human

but we can all do this because we are all energy you just have to understand it but all it takes is him thinking about you sending his energy his vibes to you and you will pick up on it they're definitely is a reason for it
What reason I don't know that's something you guys would have to figure out or just let it go and one day it will come to you

That energy is a very beautiful thing and when you understand it there is a connection that comes with it because you are one myself one with others and one with this universe that's who we are all truly meant to be.

[scott04sa22]

There are several reasons why you might dream about an ex, including:

Unresolved feelings
You might be struggling with feelings from the relationship, such as rejection.

Past trauma
You might be replaying memories of a traumatic breakup or other traumatic events in your relationship.

Mourning
You might be grieving the loss of the relationship and the person in your life.

Seeking closure
You might be trying to resolve feelings about the relationship and find closure.

Subconscious wish
You might have a subconscious wish to reunite with your ex, or to have them want you back.

Processing trauma
You might be processing trauma from the relationship so you can move on to a new one.

However, dreaming about an ex doesn't necessarily mean that they are thinking about you. Dreams are a reflection of your own thoughts and subconscious feelings.

If you find that you're dreaming about an ex more often than you're comfortable with, you might want to consider talking to a professional.

[Beckybooboo]

I can definitely relate. After my last break up, I would have dreams about my ex too. Like you, it wasn't sexual. In one dream, we were on a bus and I had my head on his shoulder as he held me. We weren't even talking! When you once loved someone, it's not easy letting go and there's usually a lot of unresolved feelings. I think dreams help you get over it and in a way, help you get over the feeling of hatred you may have for them.

[rienna888]

It could be trauma. Do you still have feelings for this individual?

[KittygosMeoWW]

No….

[rienna888]

Yeah I think it’s trauma, I hope you’re okay. Please speak to somebody you trust or a therapist. You likely saw him often so your mind is trying to get rid of the memories

[KittygosMeoWW]

I have been seeing him around town lately I think that’s it

[Finchie40]

Because subconsciously he impacted your life and from what you said it sounds like he traumatized your life as well. Dreams usually occur from stored memory that we really don’t realize that we have stored in our brains. So if he was an asshole to you or treated you like shit , you might be subconsciously traumatized by him why you are having dreams about him , you are probably having dreams of him being what you wanted him to be , I had dreams of my ex toxic girlfriend s as well at times , and all of the dreams about them , were them being the way I wanted them to be but the reality of it they weren’t even close lol so you are best just to ignore those dreams about him and move on , in time you will forget about him and he won’t really mean shit to you anymore.

[ManOnFire]

If this was your last ex and one you broke up with not too long ago, then it's pretty normal to dream about them regularly. I did too. Now if it's an ex from years ago I wouldn't understand why, but I don't think it implies that you two will get back together.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Without additional context about the content of the dreams AND your overall state of mind then you get a generic answer: It is normal. Dreams about anything and anyone happen all the time, they don't mean anything special until you can connect that with your state of mind. But even then, that's just an interpretation, what really matters is your state of your mind.

[superchan2011]

Well the way I see it is if you really cared about your ex, that just means that you still miss them. At times I still dream of my ex because although I think I'm learning how to get through everyday without her I do still miss her.

[sawno]

Why do I keep having dreams I am still in middle school? Sometimes dreams are just about past experiences.

[Nikki1989]

You probably have unresolved emotions or memories.

[milfordbravo]

He was a part of your life he was a part of your mind and emotions you cannot turn it off like a switch. Your a great woman.

My pops crossed over in 2019, I did'nt know him that much as my other step siblings. I think have have more dreams of him then seen him in person.

[DrPepper12]

You didn't say if it was a recent X or a long time ago X. But it seems to me it's perfectly normal I still have my pop-up dreams about girls that I dated in middle school.

Enjoy the completely harmless entertainment your brain is providing!

[NathanDavis]

I do have those as well... from time to time, I don't give them any special significance though...

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Because he's on your mind a lot.

Maybe you remember the hopes you had when you started dating him, and you miss feeling that way, even though you know those hopes will never come true with this guy/.

[JesseP1nk]

Have you seen a psychiatrist? Maybe psychiatrist can help you figure it out. If i had to guess... I think you look for somekind of answer or closure to understand why he abused you like that. If i were you i would go visit a psychiatrist.

[FreyaRed]

You think much about him so your imaginations of him visit you in your dreams

[loveslongnails]

The trauma created patterns in your brain that haven't been broken yet. They're manifesting as dreams.

[exitseven]

Sometimes the subconscious mind still deals with certain events in unexpected ways.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Maybe you still love them?

[Still-alive]

I still sometimes have dreams about my ex and i want nothing to do with her. i wouldn't put any stock in it. they are an ex for a reason.

[Meropatrick]

Unresolved issues keep coming in ur dreams.

[9in_Serpent]

Because they were a part of your life simple as that

[Surely]

Possibly because your current situation is missing something that your ex provided.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I don't, but you probably do because they're on your mind like that.

[QuietRunner]

you may still have leftover feelings or desires for the ex

[beefcakebradybatson]

Are they good dreams (given his abuse, I can't imagine they would be !!!) or nightmares?

[RedInnocent69]

Still, you’re probably missing the D. Are they nightmares? I s he abusive in your dreams?

[CVNT5]

babe why dream of your ex when you can have meeeee💕💕💕💕😘

[avery58]

Maybe you haven't gotten closure

[cj72323]

You’re still attached to him? Still want to have sex w him?

[noohair]

Your brain is not done yet.

[Shihab_91]

You need a new relationship

[Friendlybro79]

This just happens sometimes.

[Alex-Snow]

Are the dreams sexual in nature?

[DextroShade]

You are alpha widowed.

[Anonymous]

You're probably still traumatized?

[Nerdvana]

Do you miss him? sex dreams?

[Staximus]

No gouda

[stratford]

Erotic dream?