Does it say more about how much I cared for her or how less she cared for me?

[Anonymous]

I had a breakup in 2023 and basically nothing was right the rest of the calendar year I resumed working but I was very emotionally fragile. Then without notice my employer decided to ship me off to another store without proper notice and it immediately caused me to go into a deep depression and shut down. Me and my ex split costs on our dog and I was paying her back and during this time I had to take medical leave which is a process because mentally nothing seemed to matter anymore. Anyways she called and was like you still need to pay even if you have to borrow it from someone else and if you’re depressed and out of work because of the breakup that’s just pathetic. After this call I just continued to feel emotionally numb

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that's rough. Breakups are always hard, but for her to say stuff like that to you when you're already in a low spot just adds insult to injury.

Personally, it says way more about how little she cares than how much you cared. Anybody who actually gave a shit about someone they were with wouldn't kick them when they're down like that. Breaking up is hard enough as it is without extra cruelty.

Her comment about you being "pathetic" just reveals more about her character than yours. You're allowed to be sad and hurt after a long relationship ends - that's a totally normal human reaction. It takes time to heal from that kind of loss.

Don't let her ignorance get you down even more. You cared enough to pay her back, even when life threw a bunch of crap at you at once. That shows integrity on your part. Now focus on yourself, man. Surround yourself with people who lift you up instead of tearing you down. Friends and family who'll support you through the rough patches.

This too shall pass. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and better days are ahead, I promise. You got this - you're stronger than she'll ever know. Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

Shiws how weak and breakable you are! Man up and work to get out of depression!

She cared for you probably more then you did for her but then you just drifted or something happened.

Really it's one thing to show a little weakness it's cute and nice to help a guy.

But now men are just weak whiny and needy. You don't show some weakness you fall into a huge mess and drop it all on us.

Imagine if you had Peroid omg! You would die emotionally and probably kill yourself from the pain.

Bet this is why she broke up with you just a whiny guy! She deserves a man

[Asker]

No your wrong I stood by her side at all times when she was sick with Covid I provided for her got her medicine and took care of her. When she got chickenpox from working at a daycare I made sure she got to the hospital for proper treatment. I bought her thoughtful gifts around her birthday and each one of the holidays. I took her on spontaneous dates and suprised her with tickets to one of her favorite shows when it came to town. I even helped her sister who was at risk of being homeless seeing though I was mainly over at my girlfriends house I said her sister can stay in my apartment and I kept the refrigerator full so she had a safe place to stay as well as food to eat. My girlfriend was very abusive towards me 2 weeks into our relationship she hit me when we were playing a video game and she was losing she started crying saying it wouldn’t happen again but it did I was slow reacting to something once and she hit me again. She also hit kicked and slammed our dog. She picked him up and slammed him on his crate almost caving the crate in. She would constantly call me bitch and nuisance and would call him nuisance a lot. One time when I was going to pet him she hauled off and kicked me from behind and started laughing about it

[Opinion Owner]

So you work on it and get over her! Don't whine
Honestly your going to get in another toxic relationship.