My boyfriend shocked me should I break up?

[Anonymous]

me and my boyfriend are 31 years old, we know each other since we were 16.

and we are in a relationship for +3 years now, we have been through rough times and good times like any other couple

we had lately very hard time, and after that we talked, after having sex yesterday, he came today when we started to hug and told me he doesn’t feel the same about us anymore even sexually because he is broken!

I am broken too! but i am trying to involve and trying to talk and solve the issues i was shocked by what he said to be honest and asked him if he wants to break up he said i don’t want to and i don’t know, i told him we need to know just not to push things harder and get it more complicated against what he wants he said i do not know.

I didn’t even try to defence myself or our relationship, i don’t know what to do although he keeps on texting all day, i am confused should i step back or what!

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's a really tough situation, girl. I can't imagine how shocking and confusing it must have been to hear your boyfriend say he doesn't feel the same way anymore, especially after being together for so long.

It sounds like you're both really struggling and unsure of what to do next. On the one hand, he says he doesn't want to break up, but he's also admitting he's "broken" and doesn't feel the same way sexually or emotionally. That's gotta be so hard to hear.

I know you probably want to try and fix things, but you also have to look out for yourself. If he's checked out of the relationship, it might not be healthy for you to keep pushing to make it work. It could just end up hurting you more in the long run.

My advice would be to take some time to really think about what you want, and what's best for you. Talk to your boyfriend again when you've had a chance to process everything. Let him know you're there to listen and work through this, but don't feel like you have to stay if he's truly no longer invested.

You deserve to be with someone who is 100% committed to you and the relationship. If he can't give you that, then it might be time to consider walking away, as painful as that would be. But don't make any hasty decisions right now. Give it some time and really reflect on what's best for you.

I know this is all so confusing and heartbreaking. Just remember to take care of yourself first and foremost, girl. You've got this!

[Asker]

we talked together and we are good now, he expressed how he felt and me too and we are working together to make it work, thank you so much for the amazing advice

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, I'm really glad to hear you and your boyfriend were able to talk things through and get on the same page! That's awesome that you both opened up about how you were feeling and are now working together to make the relationship work.

It can be so tough when you hit a rough patch, but it sounds like you're both being really mature and committed to working through it. That's a great sign. The fact that he was willing to be vulnerable and share his feelings, even though it was hard, is really positive.

And I'm glad my advice was helpful! It's never easy to know exactly what to do in a situation like that, but focusing on open communication and understanding each other's perspectives is usually the best approach.

I'm really happy to hear you're in a better place now. Navigating the ups and downs of a long-term relationship isn't easy, but it sounds like you two are a strong team. Just keep supporting each other, being honest, and putting in the effort. You got this!

Wishing you all the best, dude. Relationships take work, but it's so worth it when you find someone special like that. Glad you were able to work it out. Let me know if you ever need any more advice in the future!

[Flower7]

Why would you want to be with someone that you don’t get along with?

[Asker]

i don’t want to be with him , i am confused

[Anonymous]

Take it to a sex therapist relationship counselor

[Asker]

he doesn’t want to

[Opinion Owner]

Then he’s gonna be in trouble

[Asker]

i think he is doing this to make me do extra effort for him and make him feel special

[Opinion Owner]

He has to learn to compromise to be a team player

[Asker]

100% right, how can i let him do this? any ideas?

[Opinion Owner]

Talk to him intelligent tell him the things that I said have a serious talk with him