I feel like I'm being toyed with, emotionally.
Of course, by my ex girlfriend.
She will say one thing and her action is will back it up, but then other times she'll say hurtful things or things that don't make sense based on her actions...
So she'll tell me its so easy to love me and be around me, then we'll cuddle and go out together, do boyfriend/girlfriend stuff...
Then when I get attached again and open up and tell her, she'll tell me that she doesn't want to date me and I need to get over the fact that she loves me but isn't in love with me anymore, that she's too busy to think about trying right now because of all the stress in her life with work and school...then she'll go and do everything a person who is in love with someone else would do. Go out of their way to help me out when I'm busy even if she is busy, send me smiley faces with hearts attached to a text. Hang out with me whenever she has time. Call to just say hi and ask if I want to hang out an cuddle later or go on a walk and hold hands...
I've read some similar posts, tried to find my answer but I can't seem to figure this out.
What is she doing, why do her actions show so much but then when I show it back does she contradict her actions?
we both ahve seen other people, went on dates, dated, etc. Its been a little over a year since we have broken up and I'm just so confused I don't know what to do. Do I back off a little, leave things at her pace? let her decide when she needs time with me? I want to marry her, I really do, I've told her this and she usually doesn't know how to respond because of our past, which involved trust issues, communication issues, but since then we've both become more mature and know what we want. She tells me what she wants and that if we were the only two people in the world we would be perfect for each other. Is she still held in the past? is that why she is scared of the truth?
How can I get her to see the bigger picture, I know she loves me, her actions show it...but when she says she isn't in love with me, I just don't get it...seriously all her actions point towards her not wanting me to be with anyone else but her...she even told me to go see other people at the end of ourrelationship and when I did she got upset about it and said she wants me to be happy but doesn't want to see me with anyone else...i want her back, I want to show her we can work...if anyone has been through this and feel like messaging me and helping me out, please any advice will do. I'm so confused and lost...i cannot do without her in my life, I'm in love with her! (btw my ex isn't the one in my pic lol)
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If you truly want her to realize that she wants to be with you, then leave completely. That means no contact, no nothing. Drop off the face of the earth completely in her eyes. It will force her to feel the lost. HOWEVER, be warn that you need to have a lot of patience because it might take time and it can backfire on you. It can make her realize that she doesn't need you as well. Either way, you need some time to yourself and the only way to do that is to cut her off. Regardless of what might happen in the future, you need to start thinking about you now and take some time to process your thougths and emotions. It will be good for you.1