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Now me and my ex broke up like 10 months ago from today. And we had 8 months of good relationship. But I just find myself suddenly having nostalgia about her. Since today is the last day of 2024 and its gonna be new year. Makes me just realize that, she's not here anymore. While on 2023, I enjoyed a lot of moments with her during the 2023 to 2024 new year. While she was verbally abusive and never knew how to kept promises and she had some male attention issues. She bought me a cake on my bday and everything was okay. She called me controlling since I suggested her to take her brother with her if she is going somewhere since I dont want her to have creeps following her around. If she didn't broke up w me. Probably we would be planning for marriage soon or an engagement. Sometimes I just feel like she's my soulmate.
We broke up due to mutual issues. She had her own bad doings. And I had mine.
Although I rejected her offer to friendship since at that time I was on a worse state of health.
I just dont feel the hopes of finding someone who can just... make me feel the same again.
I saw a new dp of her on socials, since scrolling.
And she was looking beautiful.. although I remind myself about her harsh words..
My heart is stubborn.
Any suggestions or help?
We broke up due to mutual issues. She had her own bad doings. And I had mine.
Although I rejected her offer to friendship since at that time I was on a worse state of health.
I just dont feel the hopes of finding someone who can just... make me feel the same again.
I saw a new dp of her on socials, since scrolling.
And she was looking beautiful.. although I remind myself about her harsh words..
My heart is stubborn.
Any suggestions or help?
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Aw man, I can totally see why you're still feeling all those emotions about your ex, even 10 months later. That's gotta be a tough spot to be in, especially with the new year coming up and all the memories flooding back.
I get it, it's hard to let go of that feeling that someone was your "soulmate", even if the relationship had a lot of issues. When you connect with someone on that deep of a level, it can leave a lasting impact, no matter how messy things got.
And seeing her living her life, looking happy and beautiful, while you're still struggling with the heartbreak - that's gotta sting. Your heart just wants that comfort and connection back, even if your head knows it wasn't the healthiest thing.
The best advice I can give is to try to focus on healing yourself first. I know it's not easy, but the more you can work on moving forward and building your own life, the easier it'll be to let go of that nostalgia. Maybe try picking up a new hobby, spending time with supportive friends, or even talking to a counselor.
It's okay to still have those feelings pop up sometimes. Grieving a relationship, even a toxic one, takes time. But don't let them consume you, you know? Remind yourself of all the reasons it didn't work out, and how much better off you are without that drama in your life.
The right person is out there for you, I promise. But you gotta make sure you're in a good place first. Focus on self-care, self-love, and finding your own happiness. When you're ready, the new connection will come. In the meantime, be patient with yourself. You got this, dude.
lol u contradicting yourself. U rejected her friendship? But she’s your soulmate? But u wanna marry her
Honestly I am having a mixed feelings.
Mixed feelings about?
Yk the love and confusion if I would find love again or not.
U see her as a friend ig. U like how she made u feel. Not her
Yes exactly,
I dont really want her back. But I miss the love I felt.
Verbal abuse in a relationship is crazy which gives invisible scars and even traumas.
I ain't want that again.
So what’s the problem
Yes but that feeling of "nostalgic about love" can't be really avoided to not give you a heartbreak.
How does she look
On a honest thing, I value personality over face.
I dont love to go to bed.
But, love to end to a marriage.
So its hard for me.
How do u both look. U don’t find her absolutely gorgeous. If u did. U wouldn’t use her as an emotional supply
"Emotional Supply"?
Hm? Wdym?
Emotional supply is being with someone because they make u feel good and boost your ego , rather than being with them because u like them
she's my "ex" and she broke up w me not me.
And this isn't a "crush crush" thingy. That I rejected her friendship.
How do u both look
I am ugly[IMO] and I don't know about hers.
As I said, I wasn't dating her because of her looks.
Probably she was dating me for looks. Atlast I found out she was running on male attention and was hanging out with her male friend even hurting me never said sorry. So, after breakup I found her cuddling him. I was like wow. I got used as attention?
Why do u think u are ugly? Your heights? Weights?
Well,
I wear glasses and I may look like a nerd.
But I have a green flag personality for myself.
I am 6 as height and my weight I haven't checked yet.
And her?
Why do u think u are ugky
Ehh, she's a philipino girl.
Her personality is like in this ratio
80% good : 20% Worse [Verbal Abuse]
Maybe, I am just insecure of myself.
Nowadays woman want guys who dress as anime boys.
Kinda seperates me from rest.
How does she look?
she's beautiful?
Thats how I can describe that.
Her height weight hair?
Height maybe 5,7
Weight? I never ask or generally dont ask.
Hair? Eh.. wolf cut?
Why does that matter tho
How do u look? Why do u think u are ugly? Are u black and she white
I am white she's white. My looks are above.
Are u bald?
Nopee
How do u dress
U are 6 feet not 5,6 wuss. U are definitely not ugly
I dress casual not emo guy.
Her?
She dress same, sometimes using makeup and concious about her looks.
What kind of body type u like in girls
Anything I dont really have a problem.
U don’t sound like a 6foot guy
U sound like a 5,5 wuss
Does the body really matter?
Why does looks has to be first priority? When personality is expensive.
Personality is not real or tangible short guy. Character , looks , family background is solid , and tangible
Hmm, so personality can't be real?
If loving is a personality and so caring. Does those two can't be felt mentally?
Personality changes everyday. It’s fake shit that people pretend to be
I dont think so,
I know that people change.
But dating someone for their looks.
When we will be old the looks will not be the same.
lol 😂, that’s why u date people for superior genetics. Beautiful facial structure , height , skin color , family background
U sound like a short guy tbh
That also means that dating someone for looks is just a red flag. There is always a beautiful person so I keep changing girlfriend's?
There’s always a better personality
Oh.. well genz cheating is much better than finding a rare green flag?