Separation. I'm facing up to it. Is there a recommended process?

[Anonymous]

I'm sleeping separately from wife for most of two years. Two children, who will finish college in two years and one year

We discussed how to separate before and she agreed to move out, and I give her money to buy a house (I lived here before I met her)

What steps should I consider/follow to make things work smoothly


by the way, what seals it for me after two years I like her even less
I mean I dislike her to the point I can't consider hugging/kissing her

I find it scary separating. I feel cruel telling her I'm selling up assets to give her cash and she must move out. And she may not want to move out.

My family stuff... Should I invite her to those things? My niece getting married for example.

[Anonymous]

Do u understand by separating you might lose your relationship with your children?

[Asker]

Why you say that

[Opinion Owner]

lol that’s how it is

[Asker]

Children will live with me
Lol

[Opinion Owner]

They can chose their mom. Most of the times they do. Moms are more important for a child. You would be losing your family if u separate.

[Asker]

The children are 20 and 21

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah , ik it seems like they are grown up. But they would no be happy if u separate and marry or date other women. U would lose the family u built

[Asker]

Okay I agree with that
It's a loss of the family unit
Kinda ruins everything
I agree

[Asker]

And your right
I built it
More than anyone else
(My wife for example)

[Staximus]

Does she have a job?

[Staximus]

I would advise you to speak to a divorce attorney before doing anything if you think things are going to get messy financially or otherwise