Does the conversation between my partner and his ex count as cheating or not?

[Anonymous]

I would like to know your opinions.

This is their text to each other on ig a few weeks after we started dating in 2022 and it's not originally in English so I had to translate it into English by using Google translate , so sorry if the translation is flawed. But, I hope you guys can understand the context.

He basically texted her to resolve conflicts he had with her. He said he needed to resolve whatever he had with her in order to move forward with our connection.

He was feeling heartbroken because she had been close with someone else without his knowledge before he and I got together.

He basically just asked to meet her alone even though she initially said wanted to bring someone to meet him

After a few months, I told him to unfollow her on ig. And he said he needed to tell her about it even though I didn't consent.

I want to know if what he did was count as emotional cheating or not because he said his intention to meet up with her at the start of our relationship was asking for 'closure'. I also asked him to unfollow her on ig which eventually leads to him texting her again even though I already told him not to. What's your opinion on this?

[DreamCrescent]

Hi, girlie


i don’t think anyone can answer your question whether the conversation you translated is considered an “emotional affair”. the definition of an emotional affair is ambiguous and only the people partaking in one knowingly would be able to tell you they are cheating ( if they’re being honest”


however, there is some unfinished business between your partner and someone else. that much is clear and you can see that.


he’s reached out to her, he won’t unfollow her despite your request because he worries about her feelings, and she hasn’t shut him down. it’s not looking good


two ways to go about this:
1. a direct conversation with him to understand where his head is at. you’ll need a deep connection and a high sense of trust for this to go well
2. in the absence of trust and open communication between you two (which may i remind you: he went behind your back to his ex and you went digging in his messages behind his back), maybe acknowledge the shortcomings in your relationship and decide whether to improve it or throw in the towel


good luck

[strateguy632]

Despite intimate words, that is far from cheating.

[Nikki1989]

Of course not.

[Asker]

Can you please explain why?

[Anonymous]

Seems like he might not be over her

[Amy_2000]

Dont think so