Should I tell off my cheating ex?

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My ex and I dated for 7 months last year. We ended our relationship in November and after the break up I went no contact for 3 months. When we were dating we hadn’t had each other on social media and in February he found me on instagram and sent me a friend request. Here’s the thing this is from his business profile (no pictures of him on the profile). I added him and he told me that it was his only profile. He asked to hang out and catch up. We agreed to remain friends and met up for dinner. Then we kept in touch here and there sending each other memes on instagram or just checking in. The last time we spoke was on 4/20. Yesterday I was being snoopy and going through his following list. I found a girl’s profile with pictures of him. And he was tagged under a different profile that he lied about not having. Apparently he had a long term girlfriend this entire time. And she’s 4 months pregnant. He was dating me while in a long term relationship. I messaged her on instagram with all the evidence I have. Since I do not follow her the DM sent as a request. I have no idea if she’s seen it as she has not replied. She can technically open it and view it and without clicking accept I have no way of knowing if she saw it. I’m worried she’ll never even see it. Part of me is also extremely upset that we hung out recently while he has a pregnant girlfriend. We were also being intimate and he was putting me and her at risk. And if he was with both of us who knows who else he’s also been with. I’m disgusted by him and I never expected something like this from him. I’m not sure if his girlfriend will ever see the message and confront him so part of me wants to message him to tell him off and let him know I told his girlfriend. Part of me wants to be the bigger person and walk away from everything without confronting him. I’ve already removed him off Insta but I still have his number. Any recommendations on what I should do? I greatly appreciate any advice!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Wooowww, I’d be pissed myself too. It's understandable that you're feeling hurt, upset, and betrayed by your ex's actions. However, before you decide to confront him, it's important to consider your motivations and the potential consequences of your actions.

While you may feel a sense of satisfaction from telling him off or letting him know that you informed his girlfriend, it's possible that this could escalate the situation and potentially cause more harm than good. It's also important to remember that his actions are his responsibility, and it's not your job to punish or confront him for his behavior.

Instead, focus on prioritizing your own well-being and healing from the pain of the betrayal. It may be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist, and to engage in self-care activities that bring you comfort and joy.

If you have concerns about your own health or safety, such as if you were intimate with your ex while he was seeing someone else, it may be important to seek medical attention and consider getting tested for STIs.

The decision of what to do is up to you, but it's important to approach the situation with caution and prioritize your own well-being and safety above all else.

Iron_Man · Accepted Answer

Look for a guy in church from now on it’s up to you what you want to do with the girl telling her or not

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Absolutely confront him. But dont worry about the girl. You did your part and its up to her if she looks at the evidence or not

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Tell him how you feel to get it out of your system but move on after that. He is not worth it.

RavVid · Answer

Scumbags need to be scummed in my view.

In_Trance · Answer

That makes you the toxic one

slatyb · Answer

No, you should move on.

shades777 · Answer

what will it solve is a better question

Kat1234561 · Answer

You deserve better forget him

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