Should I tell my ex I know she cheated?

[tinnyflipper]

We broke up for seemingly other reasons, but now I feel like she made them up because she was feeling guilty. I found out through a friend that she had been cheating on me. We haven't talked since the breakup and I'm wondering if I should write her a letter telling her that I know? I don't want her to think that I care... just that I know and I'm disappointed.

Yes tell her with a letter

Yes but tell her some other way

No don't tell her at all

Updates

+1 y

Thanks for everyone's opinions. We had already planned to meet up to swap our stuff so I gave her a letter then. It basically just said I know what you did and I'm disappointed. Short and to the point. No emotion. 3 hours later she texted me asking who told me and then another text saying never mind. I have been in NC ever since. We'll see if she comes crawling back but I kinda doubt it at this point

[MrLi0n]

It wouldn't serve any point to contact her just to tell her you know she cheated, what would it change if you guys are already over with? If she contacts you and tries to get back together than tell her you know she cheated but if you go out of your way and contact her just to be like.. " hey by the way I found out you cheated on me and that's messed up" your just starting a fight. She's mostlikely going to deny it until you provide proof or somthin. You should've said somethin whenvyou two were still dating. That's like buy new rims after your car was stolen lol!

[Michael6084]

Your relationship is over so technically so there's no reason to bring it up.

Let's day you did bring it up anyway: you would gain nothing from it and she could twist your words against you. Then you end up feeling more like shit because you possibly could feel guilty for something she ended up doing.

I say the damage has already been done. She knows she's wrong for it - that's why she broke up with you. Walking away from it means you're the bigger person who didn't lose your self-respect.

[AnissiaXO]

definitely talk to her about it! randomly bring it up with some facts in a convo... no denying to your face for sure

[Anonymous]

I think face to face would be best. Or over the phone, text so you can get a reply.

[Dansexual]

I would slut shame that bitch. A guy I know from my town made up about 500 posters with his girlfriends face, a warning sign about how she is a cheat and has warts around her anus. They were pasted alllll over town lmao. I think she had to move away in the end.

[haha1234]

You guys broke up. Just leave it. Unless you wanna have revenge or something. then rub it in her face. If you didn't wanna acomplish anything and just want her to know... i would say just leave it.

[swlego416]

I really don't see why you feel the need to tell her. You're just going to make the situation worse. Who cares if you know or not, she certainly won't.

[djdave]

of course you should. if you have any self pride or dignity. and tell her to her face so u can see her reaction. ps. its proven girls cheat more than guys do. google search that

[pionneer]

why. to what purpose and to achieve what.

what is done is done.

get on with your life, and let her get on with hers.

[Dissonance]

If you feel you need to get it off your chest go ahead, you deserve that much.

[oldanddecrepid]

Why bother... that ship's sailed... let the sleeping dog lie (literally) hahaha

[Anonymous]

Wait until the day she inevitably comes crawling back after the new guy fucks her over. Then you can say, I know what you are and I know what you did. You are useless scum and you got what you deserved. Then walk away.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Karma is a bitch, if she screwed you over trust me something or SOMEONE will do it to her and she'll say something to you. And that's all you'll ever need to know or hear.

[Anonymous]

Dudeeeee come on. You have to do something better than a letter. You have to rub it in her face. Now that you know it was a whole lie.

[tinnyflipper]

If I do that she'll know she somehow meant something to me. I've learned from experience that making the girl think she meant nothing is the best way to handle this situation.

[Opinion Owner]

You have a point. But my counter argument would be that only works if you were in a very short relationship. If you spent a year with her she obviously meant something to you.

[tinnyflipper]

That's true. We were together for 2.5 months... so I think that was pretty short term.

[Opinion Owner]

You know what I would do. Maybe text her, call her or do it in person, but I would say to her. I need to know something. Did you lie at all in our relationship? Now she has to make a choice either tell you she cheated or continue to lie about it. Then if she asks why tell you know that she cheated and you were trying to see what kind of person she really is and now you know.

[tinnyflipper]

Yeah, I've thought about that. Funny thing is that she already texted me yesterday saying that I deserved to be treated with honesty and respect when we broke up. So she's just going to continue to lie about it.

[Opinion Owner]

You should be reply back yeah I should I just wished you would of told me the true story

[moxygirl11]

What would be the point?

[Anonymous]

If she knows you're dissapointed then she'll think you care.

[THEYcallMEh]

yes, but not in an angry way.

[smithstarrr]

get her back first!