How to get into a new relationship after being dumped?

[Anonymous]

I was dumped by a girl that I was deeply in love with about a year ago, and I’ve been struggling to get back into the market. I’ve been depressed. I’ve been sad, but I never stopped handling business. I continued to work out go to the gym. Take care of myself dominating my career. ETC. But I am 24 and I feel like I’m running out of time if I don’t get into a relationship soon, I’m gonna be alone forever. How did you break out of your depressive state after being dumped and get into a new relationship this is what I’m having trouble with.

[Finchie40]

Put yourself out there , and start showing interest in Girls’ that you find beautiful to your eyes , and don’t rush into anything with any of them right away. just be friendly and hang out with them like
You do your buddies , you don’t have to put a label on it whatsoever , just be yourself and be honest that you are taking the slow road and want to take your time Getting to know someone as friends first that could possibly lead to more. Most girls’ I meet don’t seem to mind it because they aren’t feeling rushed as well. When you are single you can hang out with whoever you want to just don’t blow smoke up girls’ asses because it will eventually backfire on you , Honesty and communication is key to finding a match , or a good friend, so it’s ok if you hang out with 5 different girls’ if you choose to , you don’t have to label anything with the first Girl you meet , I been meeting different girls’ every week and I treat them the same way I want to be treated in return with honesty and respect , once I feel I really know one of them and feel closer to one of them , then I might take it to the next level , but right now they are just friends to me, because I don’t want to end up with a bad seed ever again. You will know when you really like someone and really want to be with someone when ypu can’t get them off of your mind , that’s the girl you take to the next level

[Smart_Monk]

Not only does the "I'm 24 and running out of time" ranting make men sound like castrated pussies, but to think that way in the first place you also have to view relationships as transactions with deadlines. Which makes you a prostitute. Doubles with the "dominating my career" remark that sounds really fake anyway. Which means most any women you'll ever catch will also be metaphorical prostitutes in the mind who view relationships as transactions, as long as you do so too.

Continue to ask yourself "what do i offer to women, aside from money?" But even with the money aside, you're likely still viewing it as a transaction and the whole stupid "dating marketplace" to win in. Then ask yourself "what do i have that makes a woman happy, if she were to choose me anyway?" That sounds less transactional.

[Abbycado]

Much like your last post on the subject, my situation (as is everyone's) is a little different. I started school at a huge university. It was easy to move on and start over with all the things that go on at a huge campus.

I quickly met someone that I have been with for 1.5 years now. Right place, right time. You have to put yourself out there tho.

[MontBlanc]

Don’t rush into something new just to numb the breakup.

Heal first.
Get clear on what happened.
Rebuild your rhythm.

Start dating when you feel curious, not lonely.

New love should feel aligned, not like a distraction.

[Nikki1989]

Just remember that your value isn't defined by someone else’s decision to leave; it's defined by how you choose to move forward, and meeting new people is easy. I meet someone new most days of the week without even trying.

[MrChinaski]

Men's dating capital peaks in their late 20s and early 30s. Far from declining, you still have years of improvement ahead of you.

[Shy-boy53]

I know exactly how you are thinking, I’m in exactly the same boat. It’s very daunting isn’t it

[exitseven]

get back on the horse. Get out there and look around for somebody else.

[Anonymous]

Why did u break up then

[Asker]

I was just really stupid and I self sabotage the whole thing. She was in love with me and she did all types of stuff to make it work and I just ruined it. I’ll be honest I was insecure and stupid. I feel like I was just young and inexperienced.

[Opinion Owner]

What? How did u ruin it?

[Asker]

For starters, I didn’t like her family. Like when she brought me home to meet her family, I was a little disrespectful. I didn’t want her to meet my family. I was never really serious when we were talking about having babies. She would always try getting me to say our kids, but I would always say my kids. I would never say I love you. I would always say love you. I didn’t really care for her friends I was pretty uninterested. I yelled at her. I just started fights and arguments and made her think that I didn’t love her. I had to get pissed off at her for no reason I made her feel like she was responsible for how I feel. I tried breaking up with her on her birthday.

I don’t really think I did that much I think I was just insecure

[Opinion Owner]

U don’t think u did much 🤣🤣🤣🤣. U never loved her

[Asker]

Then why did it hurt so much when I lost her? This was like my first serious relationship. I believed that I was in love with her. She got me to be so sweet and so vulnerable and so lovely I’ve never ever tapped into that side of myself before it was all just so new and weird.

[Opinion Owner]

U just like being loved. But u never loved her

[Asker]

I don’t understand. I was really sad when I lost her. I felt a pain in my chest a sharp stabbing pain. I was genuinely sad. And I still think about her every day and it’s been like a year since we’ve spoken. I think I was in love with her.

[Opinion Owner]

lol 😂 no u don’t love her

[Imjustagirl1520]

@Asker yeah thats ur own damn fault lmao, if u keep a mindset like that you will be alone forever

[Asker]

I think I was just really inexperienced and didn’t like feeling vulnerable and lovey. I was in love with her, it was the first time I ever felt that way and I’m just used to feeling nothing. I learned a lot and I wish it could be different and we could try again one day but there’s no telling. All I know is this experience taught me aloe about myself and how to be ready for my next one. I can assure you I will not make the same mistakes again.