I met someone new but my recent breakup is too fresh. what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So basically I just got out of a 3.5 relationship. It’s only been less then 3 months since the breakup but I’m having trouble moving on. Well I ended up meeting a girl a month after the breakup on complete accident. Wasn’t even looking for anyone she just kind of came into my life which is great. She understands the position I’m currently in but is sticking around for me. I told her I don’t want to promise her that I’ll be ready anytime soon but also don’t want to use her and waste her time. She said that she is fine with it. We’ve been getting a little too close. Been getting very intimate with each other and we talk and hang almost daily. I do like her a lot but I’m scared I will hurt her if we continue. Because at this point I’m still not completely over my ex. We have been in contact almost daily and I know that if one day she wants me back I will drop everything to be with her. I’m currently doing no contact, been going on for a week now but now my new girl just mentioned that she thinks I’m using her and that she doesn’t know where this is going when clearly we have already talked about it. At the end of the day I just want some clarity, should I wait, heal first and potentially lose her or should I tell her I want to take the next step and make it official because who knows maybe she’ll make me forget my last.

[Anonymous]

I remember my brother was in this situation and the girl was so damn good to him. He ran off calling himself getting into another relationship to forget her but it just reminded him that there’s no other like her. he kept trying to find other women like her but it taught him that his decisions were wrong. My brother married his girl. It took a look time for his ex to forgive him too. I remember he had people helping him get the girl back because he cheated. Men need to learn their hearts and brains totally different.

[Anonymous]

It's not this new girl it's not your ex , it's you , you make yourself like her toy when you say I know that if one day she wants me back I will drop everything to be with her. You won't success in other relationship if you have this mind set have boundaries and man up have more value why the hell you would run to her if she says she wants back? I think you agree she's not single and probably she was monkey branching.

Upgrade yourself hit the gym stick to what makes you happy and do your hobbies be high value I think it's not that easy but it's possible. Most of us being there I know it's tough but we have to stand strong. If you still want to run to your ex leave this girl. She will definitely help you forget your ex but it's in your hand take the damn real step wipe everything connect you with her. Take the red 💊

Best wishes

[Asker]

I guess it’s more of a guilt I have. We were on and off throughout our relationship because of me. She would always chase me and man have the tables turned. Now I can’t seem to get her off my mind and she obviously noticed because she had been breadcrumming me for a while. But because I knew we were always on and off I guess a part of me feels it will happen again

[Opinion Owner]

That's another case if you was there on or off I personally think if she's still have no one on side she will back. I was close to this situation but she did monkeying unfortunately. I highly believe both of you will break up again even if you got back

[In_Trance]

chill