He broke up with me about 2 in a half months ago. I was so hurt and he was a total d*ck about the whole thing. He told me to never call or speak to him again, yet he continued to call me the entire time. There were even times were he called me to tell me that I had better not be dating other guys or he called me to tell me how much he spent on his current gf.
Any who he called me this morning at 12am crying like a complete baby. He could barely get his words out. He told me how he was very sorry for how he treated me. Now most of his call consisted of him talking about how the new girlfriend dumped him and how he wants her back and is so upset.
He talked about how he had not ate in 3 day or even slept because he was so upset. I am just very confused as to why he'd call his Ex of all people. Especially after treating me so badly during the initial break up. He says that he is so in love with this girl but they've only been together for about 3 months and during that entire time he has called me. He also apologized for being a total D*ck etc. I mean he went from the very beginning to the end about our relationship and why he broke up with me etc.
What's going on here? Am I reading into this too much? I just think it's odd that he'd contact ME?
Any who he called me this morning at 12am crying like a complete baby. He could barely get his words out. He told me how he was very sorry for how he treated me. Now most of his call consisted of him talking about how the new girlfriend dumped him and how he wants her back and is so upset.
He talked about how he had not ate in 3 day or even slept because he was so upset. I am just very confused as to why he'd call his Ex of all people. Especially after treating me so badly during the initial break up. He says that he is so in love with this girl but they've only been together for about 3 months and during that entire time he has called me. He also apologized for being a total D*ck etc. I mean he went from the very beginning to the end about our relationship and why he broke up with me etc.
What's going on here? Am I reading into this too much? I just think it's odd that he'd contact ME?
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Get this... He just called me 5 min. ago telling me that he is going to the girl's house who dumped. He said that even if he found another man that he'd still take her back. Why in the h*ll does he feel the need to give this info. to me?
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Well yes it's odd, probably only because these kinds of revelations are rare. The odds are when he broke up with you way back when, he was still very protective and controlling of you, so any contact had to be on his terms and you had to be a, in his mind, virgin maiden for him forever. It isn't that uncommon for this to happen I believe. Usually this means when he broke up with you he still had some feelings, and by being an asshole he hoped to cover that up.
Something happened that snapped him, and he broke down. It sounds like he can't keep lying to himself anymore about how he acts or how he feels, and you might be the only one he had to tell.
Your answer is very good, but I am still confused as to why he'd call me about the girl who broke up with him. I am so glad that he finally apologized to me and that gave me so much closer, but calling your ex girlfriend about the girl who you dumped her for seems a bit far fetched t me.
Like I said, you might've been the only one he felt close enough to do it to. Part of him needed to apologize to you, and part of him was comfortable with letting loose with you.
I def. see what you are saying. I also would like to ask you this. Now from the way he behaves he seems like he was really in love with the other girl.... but why is it the was calling me the entire time they were together. He would call to tell me how much he spent on her, and call to check on me, called me for Thanksgiving. In other words he has been calling the entire time, and 2 wks ago. he wanted to get back together but didn't feel that he did anything. what's your take on that?
It sounds like he was trying to make you jealous.
I think it's time you ask him why he keeps doing this.
I don't believe that he likes me because if he did why would he be calling me in the early morning hrs. to talk about the other girl. On top of that, he only dated her for 2 months, he lost his virginity to her and then she left him. Odd thing is that while they were together, he called me and asked if I'd give him another chance. That was only Dec. 8th and him and I broke up on Oct 25th or 26. During our "break up" he still contacted me. I am still confused.
This entire situation is difficult and convoluted, you really need to talk to him about this because at this point my advice can go either way. There's too many possibilities at this point.
I did ask him and he says that he is just playing but he continues to bring it up. I don't kno what his problem is. He's 21 and acts like a little child, and on top of that I told him that it bothers me when he is always talking about the 'other girl.' Yet he continues to do it. I am just going to cut off contact. I seriously thought he had changed but he's doing the same thing all over again.
Alright. Tell him the situation, how you feel, and do what you feel is right. I think cutting off contact is alright, just give him a heads up.
He probably felt closest to you out of all people. He sounds like a complete jerk with absolutely no feeling to how you might take this. It sounds like my asshole ex bf. He would call me after he dumped me because he couldn't sleep or because he almost got into a car accident. I asked him why he still calls and its because he said I was the only one that cared. Maybe your ex thinks you care about him. Don't pick up his phoen calls. He sounds like he's a guy whose heartless and selfish. Karma sucks.. he probably got dumped for dumping you. HAha. Be strong! You deserve better!
I think he wants you take him back. He doesn't have a moral right to ask you out right now so he wants you to ask him out... He is hoping that you still have feelings for him, and that you will volunteer to be his girlfriend again. Either that or he wants validation that he is still worth something even though the girl he likes is not interested in him.