How do I move on after putting so much effort into a girl and it fell apart?

[Anonymous]

too long to explain everything but liked this girl and felt like i had a genuine connection with her but things like just got weird and left with more questions than answers now and really upset to be honest.

i'm not sure how to move forward and maybe its my fault as like maybe it was not a realistic option to begin with even though we seemed to get along and knew each other in real life.

[NathanDavis]

you knew it was not realistic...

so, that's how... just be realistic, and move on

if things were "weird" then you didn't put effor into that either

if you two broke up... was for few reasons as well and not "just because"

[Asker]

we still had such a great connection , someone i could of seen keeping around for a long time

there was another girl i wanted to date more but she wasn't very realistic either and i mostly only saw her at her work this restaurant , i actually saw her today and we got along better than earlier in summer but she only works there for summer than returns to other things

[NathanDavis]

what you you said just now...

screams "me, me, me, me, me"

it was all in your head... so be realistic, and just move on

[Asker]

she seemed ok with the friendship , but looking back maybe there was not clarity as to if we were just friends or if there was option for more.

i've tried to make sense of things but a week or so later still no closer to doing so , i'd agree if this happened to most people they would just move on. have some leads of other things to do Friday night so won't go into her work to try and see her but not even sure she's still here anyways , had talked about going off to school or might be on a trip

[exitseven]

This is the way it is. It does not matter how much time and effort you put into a relationship. Sometimes it just does not work.

[Asker]

i really liked her and just not able to really make sense of this now

[exitseven]

I hate to tell you but you will probably never be able to make sense of it. It will be a festering sore for the rest of your life.

[Asker]

know was another girl like that from a couple years ago , odd experience and even now don't have many if any answers why so yeah does seem i may not get many here either

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Marshast]

So abstract…! It doesn’t sounds like there was ever a real relationship, did you just like her?

[Asker]

true we never actually dated but did really know each other over that time , i'd like go to her work and specifically talk to her and she seemed to enjoy the attention

[Marshast]

Your ego is speaking “she seemed to enjoy the attention”. Listen to yourself. Could she also be happy to see you too, or maybe she’s into you too? Do you enjoy the attention and the energy she gives you, or you also feel entertained? Do you actually like her, see something in her and that’s why you’re going to her work to talk to her?
Good luck…

PS:(I can’t stand settling).

[Asker]

some of the other girls at her work got annoyed i always went in to see her there so it became tough to accompolish much , i also had to talk to this other girl who worked cash ( as the girl i liked never did , then she though i might like her as i always talked to her too ) so i was then seeing 2 girls when i went in

but only ever had detailed and meaningful conversations with her never the other girl who doesn't seem to say much

[In_Trance]

How long were you a couple?

[Asker]

we first meet in 2024 but weren't actually a couple , by effort mean talked and got to know her over that time

seems to have got annoyed when i talked to another girl at her work who sort of has the reputation of being easy to get with

[In_Trance]

This is a you problem.
Dont waste so much time. Next time, pull the trigger sooner

[Anonymous]

Why not realistic

[Asker]

younger but we got along so well never really felt like much of an age diff