Why is it so hard to move on from her?

[Anonymous]

I was rejected by a girl i really like. She liked me too but then she decided to end things. We kissed few times, went out and we were getting closer and closer. I thought it is just matter of time before we will be in relationship. But didn't happen. I am getting really sick of these mindf@cking thoughts. I’ve not moved on yet. I dont know what i did wrong. I still think of it and i can't stop even when i want so badly. All the time it is about what i did wrong, what i could have done better, what made her lose interest, that imagination she is with someone else kills me. Why it is so hard?

[BlueScorpio]

It's hard cause you still like her. It's understandable to feel confused about why it didn't work out when things were going so well. The only thing you can do is give yourself time to heal so you can move on from her. It's going to hurt for a few days, maybe even a few weeks but eventually the pain and confusion will fade. Just don't let it consume you too much.

[PhenomenalQueen]

I am in the same boat… I hate it… I hated myself for so long, or at least that part of me… I haven’t seen him in over a year and I STILL miss him. Lol

[Anonymous]

Because you allowed yourself to get attached. The key to women is giving the appearance that you're attached without actually getting attached. That way if they try to pull the rug out from underneath you you just shrug and move on to the next woman.

Sorry man, it'll get better.

[TroyDT2]

You invested a lot of energy into it and it did not work out, so it is natural to feel a sense of loss. Take your time, but try to go out and mingle. Might not be your way, but I cast a wide net. Because of that the rejections do not bother me.

[Phoenix111]

Don't blame yourself, maybe she's just a weirdo who suddenly lost feelings for you. Get up and start hitting the gym, become the best version of yourself, show the world what you will become and make sure to not take her back when you're at the top. If she didn't want you now she doesn't deserve the best version of you.

[Daniela1982]

You sound like you were just reading one of my recent questions about not being able to move on.

[burlen]

Because you love her. When you love someone, it’s hard to part away from them.

[Samarasaid]

Hi

Maybe because it is part of the game... :(

[rienna888]

I feel the same way. I was in a relationship with a guy but he keeps playing hot and cold.

[Samarasaid]

Stupid guy. Leave it

[rienna888]

@Samarasaid yeah fuck him

[Samarasaid]

Thats it

[PhenomenalQueen]

Same here… it absolutely sucks.

[art84]

It just wasn't meant to be with that girl. Just try to move on even though you still think about her.

[Cedman]

That because your still emotionally invested in her. It will take time but you'll be over her.

[CoolCatMar1]

I don't know

[CoolCatMar1]

Ok we get it sorry well... maybe you just still have emotions for her