My girlfriend left me, and is going to marry another guy.

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend left me and is going to marry another guy. Her reasons for a that were: I didn't proceed or develop our relationship (but the moment I wanted to proceed I felt that she was a bit cold with me, and I decided do delay that conversation); and that she wants to have a family and kids now, and when she asked me about my plans on starting a family I responded that I was not ready yet. (To me family is a tough question because I didn't have a father while growing up and I prefer to think thoroughly regarding the family, I want my kids to grow in a full family with both parents). I am 26 and she is 27, and as she said it is the perfect time for her to start a family and she doesn't want to wait any longer. After 2 and a half months of dating she went on vacation where she met another guy who kept calling her. but after that vacation I wanted to move out relationship further, but after she heard that I am Taurus she became upset (she is Taurus as well) and I decided to delay the talk regarding our relationship as it was not official before. But after that she wasn’t the same as before. she acted more as a friend. And we continued to "date" for another another 2 months and three week ago she told me that she is getting married to that guy. She not only told me about her plans about the marriage. but she did a chat with him with me hearing all that. Which drove me crazy, but I kept cool and didn't show my anger. She asked me if we would stay friends, and that she enjoys my company. But later the same day she called me to get a consultation regarding her PC and we did chat, and I guess that she realized how I felt at that moment.

During our dating we didn’t have any kind of difficulties, frictions or anything negative between us. I don’t understand why it did happen. I did try to get my focus away from her, but I still have strong feelings about her. Was it my fault, what caused that? I think that if we just broke up, then it wouldn’t have been a problem to get together again, but marriage with a guy whom she knows only 2 months (or 1 month and 3 weeks to be precise). What do I do? What should I think of that? I dated girls before, but it has never been like it, I’ve never felt it as strong as this time.

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+1 y

Thanks for your answers, it is very encouraging.

[HappyHrt101]

Well...I would say that she isn't very mature. First, it sounds like you two have only dated around 5/6 months? That's kind of quick to be considering marriage as well...if you two had that "close" of a connection then she would not have met someone so easily when she was on vacation. Nor would she want to marry him if she felt that close of a connection to you. Sounds like she is moving fast, it isn't a matter of "who" she is with rather than the "act" of finding anyone. Maybe you should be glad that she will marry someone else. Is this the type of "faithfulness" you would really want in a wife?

[Asker]

Would you think that her primary reason for the marriage was to have a child before she is 30?

[HappyHrt101]

Maybe...it is a possibility...however that is very "old school" thinking...in today's world it's "hip" to be a parent (and still very medically feasible) when you are a little older...nothing like kissing your youth away...and what better time then when you don't have to work as much and are more financially stable...but none less...if that's her goal...she sure isn't being too selective about a father huh? Anyone will do apparently.

[dtaijo174]

Don't worry about what caused the break up. You dodged a bullet! This woman is self centered and impulsive. You are young and have tons of time to find someone else. Dust yourself off and engross yourself in your hobbies/passions. This will all be a distant memory in a year.

[jacquesvol]

Been there, lived that, I even was invited to her marriage...and I went.

Two weeks later I met my present wife. :)

[jacquesvol]

And you can safely bet that I'm way happier with my wife than I could have been with that ex.

(I hope my ex is happy too with her marriage) :)

Thnx for the B.A.

[Asker]

A week ago I called her and we had a friendly chat as I had been to vacation we spoke about it, and she was curious about how am I doing. I asked her if she got married already and she said that the wedding is planned in autumn of the next year. To me it sounds a bit abnormal, having in mind the fact that her groom lives in the other part of the country and they chat over the phone or skype. I don't know weather it was a good decision or bad to call her.

[afrohombre1]

Move on, she did you a favor. After two months of knowing a guy she is getting married, I wonder how long it's going take her to want a divorce.

[martyfellow]

You're well rid of this cold fish. She'll make him miserable, so do't feel bad.

[DianaDDreamer]

Just move on