Ex is angry at me after sex?

[Anonymous]

Ok so my ex and I are still close and I oticed that the last 2 times wwe had s.e.x. aftr he would be nice to me then id leav and come back to check on him and he would answer me when I'm speaking be annoyed watch at me like what are you doing at my home? for the past week I realized he's been angrier than usual at me and we have been intimate during that time. he wa mad at e for something I did last thrusday but I got him to forgive me so I don't know if he is still mad. when ii stay away he's mad saying I'm "cutting style" or he might be nice. help anyone?

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well see the thing is he and I alwys used to anrgue and be mean to each other. I don't know if its cause he's moving in like a month but he is nicerto me and one day we did it. but this week he just seems so angry at me and once wen I was passing by since I was mad at him and I had on my headphones I didn't bother say hello and he was so mad and he gave me the silentt treatment. it didn't take me long to win him over. cause of these things I'm not sure if its just sex for him...

[BeowulfNode]

What do you mean "come back to check on him"? You aren't dating any more, why are you checking on him? Also I hope you at least waved hello to him when you had your headphones on.

I'm in a similar situation, where I'm still living with my ex, due to a variety of financial and logistical reasons, and we're still having sex sometimes. We and you, decided to break up for a reason, whatever those reasons were will likely keep causing problems between you. Breaking up will only reduce some of the problems you are having when you still live with them, so you are going to get upset about something sometimes, it may last a few minutes or you may be furious about it for days and after that it may only ever reduce to a simmering frustration.

That being said, you can both still enjoy sex with each other. My ex and I both enjoy sex and we're both here and we've done it before and both single so why not. However it's likely climax will be harder to reach for you and quicker for him due to the reduced amount of sex and the changed feelings between you. You will be having sex and not making love like you were when you were dating. You may need to get him off 2,3, or even 4 times or have him masturbate just before sex for him to last long enough for you to orgasm.

If you are a busy person then YOU need to realize it will take YOU longer to orgasm when having sex than it used to when making love. If you can't set aside enough time he'll get off and you'll be upset that you didn't and you just wasted some time which you'll also be upset about.

All that being said it is a 2 way street, I'm sure neither of you are perfect and you have a right to be upset about any mistreatment.

[Asker]

lollol no I actually talk to him. we have a weird relationship. now I'm talking to him off and on. I don't even know what I"M doing

[esper88]

After a guy has sex a lot of the time its like "mission accomplished" and he won't really feel the need to treat you well anymore. It's just a part of male psychology. But if he's been consistently being angry at you even hours after sex, you might want to consider not having sex with him or breaking up with him just to regain a little power in your relationship. Don't let him push you around. He might think he can treat you however he wants because you're already having sex with him all he wants. It might be useful to remind you that you have feelings.

[Asker]

sigh..ok..but I don't know if its just se cause of what I said in the update and also there was this time when we were in a gouptalking his mom was there and she was supporting me and my new carrer ad he ws so rud he's like why you supportig that child.. everyone looks at him and he starts laughing and she's lik oh we're inlove she desnt know what we gonna do about it.

[esper88]

So you're saying that he's not just angry at you after sex, he's also angry at you all of the time? This doesn't sound like a very productive relationship. If he abuses you too much you should get rid of him, because you deserve better than that.

[Anonymous]

He just wants you for the physical side of things. If that wasn't involved then he probably wouldn't be talking to you anymore. He's not emotionally involved. If your fine being his friends with benefits then you can choose to stay but if you think you might be able to lure him back I'd say it's better to stay away. He's only going to hurt you.

[Anonymous]

It's just sex. He doesn't give a sh*t about you, and he's using you.

[FastAndFurious27]

Yup, he wants pie only, break up with him NOW!

YOU DESERVE BETTER :)