Ex is mad because he broke up with me?

[avony12]

I gave my ex an ultimatum of either giving me a small break or break up with me. He choose to break up & so I blocked and moved on. The next morning he hmu on another number saying ‘you have until x days to change my mind. (Which is weird because he was the one who broke up with me) so I told him it was his decision and my mind was set. All of a sudden he got mad at me and told me to never text him and he’s never coming back. I don’t understand what I did wrong?

[all_hayl]

You asked for our opinions, so here's mine. There's almost always two sides, but based on what you say: short answer: you didn't necessarily do anything wrong. You're 23. I'll assume he's around the same age. Lots of guys/people that age still don't know their ass from their elbow. People are selfish. People are self-entitled. People are ignorant, narrow-minded dumbasses. People are fickle. Your ex sounds very immature. If this was all via text then that might be 90% of the problem. Much of communication is lost in text (most people seem to acknowledge this, yet we still do it. Hmmmm...).
Sounds like you maybe dodged a bullet. However, respectfully, I suspect there's more to the story. He probably has his own version, which could be very different. He might think you're the "bad guy". I would move forward and learn what you can from the situation.
Anyways, lots more I could say but I'll leave it at that.

[LegendaryIcon]

not good at all, on your part

NOT GOOD AT ALL

[Anonymous]

girl, you gave him an ultimatum… to give you a break… or to breakup… that’s basically saying, let me break up with you for however long, or you break up with me…


you gotta see his perspective of this.. yes, he chose to breakup with you, but you gave him an ultimatum. you blocked him and moved on… and then you don’t know why he’s mad? it’s still fresh for him, he did not want to breakup obviously, no matter what, he didn’t want to go on a break, he didn’t want to break up. he wanted you, and he’s angry at you for this. you put him in a tough spot.


you both need to learn how to communicate.

[Opinion Owner]

and it also seems like you’re the toxic one from reading this… sorry.

[dustybiker]

Sounds like neither of you know how to talk with one another.
You gave him an ultimatum and think you did nothing wrong? That’s manipulation.
He accepted the ultimatum thinking you were playing. He’s an idiot.
You both are as bad as each other.
Cut the crap and talk to one another without judgement, keep calm and be kind.

[Aerissa_Jade]

You did nothing wrong, he broke up with you. Move on, maybe in a year or so if things just happen just right and your meant to be you'll get back together.

Your not innocent though, if you give someone a ultimatum, often they call your bluff on it just to see what happens. Only do that if you expect them to test it.

Even so sounds like best to just block him and ignore him.

[Flower7]

I can understand why he would be upset about you asking for a “break”. That’s never a good thing to happen during a relationship.

[Anonymous]

You gave him an ultimatum to either give you a break or break up with you, and you don't understand what you did wrong? Lol

[Nazgol]

It was extreme of you to suggest breaking up, and I think noone expected and really wanted that, even yourself. Next time think before you sleak

[Nazgol]

*speak!

[Nazgol]

It's cruel to suggest breaking up , when as mature adults you should be able to handle conflict. He obviously didn't really wanted to breakup and couldn't believe that you would say such a thing

[Anonymous]

You're a manipulator.