Ever had your heart broken? By someone you've never dated?

[Anonymous]

How do you get over it?

How do you fix it? Can anyone help?

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have, There was a guy at college who I'd never paid much attention to and assumed he was a jerk but then it clicked, we had this constant eye contact with undeniable chemistry and I made the first move and from then we spoke everyday i genuinely believed it was going somewhere i saw a sweet side to him which I hadn't seen and most people hadn't hence made me more attached, but then after the chemistry died and he finally told me he was seeing someone else, this broke my heart and it felt like i had literally been stabbed but i tried to pick myself up since it was during exams a few months had passed and i thought it was over until he messaged me again and it started all over i promised this time i wouldn't fall as i hard as i did and i wouldn't let myself get hurt again but the inevitable happened, we spoke everyday and he always made the effort and i discovered how we had so much in common and i miss our talks still, I was exposed to his sweet side once again and i knew deep down i had fallen, when i was with him the butterflies that I got were inexplicable and i wanted it to last forever but I should've known it wouldn't, we never really defined the relationship but i assumed it was going somewhere but all of a sudden he stopped contact and i felt the lack of effort from his end, I wanted to try but i couldn't let it happen all over again so after a while, I messaged him for clarification, I just wanted to know what happened, what were we, was he ever even serious but i tried to ask more subtly; he tried to avoid the questions and that hurt more and made me feel stupid and as if i was deluded the whole time; I let it happen again, let him break my heart and trust for the second time, He probably doesn't even know how much he hurt me or how much he meant. We're on okay terms but it sucks trying to get over a guy you never dated and the best way is to give it time since time heals all wounds and you will feel hurt but fight through it, you deserve a lot better

[Anonymous]

yea we met in college and had so much in common, the first time I saw him I had this nostalgic feeling and moment like I just knew him and he belonged to me and I belonged to him...strange but I never felt like that with anyone, and I like innately trusted him and thought he was the most honest and kind guy ever, after months of flirting and being friends and having every class together, he just changed and stopped talking to me. he started flirting with other girls and became a pimp. not only that but his personality changed into a mean person, he wasn't kind to me anymore but rather disrespectful, rude, immature anything negative really. and throughout college he always went hot and cold, sometimes he was nice to me again and then after some time he would go back to being mean again. I really loved him I wish I could talk to him and tell him how much I cared about him and liked the real him.

[Anonymous]

Yes I did it started off in December of of 2010. He out of nowhere started to show interst. We had been friends for 3 years when all this started. During these friendship years we would talk at lunch, he would show me his poems/raps and ask me for advice on the girl he liked and I really never though anything more. But then he started to show interest. He at that point finally got a cell phone senior year and wanted my number but didn't ask me for it he asked my best friend for it. And just certain things anyway...it hurt in the end when neither of us made a move and just graduated high school and I might never see him again. But if you want to read it in more detail here's the link

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[Anonymous]

the closest thing this happened to me was I asked a girl to dance with me during the next slow song and when she seen me coming like 5-10 minutes later she was running to find someone almost anyone else to dance with. it just pissed me off because she could have just said no, it's not like I haven't been rejected before.

I just got mad for a few minutes than tried to forget about it. the only thing that sticks around from things like that is I hate when people say one thing but want another, and people who beat around the bush.

[Alex93]

yeah its hard especially when they makes you feel like your actually dating them but your not the in the blink of an eye its just hey what happened...all you gotta do is find someone else to talk to & try your best to move on & not think bout it its there loss not urs

[jennyv]

That's happened to me, and it really sucks. I was pretty heartbroken, and I had breakdowns over this boy and I usually NEVER have breakdowns or get that upset over boys. Anywho, after leading me on for 2 months then rejecting me, I moved on by accepting the fact that I wanted to continue being his friend. I realized that I could be excited about just being really good friends with him, and I also flirted it up with a ton of guys. That wasn't the smartest move per say but it helped! Just talking to other people, staying busy, having a light/fun attitude works wonders :)

[KineticOne]

Sort of. Well yes. Haven't really gotten over it. Don't know how to fix it. I just suspect that in due time, nothing of these feelings will remain. So I hope, at least. That's the best solution I can come up with. For the time being, thoughts of her occasionally consume my mind until I slap myself and tell myself I've got to forget about her. Sorry I wasn't much of help.

[falafelany1]

I basicallyhad a crush on a pervert. He tried to do things with me and we were only 14. He knew i liked him and yet he ditched me after I wouldn't do stuff with him. Weeks later inwas talking to him online and he told me that he had just had his first kiss and that really hurt me.

[falafelany1]

But the way i got over it was by realizing what an immature jerk he was. And i got over it :)

[karamel_sutra]

Oh yeah, definitely. It really took me about a year the 1st go around because he kept contacting me. Now its been 7 months since I last heard from him and I don't think I'm fully over it even now, but I do think I've moved on enough. Give it time. Like another answerer said, "Time heals all wounds".

[Shimmyshammy]

Omg yea! I've tried to get over him even to the point of bringing other guys around. I'm not being malicious, I just try to focus my energy on something or someone else. Would you believe that the guy HATES it! He'll even leave or make comments. Tng about pulling my heart strings!ugh!

[Phoenix1991]

Yeah, it happened to me before, I felt like my heart was thrown under a truck , but you live and you learn.

I got over it by just moving on by time and friends. You learn to accept that it happens in life.

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah! Yeah I got over it about two or three weeks later. I just moved along.

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[Anonymous]

yes I've ha this happen. feel so connected to one person, they don't even know it and it tears your heart into little chunks till nothing is left! I guess just try to move on... I finally got over it by eventually haveing a breakdown over the girl.

[cathysmith07]

I've been through to that and it really crazy. Hang out, mingle that's the best thing to do with that.

[Anonymous]

The only way I've found to get over it, is by finding someone else to like...Truth is, you'll never get over anyone until you find someone new(:

[Anonymous]

Yes. Just yesterday in fact. I jave rlly liked him for over a year and we had talked before. He sent me a message that said "I love you, I just can't keep it in anymore" and I said "rlly? Are you being serious?" And he's like "no." I felt like my heart was filled with joy and excitement and I felt so wanted and then he popped it like it was a balloon. I cried all day BC he said he thought it would be funny. Yeah that's just SO hilarious.:'(

[mandip88]

Ohhhh yeah several times. Including the guy I lost my virginity with. Time really does heal all wounds. That and you find someone even better

[Anonymous]

in order to have a broken heart you have to actually have a heart and since your a women I'm pretty sure this is a trick question.

[poohbear13]

Hey stupid asshole knock it off!!!

[Opinion Owner]

I was in a VERY bad place when I posted this, it's obviously an emotional outburst, we have all been there or will be at some point in your life. It's clearly a ridiculous statement from a very angry/hurt individual so I'm not sure why you feel the need to add more negativity.