Twice. A former friend of mine was crushing on me, hard. I liked her, but only as a friend. After a while she couldn't deal with being so close to me, but not close enough & said she needed a break. That's what eventually killed our friendship. Another time was with my ex. We were facing some troubles in our relationship & he told me what he didn't like about 'us' anymore. That got me thinking (because I was content) & I realised that this had no future. When he was unhappy while I was, things just can't work out, so I broke up with him a few days later. He hated himself for a while, thinking that he made me breakup with him, that he should've kept his face shut & stuff. Since when we broke up, we said maybe we'll get together in a few weeks again when we've thought about everything & stuff. Six weeks later, he asked me if I wanted to give it another try, I asked him what he thought, he replied he'd wanna try it again & from what he knew about me, I wanted to, too. Well, he was wrong about that, which is exactly what I told him. So I guess this one counts as two small heartbreaks? Dunno.
& I don't know if I broke someone's heart by rejecting them beforehand, & I honestly don't care, either. When someone I don't know just walks up to me & tries to chat me up, they get a flat out no.
Yeah my ex... My parents forced me to break up with him and I was super sad. So was he. After a while though, I realized that I'd never gotten to know him super well and committed into a relationship way too fast. I was too young... It wouldn't have worked. We didn't have common topics really, we were way too different, and we were both way too shy to talk with each other and we've never hung out alone. He had many qualities that I disliked (and only found out about later in the relationship). He's asked me if I like him. I said just as a friend. I have a feeling he still likes me, but I have let go. It wouldn't have worked out even if my parents didn't force me
Yes I did break a few hearts, but NEVER intentionally, it's just, those people got whipped, they where friends, and I just didn't see them like that, I hate hurting people :( but I can't force myself to love somebody when i simply can't!! I apologized to them deeply, and I really checked on them often and organized dinners to have deep conversations about this, and to show my respect for their feelings. Usually it worked, other times it made things worse, but some came out to be very close friends afterwards :)
It was always the right thing to do, because living a lie is not a solution. I broke off a toxic relationship once and I should have done it a year earlier. I felt liberated after that. I "friendzoned" a few people too, because you just can't force feelings.
Only thing I could have improved was the ways I did it. Right afterwards it feels awful, but I never regretted it.
When I was a teenager and young adult that my relationship with others was just friendship. When I went out, it was not a date as the world see it. Non-sexual activities. Our activities were base on same interest. In college, I met my wife and we are happy to marry to each other. I marriage is base on God word. Jesus is our master store. We never get divorced. There no self-worship in our marriage. Our marriage is a two-way street. I know that many marry women think it a one-way street. Their self. That why women have so many issues with marriage.
Usually it is right thing otherwise it wouldn't have happened. However I do wish with one girl I didn't let her go HOWEVER its been almost 2 years I didn't talk to her, she was pissed lol, but now we sort of start talking a a little
--> redemption is sweet I tell ya
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I think so? It was a very short, very fast moving relationship that started as a shy friendship, and my parents told me that since he was noon the other side of the country, I should just focus on what's here and not there. I didn't want to hurt them, so I slowly distanced myself and submerged myself in shool and work, and eventually we stopped talking because I didn't answer all his calls (daily, I might add). Looking back, I can see how toxic the 'relationship' was (if you even call our 2 weeks of devotion a relationship- it was more like speed dating) and I feel intense guilt and repulsion for getting myself into it in the first place. We haven't communicated since, so I can only hope he is okay and has moved on.
Not that I know of. I haven't really connected with someone on that level to have the ability to do something like that. Have I made people sad in the sense that I did not return their feelings? Yes, I have. Did I do it on purpose? By no means have I intentionally hurt others. But I cannot force myself to love someone, I cannot live a lie.
Yeah, I broke up with my ex boyfriend who was the "perfect" guy and treated me like a princess, but sadly I couldn't have the same feelings for him :( It was very hard for me to end the relationship but I can't be with someone I don't love, you know?
On more than one occasion, I have broken someone's heart. The guilt afterwards has been completely massive that I do my best to repair the damage I have caused, and sometimes it can go both ways: good or bad. In certain situations, I have come to the realization as to why or why not it was the right thing to do. I think complete honesty is the right thing to do, it's a hard pill to swallow at times, and can be painful, yet at least the other person understands where your position is.
When I was in 8th grade, I had my first "serious" girlfriend. That poor girl trusted me to be her first attempt at a relationship and I broke her heart by cheating on her with one of her best friends not even 2 months later. Was it the right thing to do? Of course not! How did I feel after? Like a disgusting animal.
Um dose beating the shit out of a boy with a light saber when you and he were 7 when he tried to kiss me count or does shoving a guy who was wrapped around my hip screaming don't go don't go crying in the middle of a class room and he grabbed my leg when I got him off I lost a shoe and took off running full speed count if not no
@HookedOnSalt nothing to talk about I started going to that school he pissed me off and I wouldn't take his load mouth shit I told him off and after that he started fallowing every ware like some creepy love struck stalker puppy
Yup, I think maybe 2+ times. But I was still in Jr High and High school. A lot of things seemed right at the time they were being done. N I feel like shiet after and still sometimes wonder if it affected them a lot. I sure hope they carried on fine after that.
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Yes. He cheated on me, so I left him. It's been 2 years since the break up and to this day, he continues to send me crying voicemail saying he's sorry/wants me back- and this is a man that never cries. I'd say I broke his heart. Cheaters don't get second chances with me, so no, I dont really regret it. But I do want him to move on and be happy with his life. Just not with me.
I've rejected girls who asked me out romantically before, so yeah. I don't feel bad about it, rejection is part of life. It would be wrong to pretend that I liked her back for the sake of immature young girls not giving me drama for rejecting that girl. 😛
I have broken quite a few people's hearts due to unrequited love. I felt bad but it was never my intention to hurt anyone. It was the right thing to do for me and them, they just didn't realize it at the time.
Maybe I have. Like, its those times when you don't want to hurt the person but you have no other choice coz you just don't feel the same way about them. But, I don't think they were in love so that makes it easier for them
I've also rejected people who were or thought they were in love with me bc i did not feel it in return... i did not break their heart, and I don't know if they felt heart broken over it.
Probably not. Too busy getting mine broken by other people. Although one girl who I was seeing dropped the "lets just be friends" thing on me and I said No. Could see that she was hurting when I was ignoring her. I didn't want to but couldn't face just being friends with someone who I had strong feelings for.
Sadly yes but as much as he cared about me I had to put myself first he wasn't very compassionate and never listened to anything to do with my past I still felt terrible for hurting him though
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Yes. It was the right thing to do because we were poisoning each other after many years and we had meant to care about each other. Heart break at first but afterward it was freedom for both to be better people.
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Yes, I have. They were not my type and even when I wasn't sure of being with them. I led them on thinking that their was a chance. Until I saw that they fell for me than I broke things off.
I feel bad because I led them on just cause I wasn't sure of what I wanted.
I think i have, luckily not be much. Its better to break someones heart quickly then to give them false hopes and make the eventual pain grow.
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Maybe once or twice, but it's been done more to me. I did cut off a one girl for a good reason. She was an alcoholic and she kissed my brother (after I banged her and was passed out). She was crying and going ballistic after that but she made her own bed and I obviously have no regrets about that.
Women on the other hand will build up "cases" against men. They will make their decision to break up with a guys weeks or even months before they do it. Often the guy has no idea it's coming.
I have had my heart broken and according to a few friends the person i did a friends with benefits with at uni had feelings for me so i prob broke her heart when i decided not to try for anything more
@AriadneSky maybe... But she's also a friend and a colleague... And I don't like uneasy feeling. Specially with someone I'm close with, or worst, someone I work with.
I never have because I've never been in a relationship
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I probably have but it depends what you mean by broken heart - I might have broken 2-4 people.
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Leave a trail of broken hearts in my wake. Better hurt their feelings a bit early than destroy them after a year. I look like a savage doing it but im a humanitarian
i've had my heart broken before too so if i have to end something with a person i know that really likes me because it just won't work out i try to do it really nicely and than not talk to the person for awhile until things cool down
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