being dumped sucks but it is cut and dry with little mystery. they cut ties with you and went for someone esle. No explaination needed. Sure the is that element of shock and being hurt all at once but its easier to deal with, they don't want you anymore and you must move on.
Getting cheated on is by far the worst. They want someone else and the keep you around for thier greed. They lie to you to keep you on thier leash and your going to find out anyway sooner or later, then its still shocking, it still hurts but then there is the betrayal and anger.
At least it is more honorable to tell someone you want to break it off and go with someone else. they give you a chance to prepare for the feelings and make you understand there is nothing that can be done and you have no choice but to move on. the hurt will not last as long as finding out you been had by a cheating partner and there is a lot less humiliation.
So between the two, I rather be told I was going to be dumped than finding out I been cheated on.
I guess in my mind it means they still respect you enough to tell you to your face and deal with the consequences. the other person they are dumping you for must be worth it for them to tell you and in a small way, no matter how much it hurts, you still have to give them some respect for thier decision. you have no choice BUT to repect them because...they are giving you respect as a human being.
I think both are fu##ed up to do to someone, but people are stupid sometimes. Anyways, both are different, being cheated on could make it easier to get over the person because you can just hate them and it would be for a good reason. If you are being dumped for another person, you feel all sorts of disrespect, rejection, damage to your ego, loneliness, and then you feel less superior to the other person until you realize that you are better than both of the other people. I think it also depends on if they lie to you about it, when they lie and make up some bs excuse like "I can't be in a relationship right now, but maybe if things in my life change..." then you find out a week later they are dating the new person, you just want to take back every good thing you ever said about them, as opposed to if they would have told you the truth you could have at least known that they had some respect for you.
Being cheated on.
If he dumps you for someone else, at least he respects you enough to be upfront about it instead of lying. If he's cheating on you, you may think that he still loves you, and therefore stays with you. But how much does he really love you if he can't be faithful? Are you not worth being faithful to?
If he dumps you for someone else, it will hurt. But at least you're no longer in a crap relationship that wasn't going to go anywhere anyway. You can move on and find someone you can actually be happy with. But if he's cheating on you, than you're still going to be in the crap relationship (assuming you don't know he's cheating). You think everything's all fine and dandy, you may even be considering marriage. And here he is, screwing around with other girls behind your back. Now how fair is that?
I guess I just think it's better to have an honest, "I don't love you any more" as opposed to a fake, "I love you."
Being told they don't want you anymore is by far more honorable. Good answer allola.
I agree. I would rather have a girl be 100% honest with me, tell me she cheated on me, or leave me for another man, yeah she could care about me. but obviously not as much as I care about her. when I got over my ex. who lied to me all the time I started talkin to another girl. who she eventually ended up dating some other guy, but she did tell me she doesn't have feelings for me anymore. at least claims that, so she can focus on her new man. and were really good friends. because I can trust her
Lying IS a kind of respect, how strange that may sound to you: think it over, is someone cheats instead of dumping, it means he/she still values you and wants to keep you. If you're dumped, you're garbage to him/her.
In my eyes, there is no way cheating can amount to any respect - not even a tiny morsel.
Cheating is lying. Cheating is not only lying, but it is worst than lying. Lies can be told out of good intentions: not wanting to hurt someone's feelings. I can see respect in that gesture. However, cheating is caring only about yourself. Cheating is disregarding your significant other's feelings and their happiness. Cheating is having your cake and eating it too. Cheating is all about you, purely selfish.
I agree, lying and cheating are signs of total disrespect. Even if someone who cheats cares about me enough to lie to me and protect my feelings, someone who cares more would respect me enough to not do things they know would hurt me.
Wow I've seen really good answers for both sides and now I'm not sure haha.
At first I would've said that cheating is worse. But now I kinda think it's not, because if they dump you for someone else, then they've obviously had feelings for the other person for a while and they've thought things through. Basically, they cheated on you AND chose the other person over you. I don't know, I think that would hurt the worst.
Simple cheating in and of itself can happen accidentally, depending on the circumstances. It's not usually given a lot of thought beforehand, and they don't just up and leave you for that other person because they still have feelings for you too. I mean both really hurt and I guess breaking up first would technically be the "right" thing to do, but I still think being dumped for someone else would hurt more.
Yeah I said cheating, but I'm not exactly sure. My last girlfriend basically broke up with me for someone else. and she claims she didnt, but she does admit to flirting with him (innocently). and then 2 days after we broke up, she said he was using him as a rebound. but yet, her sister told me that while she was dating me she was starring at all of his pictures. and then after she kissed him, and he left her for another girl. I think she did cheat on me. I just want her to admit it. if its true
I know how you feel, my ex started seeing someone else 2 months before breaking up with me. He was basically stringing me along until he could get sex from her, then when it didn't work out he came back to me. He didn't tell me for 6 months but I always suspected it because his behavior changed so much after meeting her. He had told me several lies about her also. I just couldn't get over it until I found to the truth from someone else.
I say being cheated on is worse since it means the person couldn't bother to be honest or have enough respect to leave you before going for another person. The whole act is either a lack of control or a lack of respect. If a person leaves you for another it is sad and you feel like you're a lower model being replaced, but at least then the person had the guts to leave you first. Also, sometimes people just aren't meant to be together, and so leaving the person is a good step to take in order to make things better. Both really hurt though and are damaging to the person.
I'd say getting dumped for the one he cheated on you with.
But if I'd have to pick just one I'd say being dumped for someone else...why? because cheating can just be a matter of lust and attraction which resulted in a one night stand. For me knowing that he already build an emotional relationship and already had feelings for the girl before he left me the worst. I feel that is worse then cheating without any feelings for the person...you could work through that.
This is how I feel after he cheated on me with his ex and then left me to go back to her.
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Relationships break-up all the time for various reasons. This is natural. Sometimes a relationship might be seeming fine while there are under-currents of unhappiness and unhappy compromises. As long as the amount of happiness and unhappiness are balanced, the relationship is stable. Something or someone may tip the balance and the relationship may get disturbed. In the absence of deep love and commitment one party may be the first to break-off.
An immature way to handle this to break-off to get involved with someone else immediately. It is better to have a cooling-off period and think things over before the next relationship. But some just don't know how to handle this. Hence, being dumped feels bad, though it should not.
Being cheated is also equally bad. It shows that the other person has a character flaw, like lack of self control, lack of respect, distrust or too much temptation.
If we understand this, neither should hurt us at all. One is a case of immaturity by the other person the other is a character flaw. So, we should be better off when its over.
I would have to say getting cheated on, everyone breaks up with someone and then gets with another person, hints the word dating. Getting dumped goes one of two ways, she finds someone else and breaks up with you, or relationship is getting old and boring to her, she breaks up with you to find another person, it's the same thing.
But getting cheated on is the ultimate sign of disrespect, especially if you don't find out about it for a while, what if she's having sex with some dude with Aids or herpes, well guess what you just got the gift that keeps on giving have fun with that. To me if a girl ever cheated on me, I would probably hate that person for then on out and I wouldn't forgive them, I would break up with her right then and there call her a whore and never speak to her again.
You ain't neva lyin man. I was with a chick from 02-04 that was cheating on me while I was outta town in summer 03', AND I was sending her money at that too. When I got back she ended up hookin up wit sum other dude after we got in a rediculously childish arguement. I dumped her after nearly two year on my b-day in 04, and because of her revealing how much of a whore she is, we haven't been remotely as close as we were in the beginning. Cheating, it's sumthin ain't it?!
Cheating and dumping someone for someone else are almost the same thing. Cheating could lead to you or whoever you are with dumping you or you dumping them for that person you cheated with or got cheated on with. However I say cheating because I have seen it throughout my life and it's basically a "I have no respect for you so I will prove to you that everything you do and are matters nothing to me" Once a cheater always a cheater. Why would I want to have anything to do with someone who did either to me? However to end this tirade being dumped sometimes is mutual and the person tells you of it.
Being cheated on is like giving someone your heart, and the instant you leave them throwing it in the trash and taking it out to wash it and put on this whole act of I love you.
assuming the cheating incident was a one time slip up, I think being dumped for someone else is MUCH worse. It means your boyfriend has been constantly thinking of another girl, probably picturing her during sex, and has degraded your relationship with him over time in his head (its not as important to him as it used to be). With a random cheating incident, it SUCKS to know they have been physical with another girl, but its not AS emotional. Sometimes couples can salvage their relationship after a person cheats once, but I would feel torn to shreds if I found out I was being dumped for someone else. just my opinion though
I'd rather get dumped for someone else than get cheated on because it shows that he at least respects you and cares for you a bit that he wanted to end it before he got with someone else-cheating is the lowest of the low and I always say if you wan't to be with someone else then end your current relationship first.
Your right, cheating is such a horrible thing to do to someone and is even worse if the person thinks they can get away with it. But at the same time, I think stringing someone along until you met someone else then dumping them for the new person is terrible too. Which I think is what happens in most cases, and usually they start their new relationship before completely ending the old one which is cheating too.
Yeh I agree, they're both terrible things but sometimes you can't help who you fall for so I can understand more if they are in a relationship being 100% faithful but then someone else comes along out of the blue but it's diff if they are just using someone until they find someone better and it's even worse if they do cheat on you with that person.
I think it is worse to be dumped by someone else, because cheating... well, it could be an accident. And if I cheated, I know I would be sorry and guilty somehow. When it comes right down to it, cheating isn't that bad. A lot of cultures have men with several wives to build their family. But being dumped for someone else- that would be the worst. Your self-esteem would crash, and you would always have a hatred for the person that was better than you. I hope this helped. :)
Being cheated on is worse. At least they should have the respect of breaking it off before doing something with the other person. My last girlfriend I told her that if she feels like she can do better than me, then leave me. I started catching her in lies then I dumped her.
Both scenarios infer disrespect, unless you are dumped for someone else, prior to his starting a relationship with her. If this isn't the case, then either way you are being disrespected and dishonored. Since this behavior demands that you rid such a man from your life completely, perhaps the latter scenerio most readily accomplishes this. Not much to choose from though. All the best.
Well being cheated on he has no respect for you.
Being dumped he has no feelings for you anymore.
I'd say being cheated on because AT LEAST he has the common decenty to tell you, rather than lead you on.
Although your kinda being cheated on either way cause if a guy is dumping you to go straight out with another girl then they've probably been having an emotional affair.
At least if he tells you though you have some of your pride still intact.
no offense. but they both sound the same. cheating is cheating, and being dumped for someone else, means he has been thinking about the other one for a while. soooo it sounds the same. just because he hasn't cheated yet doesn't mean that dumping you for the other one makes it any better. I'm sorry
he sounds like a big ass.
being dumped for someone else. at least you're not being lied to. because that just means they think you're stupid and naive. they;re playing you for a fool and that that means they have no respect for you. and why would you want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't have respect for you?
cheated on is way worse. because at least if he brakes up with you and finds another girl, you know he is not ur boyfriend anymore but cheating, you just get heartbroken. no other way to get around it.
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It's picking a lesser of two evils, but for me, I'd rather a guy break up with me (out of respect for me), than think he can get away with cheating. People who cheat show a total disregard to their partners emotions. So, while I wouldn't wish either on a person, the 2nd would be more kind.
being cheated on is worse. at least when someone dumps someone for someone else. there is still respect between the two, that you were still loyal to him. to a point, but if you are even thinking of cheating on your man, either stop it with the guy you are "talking" to or break up with your man right away.
Cheated on. At least if they break up with you, they had the decency to end it before chasing someone else. Being cheated on means that the guy was too much of an ass/wimp to end it with one girl, so he dates them both at the same time, and then gets caught and gets his ass beat by both girls. If he breaks up with one first, then he's probably gonna get his ass kicked by the one he broke it off with. And it's not fair to sneak around like that, not to mention sleazy.
Good point.
it's kind of a tough one. I guess I would say being cheated on because at least when you get dumped for someone else, your significant other is being honest with you. because most times when you get cheated on you find out from other people, which is much harder to deal with. but then again, I guess you can get dumped if your significant other is cheating on you, and dumps you for whoever that other person is. they're both losing situations, but I would have to say being cheated on is worse.
Being cheated on because, basically its worse than getting dumped for someone else because they are lying and doing it behind your back, and when they dump you for someone else, at least they aren't cheating because they dumped you first, but still I got dumped for someone else a few days ago, and it feels GREAt. (sarcasm) well he dumped me for his old ex GF, who in the past, cheated on him AND THEN dumped him. woah, it just shows HIS logic.
When you're dumped he doesn't value you enough to hide his disrespect.
honestly, I don't know. I guess it depends on the circumstances.
If I didn't like the douche anyway and he cheated on me, I'd punch him and that would make me feel better.
If I liked him and he cheated on me, I 'de still punch him.
If a guy dumps me for someone else, I guess that's bad too. But I hope he gets an std and his dick falls off and he CRYS!
Lol. Bwl. awesome question. Eitherway, if a guy did that to me, obviously I'm too good for him. His loss, not mine ^_^
Well being cheated on he had no respect for you.
Being dumped he has no feelings for you anymore.
I'd say being cheated on because AT LEAST he has the common decenty to tell you, rather than lead you on.
Although your kinda being cheated on either way cause if a guy is dumping you to go straight out with another girl then they've probably been having an emotional affair.
At least if he tell you thought you have some of your pride still intact.
I think that getting dumped is worse because if a guy cheats on you, then you can focus your energy on being p*ssed at them, more so than wishing you had them back if they dump you. I think it's easier to get over a guy when you can be repulsed by them for a bit afterwards.
cheating is the worst!
especially when the person lies to you.
dishonesty is the one thing I absolutely cannot stand
I agree, cheating is disrespectful but lying about it is just insulting. They either are too cowardly to come clean, or they think we're not smart enough to figure out the truth and this usually leads to it happening again and again.
Lying to you means the liar values your opinion: it's a markof respect
see that is what I mean these days guys get cheated on , girls get cheated on...
i think it is because of the internet (social networks) and cell phone (hiding calls)...
before it was just about money and sex...
damn why does this world like this?
so what do you think started it with him?
Being dumped for someone else is definitely worse than being cheated on. While the physical nature of it still hurts, it is much worse knowing that there is emotional connection behind the physical stuff he/she has with the new person. When you get dumped for someone else it's basically like them saying you aren't good enough in any way and the new person is.
Good answer.
Good answer indeed.
Someone who takes the troublesome way to cheat rather than dump proves she/he gives about you.Someone who dumps you finds the other one way better than you.
As for being dishonoured when someone cheats on you, it's implying honour is placed in a really strange place, however nice that place may be
If one resents cheating more than dumping, it's about ego (loving yourself),NOT about love(loving the other)
I'd prefer to be cheated on rather than dumped: being cheated on can be just a fling, a stupidity (after which life can revert to normal) or just a pure sexual thing. It doesn't cut you off from the person you love and who cheats. Being dumped cuts you off without leaving you a chance.
To put it clear: I could accept the fact that someone is in her p**** better than the fact that someone is in her heart and head and there's no longer place for me in her heart and head: a p**** is washed daily. Heart and head can not be cleaned.
To me, they are kind of the same thing to an extent. Whether they cheat or dump you for someone else, they would still rather be with someone other than you.
But all in all being dumped for someone else I think would be worse than getting cheated on, depending on the circumstances.
I'd say that they are the same thing. Person B just can't start seeing someone else new (Person C-as in never talked before then, etc.) just after a breakup with person A. Person B had to be talking/flirting with person C, while B was still in a relationship with A. In my mind, is the onset of cheating.
When your significant other dumps you for someone else, that means they may have already cheated on you emotionally/mentally/maybe even physically. The fact that they would rather be with the other person is the most heart breaking feeling you can experience. It means that other person was able to capture your partner's heart and that it was not just a physical fling. It also indicated that you aren't as great as the other person.. =( So I think this is wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy worst.
i think that physically getting cheated on is worse... but not much I think if someone is leaving their girlfriend or boyfriend for another they've already mentally cheated which still hurts close to the same
I gotta say both make you feel like you arn't pretty, or you did something wrong, or you don't have a good personality, or your not worth being respected. There both absolutly dreadful.
I would agree
Cheating, without a doubt, because if you want someone else than go be with them then. You're either all in with me or all out, there ain't no in between.
dumped for sum1 else because at least with cheating ik its so wrong but usually the guy still loves you ..there was just suttin missing from ur relationship but when ur completely dumped for someone else ur constntly comparing yourself to that grl
I agree...my girlfriend has been talking a lot about her ex these days and keeps telling me what he was etc etc, when I pissed her off once she stopped talking to me...i couldn't stop thinking how she would call me up and say that she's getting back with her ex....i couldn't stop comparing my self with that guy......so yeah getting dumped is worse.....getting cheated on is bad too....wouldn't want any....
Either way is cheating, it's also how it's handled... If you breakup with someone for another and don't tell the orignal person the reason, so that when they find out you can justify it by saying you can't get angry we're not together, to avoid you looking guilty or having guilt it's far worse than any other. Because it is cowardly, if you're going to do it, you should take the consequences with it, rather than making the person you hurt look and feel small instead so you don't look bad
Both as bad, this happened to me ealier this year. My boyfriend had been kissing a s*** at work( there really are no other words to describe this girl) and then out of the blue dumped me. On the same night, he text her and she said 'hey lets go out.' He called 4 days later and said he made a mistake, for some reason the full extent of what happened, didn't really hit me then. Its hitting me now and at 1 in the morning, I can't get past what he did to me. Shit. What to do.
Definitly being cheated on... you at least get to hate them an feel you have the moral high ground and its easier to move on...the hardest thing for me is when its neither, cause its happened to me in my last two relationships...the girl decides she wants to break up so starts getting close to someone else so they're not alone when they leave you and start seeing that person after a few days or weeks...why do girls do this...its never even crossed my mind to it?
Getting dumped for someone else is far worse. Why? Because this implies that you were cheating for much longer, and behind our backs. It also hurts to see you move on much faster than we ever could.
They're both bad, but I'd say cheating is worse because it sort of includes being dumped for someone else.
But you could also say getting dumped for someone else includes cheating
True...they're both pretty bad though
Cheated on. Because he/she didn't even consider your feelings enough to break up with you first. It makes them look cowardly too. Which they probably are.
Hope that helped.
Getting dumped. I'd rather share a girl than lose her.
Honestly? you wouldn't feel disrespected if she went off and slept with another guy?
Honestly. I'm not one of those exclusivity freaks who say "You-must-sleep-with-me-and-only-me-all-the-time-forever." It's unrealistic, silly really, to think that I'm the only guy she'll ever be sexually attracted to. Both she and I sleep better at night if I set a few ground rules, and let her off the hook.
Maybe it's me, but I find exclusivity a VERY minor virtue in a relationship, never worth blowing up a good partnership.
I-Hedoniste,
I'm clearly thinking along the same lines as you do. To be fully clear I'll repeat it: Getting dumped is worse. I'd rather share a girl than lose her.
well getting cheated on, you won't feel as down on yourself, and less self concious. but you'll probably have tryst issues after tht
and beingg dumped for someone else is harsh, you'll start doubting yourself (personaltiy,looks,etc.)
I think it's best to be left for someone else. At least your partner had enough respect to leave you before cheating on you.
i think geting cheated own for some one else because that is the foulest thing someone can do to you
Neither both, I wanna ask this what if the one you're with cheated on you and then dumped you for the one who cheated with how that gonna feel to you plp?
plus you didn't know anything about the cheating till they dump you!
they're the same basically but I will pick being cheated because at least getting dumped he does not hold me to stay with him so I have time to find new one rather waste more time for him.
I agree they are the same, cause they hurt just as much and leave you second guessing yourself. But the worst is when the other person isn't honest about it. At least if they can admit the did something wrong I can accept it and try to move on. But getting lied too, its like they think they can do whatever and get away with it. It's insulting.
cheating is the worse. You don't feel as used when you get dumped. o.o'
Cheated on is much worse. it means they were already with someone physically and some what emotionally. At least if they leave me, it means that they at least didn't do anything physically.
i feel that getting left for someone else especially if you still love that person and thought you were working things out but all of a sudden she gets with another guy...then you have that feeling that you know she has more than a physical relationship with him but she actually cares for him...they're both bad but I'll rather work things out with her if she cheated but I wouldn't handle it that if she was too fall for someone else
Being cheated on is way worse. It hurts a lot more because of violating trust.
Cheated. Especially when you walk into the apartment and you can hear them both going at it.
Aww I'm so sorry
they both hurt pretty bad. both have happened to meee, soo yeah. I think their pretty much equal.
oh I meant to pick cheating, I wrote the one id prefer on accident
its a close call, but id say gettting dumped. both hurt but at least theyre out of your life
Both are bad.
But I still say someone pretending they like is just as bad
cheated on because it could lead to dumping you with the people they cheated with..
It is worse getting cheated on.I think that getting cheated at is worse because it showes that the guy using intrested in youh anymore.
According to my experiences, being cheated on feels worse.
Being cheated will feel worse, if you love yourself more than you love the other.
All the two. I just can't stand it. Cos I wouldn't do it to the one I truly love.
getting dumped for someone else
cheated on def you don't know what they did
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cheated on.
cheating...the lies UGGGH!
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