My ex boyfriend wants to reunite, but he keeps flaking on me

[Anonymous]

My ex and I were in a relationship in the past. It was a very, very fast one. We were only together for two months and he had already said that he loved me and wanted to be with me. We ended breaking up because it was moving too fast. Months later, he saw me walking around town and decided to make contact again. We have been hanging out and talking a lot. He has been very sweet and has not even tried to make any sexual moves. But recently, he began to flake. ALL the time. I ask him to hang out, and he responds with "I will let you know" - to which he never lets me know. Then when I stop contacting him often, he comes back and asks why I do not like him. SO then because I feel like if I DON'T contact him, he will think that I do not like him (which I do- A LOT). But he keeps flaking on me! To make matters even more confusing, he asked me to meet his mom just the other day, too! I know he is under a lot of pressure from work, but I feel like his flakiness is just a sign that he has doubts. Any suggestions?

[Pedantic]

Tell him he is a flake, and that you won't like him until he learns what punctuality is. Sometimes guys just need to hear it straight. It might sabotage the re-union; I don't know how you would feel about that, but even if so there still would be a positive side: At least everyone was clear :)

On a side note, he is an ex- for a reason. Unless some fundamental dynamic has changed, he will probably become an ex- again for the same reason.

[Asker]

I suppose you're right. I just really like him and feel a deep connection with him. I already bit**ed him out about it. To which he apologized over and over. But it has not changed much. Perhaps I should wait until his work load is over?

[Pedantic]

Waiting on the workload is fine. You don't need to bring it up again, either. However, if he keeps flaking, you'll have all the information you need.