My ex and I were together for a year and a half. It was a pretty serious relationship - I was really close to his family and got along well with all his friends. They all loved me, and I spent time with them even when he wasn't with us.
We hadn't talked in awhile, but I decided to see how he was tonight, since the election was going on and usually we'd stay up watching these things together. I told him how I was feeling about the whole thing, because he'd been holding back a bit lately and I could tell. Before mostly he'd say is that things might change someday but right now he thinks the breakup is the best choice.
Tonight he had been drinking and he started to tell me that breaking up with me was the hardest thing he's ever done, and that he had thought that me and him were it for each other. He said that he thinks it was the right choice, but not because I'm wrong, and that now he's been drinking himself to sleep every night because he feels miserable, even though he knows it's pathetic since he was the one who called it off.
He said he didn't regret any of the relationship and thinks of it as a major point in his life, and that things might change someday.
I've known him for a really long time. I know when he's being honest, and I know when he's hurt. I've known for a bit now that there were feelings he was hiding, and when he told me all this he was so genuine that it actually really hurt to hear, because I don't want him to feel as bad as I do.
If he's that upset, is it possible it's going to end up being the wrong choice? I don't know where to go from here. I don't want either of us to be feeling this way, though I've wondered if maybe he's right and I should go on with life and we should just be friends.
We hadn't talked in awhile, but I decided to see how he was tonight, since the election was going on and usually we'd stay up watching these things together. I told him how I was feeling about the whole thing, because he'd been holding back a bit lately and I could tell. Before mostly he'd say is that things might change someday but right now he thinks the breakup is the best choice.
Tonight he had been drinking and he started to tell me that breaking up with me was the hardest thing he's ever done, and that he had thought that me and him were it for each other. He said that he thinks it was the right choice, but not because I'm wrong, and that now he's been drinking himself to sleep every night because he feels miserable, even though he knows it's pathetic since he was the one who called it off.
He said he didn't regret any of the relationship and thinks of it as a major point in his life, and that things might change someday.
I've known him for a really long time. I know when he's being honest, and I know when he's hurt. I've known for a bit now that there were feelings he was hiding, and when he told me all this he was so genuine that it actually really hurt to hear, because I don't want him to feel as bad as I do.
If he's that upset, is it possible it's going to end up being the wrong choice? I don't know where to go from here. I don't want either of us to be feeling this way, though I've wondered if maybe he's right and I should go on with life and we should just be friends.
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