Guys, He broke up with me because of pressure... ?

[Anonymous]

He says our relationship was putting a lot of pressure on him. He also said he isn't yet mature enough for a relationship and he's going to be single for a long time. He also said he was "depressed he can't communicate how he feels."

We were long distance, our days off were different snd we couldnt always meet up to see each other, so I understand all of that. I let him go. Even though I'd ask how we were going and he'd say, "really good." I tried to not put pressure on him. I guess I feel like I made a fool of myself. He seemed to be in love with me... then he broke it off. I'm so hurt. But I'll never tell him that.

I am just asking guys opinions... can you be blunt about what he means... what he might be thinking. I don't want to ask him and bother him. I've already messaged him just to check up on him, since he used the word depressed. I wanted to make sure he was okay. He's is the most important guy in my life.

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And yes, he is still talking to me... just not as much as we were.

[Kaneki05]

Well that's 2 things. First what he said could really be true and that depression and communication has become a problem for him.
Or the second route which is this is a cleaver way of lying for one to get out of a relationship for whatever other reasons that may hurt the one there dating. It becomes it's simpler to tell you this lie than tell you the truth which may hurt more.
So it's a lie based on the rational of it hurts you less than what he is really thinking. Which could be as blunt to just been I don't love you no more or something worse like finding someone else especially in a LDR nothing to say he couldn't of found a girl he liked closer to him.

However all such things are speculation and I wouldn't place bets on anything nor try to obsess over it.

[Asker]

I told him, even if he has found someone else.. I still want to be in his life. He then said he didn't want anyone else. He didn't tell me to go look for someone either. I told him I feel like I'm not enough for him. He told me I was. I don't get it. I'm just hurt and sad.

Abd I don't want to lose him. He's my best friend.

[Kaneki05]

In reality there is nothing you can do differently for him. He either wakes up and realises his mistake, gets help, or he is moving on.

[slatyb]

When a man tells you he's not ready, believe him. He's telling the truth. He's sporadically or chronically depressed and knows it. He's telling you that he won't be able to contribute much to you or anyone.

[Asker]

It's funny... I was going to try to convince him to go see someone about it. But I hadn't seen him in person to do so. I hope he isn't lying to me.

[Asker]

Not that he's ever lied to me... I just don't want him to start.

[spartan55]

His excuses sound like BS to me.

[Asker]

I don't know... he still wants to hangout with me