Question for guys! ex boyfriend's mom still LOVES me and talks to me! I don't know why

[Anonymous]

So my ex and I broke up a year ago and while I still love him and care for him, I have moved on and I don't speak to him or see him at all. I am in a new relationship and I am very happy. BUT one thing really boggles my mind. Even after all this time, my ex's mom still hits me up. She tells me she misses me and that she loves me or she'll just hit me up randomly just to say hi. And I know my ex is in a new relationship for about 6 months now so what gives? Why is his mom still hitting me up after all this time and especially even though her son is romantically involved with someone else now? How would you feel if your mom kept in close contact with an ex? Just curious

[aMuse]

I think he lets his mom get too involved in his relationships... I don't know, maybe it's a cultural difference or something but my parents stay the hell out of my relationships. They will be nice and welcoming but they won't bridge the gap into being friends with any girl I'm involved with unless we get married or something... None of my girlfriends or any of either of my brothers girlfriends have had any involvement with my mother. It's hi nice to meet you, nice to get to know you blah blah blah to the girls, and just them being willing to listen if I or either of my brothers choose to share anything about any girls we are involved with. When I get married I bet the extent of my mothers relationship with my wife would be calls to relay information about family gatherings and chit chat around the dinner table, family room, and in the kitchen during such gatherings. I don't foresee them ever hanging out as friends, going shopping together, sending text messages back and forth, or whatever. That just seems weird int he context of how my family works.

[CollinR]

My mom has before, it's more because I don't have sisters so she feels like that was a daughter for her so she likes to stay close, I don't know if that's the same situation for you but it's a possibility.

[Anonymous]

I know you wanted a guys point of view but I have had this happen with one of my exes mothers. We formed a bond during my ex and mines relationship and became close. So after the break up she told me and her son that she developed a friendship with me and enjoyed spending time with me and talking with me and how we would need to all be adults and he would need to get over it. It was awkward at firstut then I got in a new relationship and she supported that and even though my ex and I don't talk it is still kind of nice that something stayed the same. She even goes out to dinner with me occasionally. She never had a daughter and always wanted one so I think that's why.

[Anonymous]

This is exactly what happened to my past relationship with my ex as his mother really likes his ex and keeps in touch with her even though his son was in a relationship with me and always encouraged him to get back to her!

My thoughts would be that she really likes you regardless of the break up between you and your ex. She just wants to be in touch and even hits you up sometimes.

[thanhiii]

funny I'm reading this because just today I got an email from my ex's mom. we have been separated for over two years now. he's already remarried and expecting a baby this summer - I guess she just really cares etc

[Racez]

I think she just likes you as a person and as a friend. It doesn't have anything to do with your relationship with his son, it's just that she's comfortable talking to you.

[Anonymous]

I would probably cut off contact politely since it's really not much use to either side.