I don't do secrets, if they asked they will know. Although, I won't be spilling beans any time soon. For instance if it ties into a general question, yes I will tell them. I won't expect an specified answer and always "hide" what I know out of fear. I don't want to know about the ex's unless they are at my doorstep trying to beg my girlfriend to come back to him. I don't want to know if they f***ed, how they f***ed, where they f***ed, how many times they f***ed, or anything involving "f***ing" in general. IF she had/has a kid with him, I don't want the dude around.I'd sooner move on with my life than live in someone's past. I get over it, and move on. If the past remains a factor, then drama will be the result. I HATE pointless conflict.I trust them, but I don't need to know certain things, nor vice versa merely because it is the launch pad for drama. If It is so horrible that I think they should know, I will tell them within the week of meeting them. It is a very complex answer to give due to the numerous probablities that could result. In other words, I'll continue to over analyze the question and grant you numerous actions I could possibly do, but that is without point, so I stop here.. a paragraph later.
If its sex I want to know..i know most girls would be wierded out by talkig about therr past partners but but the sex details would turn me on just as long as she doesn't talk to the guy or see him AT ALL I like want to know what positions they did and if she blew him..just knowing the details about a girls sexual past is a super turn on for me..and just to make thingd clear no I do not want my girlfriend or wife to ever have sex with another guy even if its in front of me I'm not a cuckhold type of guy
I don't mind sharing my past but of what value is it to my new partner? I know for a fact that I don't care about his past nor do I want to know in the first few months of dating but I guess eventually sooner or later, one way or another I do find out about it. hopefully his past is a lesson learned - and he grew into a better and wiser person.
If your partner asks you a question then you shouldn't lie, lies have a tendancy of coming out, it's better to be up front about everything.
past is past and should left in the past... it might be a cause of another problem
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I hate to be so categorical.
But if you can't tell your signficant other ALMOST anything abut your past (assumng they want to know), then you haven't really overcome or ended your connection to the past relationship.
And that, of course, means problems for your present relationship, sooner or later, right?
Yes, tell your partner about your previous relations. Whatever response your partner will give on know it will come to you soon in the beginning rather than disclosing things later when you both are deep into each other. It will hurt both sides. Further, by speaking earlier, you'll also be able to probe her maturity level.
Its none of their buissness unless it involves your partner like having a restraining order on your ex, or if they were crazy or controlling.
New Lover might see that as a weakness, or worst leave your side. If its stuff like STD and etc ect. Than they have the right.
its not an acceptible topic to bring up unprovoked but its a perfectly acceptible subject to talk about if that's where the conversation is. With most of my exes we've talked about our exes at some point.
I'll answer almost any question but that doesn't mean I have to tell everything. Things in life can be interpreted many ways, all of which can be true. I don't understand what is with my generations urge to share everything. I like my secrets.
No, I'll just tell her. There's no point in hiding it.
It depends. If the secret could affect your partner, you owe them the honesty to come forward and tell them the truth.
I am a girl but I don't want to know all his fetishs with his ex. Especially bondage.
I have nothing to hide. Rare a girl is interested in my past love. Usually some details.
Dending on how big I'd probably keep it myself
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