Should you keep some secrets from one another in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[ChrisMaster69]

It really comes down to context and who is the point of the secret.

of it’s your own and it only effects you, then ideally sharing might help.

if say it was your mum was raped by her grandfather, then no that’s not a secret you would share with your partner.

my view tends to be, does it impact on the relationship, the trust, honesty, respect aspects, does my partner need to know, do they actually get anything from it, is it relevant.

for example say you cheated on an exam at age 12, it’s your secret, who really cares, yes nice to open up about it, however it’s like ‘yeah okay’

where you impact a 3rd party and they have either directly or indirectly trusted you with it, then unless it has a direct impact on your relationship, then you don’t share it.

[kinggeorge007]

It depends actually. It's not a blanket yes or no. Early in to a relationship, yes of course you can keep your secrets. But it's better if you can fully open up and be truthful to each other for a better relationship when it becomes a matured relationship. Still you you may have things that you can't tell each other. It's alright. But if you have something like that, keep it that way forever.

PS: this doesn't include other people's secrets. You are bound to keep them if you promised to keep them absolutely to you, no matter what's your relationship status.

[TacosRAwesome]

Somewhat. I don't need to know every woman my partner is attracted to. Like beyond his 3 hall passes, I am not interested.

[whereismyjohnny]

Nope. I think honesty and trust are very important in a relationship.

[Samhanks]

I think to a certain extent you have to keep certain secrets in case the relationship breaks for any reason ! Nobody know the future. Its a bit tough to decide what secrets to keep and what to share !

[dustybiker]

Not if you want to last.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

Depends on the secret

[serious]

The answer is NO.

[jahaims]

Nope.