SECRETS IN A RELATIONSHIP! Do you think people in a relationship may have secrets that they keep from their partner?

[gayesblog]

What do you think about it? Do you think people may have secrets in their relationship? Is this something personal or do you think everything should be shared in a relationship?

[DaveJord]

It really depends honestly. For example, I am divorced so I really think that is something that every woman I date should know. I tell them why it is I think the marriage did not work out, but do I tell them every single detail.

No, I do not, because honestly, I am not the same person I was 10 years ago, and it should not impact my current relationship in any way.

So, am I keeping secrets? No not really, because she knows all the most important details that she needs to know. All the little intimate details are not really her business.

But in general, there are definitely things that should be told, and keeping of secrets is not a good way to start a relationship.

[AviatorTom]

People always have secrets, and it's not always necessary, nor advisable for a partner to know all one's secrets. There should be no secrets, though, that directly affect one's partner... well, except for the planned surprise party coming up.

[WonderBell99]

It really depends on what the secret is. Keeping a few things to yourself because it does not concern them, that's fine... but knowingly withholding stuff when it does concern them and might be harmful to them, then no. I have SO many family secrets that I would carry to my grave.

I would never ever reveal them to anyone, including my husband (if I ever have any, in the future), especially if I came to know of it before we met each other, or if it does not concern him.

You need not tell your partner everything, but at the same time, you need not "omit" any important stuff that directly or indirectly affects your relationship.

[xoxosilentgirl]

absolutely!!
My cousin married this guy, she thought he’s the mr. perfect. Few years pass by and turns out he lied about his age, his education background, and apparently he used to get married before, and having a child.

[ManhattanMan1212]

Can I ask you a question?

[xoxosilentgirl]

sure

[ManhattanMan1212]

Would you dump a grease man just because he has a average penis size?

[xoxosilentgirl]

first of all i don’t like a grease man. But if you mean a great man, well hell nah, size doesn’t matter bcs im asexual, it would have been better if he got no penis at all

[Kaneki05]

Longs if those secrets don't involve lies that effect them.
For example you could have an embarrassing thing from 5 years ago before you even met them not telling them that is fine.
But if your lying about where your going at night and stuff then that is not.

Though if married or been together for years upon years just secrets as a whole I don't think should be a thing. Because who wants to have a love of their life they have to hide things from.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a problem with keepong your own secrets in a relationship, if they don't really affect the relationship itself.
I'm mostly an open book but I do have one secret I won't tell anyone, it's my personal worst life experience and has nothing to do with the people in my life, only my doctor knows that one.
I also say that you don't have to say everything to your friends, family or partner.

[Blackcupcake]

some do, some don’t… I personally may not tell my partner EVERYTHING but it’s not that I’m keeping it a secret, some things just never come up… now, if it did come up or he asked or I remember and feel like I want to tell him, I 100% would.

[Msputiton]

@blackcupcake did you make a new friend?

[Arik_jade]

I will not keep any secrets that could impact to relationship. Rather i will be transparent enough to have healthy relationship.
But yes, sometime certain things to be kept secret for the sake of family members/friends/partner to avoid any worries to them.

[Kinkyhubby]

Some secrets are ok. Their ar etchings in my past o don't tell my wife. But if it a secret that can destroy a relationship, os where the problem could be, maybe an affair, maybe having a kid they don't know about.

[dustybiker]

I don’t. Maturity is knowing if you want trust you give it.

Mystery I do have. Secrets are very different and do not.

[Faith18letsgo]

I definitely think there should be secrets in relationships it’s ok to be two different people who don’t share everything with each other.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

After sooo many years of honesty & togetherness, neither of us have anything left to hide & reveal.

[exitseven]

I have a secret that I have never told anyone. It was something that happened to me when I was 19 years old.

[CA4444]

No there’s always some stuff that I’d keep for myself I believe

[Samscott456]

I’m sure people do but that doesn’t mean it’s right.

[Rockstarrrrr]

I'm sure everyone would think " they can't have any secrets, but I can because I know me ".. And it's justified..

[Akam93]

I'm guilty of it because I've done it previous relationships.

[gayesblog]

Do you think it is a guilt? I think you mean you kept sth from your partner.

[Akam93]

I don't feel guilty. Your significant other doesn't need to know everything about your life.

[Anonymous]

I think honesty and openness are important to me. However, trust and good spiritedness are more important. I don't need to know everything if I can trust she's doing the right thing for us.

[Literalbillionaire17]

I think most if not everyone has things they keep from their partner for whatever reason.

[Alex8736]

if it something prior to the relationship and has nothing to do with the current one i would just keep it to myself

[Guy13]

I am sure we do...

[BJP21]

There are many things that are just best left unsaid.

[Tracker1958]

Men learn early in life. All women lie and cheat. Just a fact of life.

[Anonymous]

I am 100% sure that people keep secrets. However innocent the secrets maybe, they're still hidden.

[Midgetmcwidget]

Yea, although I'm rubbish at keeping secrets

[MrHopper]

I mean how do you get them a birthday present?

[Agape93]

Of course its ok, long as it isn't harmful

[FilmGuy93]

It's definitely not great to keep secrets

[EaterPeter]

Yes.