My ex and I broke up over a year ago. He ended things because he was stressed and the relationship put to much stress on him. I was heart broken. I really cared for this guy and enjoyed being with him.
I thought enough time had passed and wanted to befriend him again, so I sent the Facebook request the other day and...He just blocked me-just like that!. I thought after so long he would let go of this grudge he still has with me. I don't know what I did, if I even did anything.
Since the break up, he has dated a few people, and I have been in a relationship for the last 9 months.
To my knowledge, I didn't do anything to hurt him. I gave him his space like he asked and when I saw him out I would say "hi, how are you? It was good seeing you. Enjoy the rest of your night. " small talk.
With that said,
1. Why would a guy hold a grudge against someone this long when he chose to break up?
2. Do guys -knowing they hurt someone, regret it? Typically girls feel bad when they hurt someone relatively soon after and want to make amends. Just wondering if guys do to, or if it is something that they can brush off.
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What kind of stress did the relationship put on him? It would be nice to have some context.
Maybe you hurt him and he's trying to forget you, it might not be a grudge he just doesn't want to be reminded of the pain.
For the second part of your question, it all depends on the guy of course. So-called "players" hurt girls all the time and don't feel regret. If he's more of the caring or emotional type, he probably regrets hurting you and is trying to forget about it by avoiding you, or he feels like you wronged him in some fundamental way and isn't willing to forgive.
In short, he's probably trying to move on from a relationship that meant a lot to him but wasn't meant to be.0