Ex boyfriend doesn't want a relationship with me anymore...

We had a heartbreaking broke up but I feel he still has feelings...But he doesn't want to restart a new relationship with me anymore...We are now NC for 3 weeks..

Is it wise to keep NC Because his feelings may fade away...

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  • Your problem is that you believe that "love conquers all." That's simply not true.

    What IS true is that LOVE IS *NOT* ENOUGH. You must also be _compatible_ with each other, and clearly the two of you aren't. He knows that, which is why, despite still having feelings for you, he broke up with you and has made a clean break. He did the right thing, and YOU need to accept that this relationship HAS NO FUTURE. Until you do that, you'll be stuck on him forever, and won't be able to move on, when moving on is exactly what you need to do.

    This is a very important lesson: relationships require more than feelings, they also require compatibility, and if you don't have that, then your relationship cannot last, no matter how powerful your feelings for each other are. That's why it's so important when you meet someone and start dating them, that you TALK to each other a lot about all areas where compatibility is important. IMO, your first 3 dates need to be talking about that kind of stuff heavily, until you've both gotten through your own personal lists of areas where compatibility matters.

    If you don't do this, then you're going to doom yourself to repeating this pattern: falling for guys you aren't compatible with, and having relationship after relationship fail. Hopefully you learn the lesson before you do that again.

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  • Andhe may bell be wonderng the same about you.should he keep NC much longer, because your feelings may fade.,

    Someone has to break the logjam, to see if you both still want to be together. After 3 weeks, you've had the time to think over what happened. You have reached some conclusions, both of you.

    So try to contact him! What have you got to lose, ,if you are still wanting to try to be a couple?!

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    • but the last time we had contact, I was confessing all my love to him etc. and he told me I will live better without him...i feel so scared to be rejected again

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    • and his mom really dislikes me to a great extent :(

    • Ohhh,...so try to workon mom if you get the chance. Good idea to see him face to face, where you can really see what his feelings are.

      Best Answer, no? Good luck!

  • If he doesn't want a relationship chances are there's a reason for it. Why chase after someone that doesn't want you, that just turns you into a needy ex girlfriend. It's not cute and eventually it becomes creepy.

    Don't waste your time & energy. Let him go for good and find love somewhere else with someone else.

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  • If he doesn't want to restart your relationship, he doesn't have feelings for you anymore. Keep the NC

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  • It's really wise to keep NC forever.

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What Girls Said 2

  • why bug him if he doesn't want the relationhip anymore...nc is the ONLY way to break the bond.

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    • I know he still loves me :(

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    • if it is so deep and strong..why isn't he coming after u

    • because we two tgt have so many problems and we hurt each other too much... :( but I believe if it is true love we could work it out

  • That's what a breakup is...ending a relationship.Not having anymore feelings.Why are you trying beat a dead horse?Its over,move on.If he wanted to be with you...he would be with you.End of story.

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    • couldn't it just be a time matter

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    • but I know he still loves me..

    • You keep knowing and thinking that then...

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