Can chemistry disappear forever?

Just curious what you guys think about chemistry? If two people had amazing chemistry, is it always there, or can it go away for good?

My ex and I had incredible chemistry. We worked together, but we used to always talk so easily for hours. We seemed like we liked all the same things. Then he asked me out, and we dated very seriously for a year. He broke up saying he genuinely got scared that things were going to smoothly, and we may never end...and at 24, and someone for whom this was their first real relationship, he couldn't make such a commitment.

We still had a lot of chemistry for months after we broke up. But nowadays, I feel like the most boring, unfunny, unimpressive person around him. I feel like I act the exact same as before, he just couldn't care less.

Anyways, is chemistry something that's always there, or does it depend on the context? Is it only there when you like somebody, and make yourself seem more like them? Can intense chemistry just disappear, or stop momentarily while people are getting over the pain of a breakup?

I don't want to date this guy again, but I do miss having a guy friend with so much chemistry that I love talking to them. So I wish I could go back to being friends like how we were before.


Most Helpful Guy

  • in my experience it will still be there, but you have to just try to forget about it. But it will always still be there, even the way you look at each other.


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What Guys Said 1

  • Chemistry can disappear forever provided here's a deep reason for it.


What Girls Said 2

  • I feel like chemistry can disappear as people grow and change. I've dated some guys who are amazing, but after a while the chemistry we had started to fade and one or both of us decided it was tome to move on. all relationships start with amazing chemistry, the variable is how long that chemistry lasts. someday you will find a great guy who will be the amazing boyfriend and your best friend all in one and he will not get scared about commitment.

  • From what I see from my friends and family I think once a couple has great chemistry then it will always stay, even if they hate each other. But I don't find that a reason to go back to an ex or a bad relationship.


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