She doesn't mean oblivious is a positive. She means that if he had been oblivious (the better way of looking at negative traits as she showed), then he wasn't trying to be inconsiderate, but merely not see that how he was acting was wrong. Obviously being oblivious isn't a good thing, but it's an excuse for being inconsiderate some use to twist the negative trait into something tolerable because they're blinded by attraction, or by the better person they have mentally warped the person into in their head.
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Seeming oblivious is a positive?
She doesn't mean oblivious is a positive. She means that if he had been oblivious (the better way of looking at negative traits as she showed), then he wasn't trying to be inconsiderate, but merely not see that how he was acting was wrong. Obviously being oblivious isn't a good thing, but it's an excuse for being inconsiderate some use to twist the negative trait into something tolerable because they're blinded by attraction, or by the better person they have mentally warped the person into in their head.