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For the guys section I agree with everything except the male friends part knowing guys they would want to try it on with the girl no way I'm gonna let that happen on my watch
It's her responsibility to decline their moves. I have tons of guy friends who have never made a move on me and never will, so calm down with your paranoia.
Besides, if she's a cheater then she'll cheat no matter what, guy friends or not.
It's not the girl I don't trust but at the heat of the moment she might have her guard down and the guy will know to take advantage of that
@LightsOff
Uhhh no? And if he takes advantage of her then it's obviously not her fault, and not something you should be jealous of or feel hurt over? More like feel mad at the douche for taking advantage of your girlfriend, which would be considered sexual assault.
And that could happen with literally ANY guy, not just her guy friends...
@LightsOff Explain to me please why, if a girl has sex and it's "in the moment", it's not her fault. She still had the capacity to say no.
You said he took advantage of her... i. e. it's not her fault. If she agrees to it in the heat of the moment then he's not taking advantage of her since she's consenting. Taking advantage of = not receiving consent.
I didn't mean sexual assult more like making a move on my girl. Girls are naive and Can let themselves be manipulated why take a chance.
I'm loyal and don't go out with other girls so why should she? @LightsOff
Having friends of the opposite sex is not the same as going out with someone -_- and if he makes a move and she consents, then obviously she's not worth dating. But that could happen even if she doesn't have any male friends. So having male friends doesn't really make a difference. Like I said if she's a cheater then she'll cheat no matter what. And plenty of girls aren't weak-minded, we're able to tell guys no especially if we want to be faithful to our partner.
people who are friends usually go out doing activities together, and the only difference between me and her friend would be I`m a bit more physical so not much difference thats not to say she could be emotionally cheating with the guy also. won't work out plus she could develop feelings for him this is how most cheating starts of as just being friends. @LightsOff
Sorry, but if a girl wants to cheat there's nothing you can do about it. Same goes with her guy friends, she most likely won't stop talking to them just because you want to. Remember that the majority of girls don't cheat despite having guy friends. And if a girl cheats it might be because the relationship is going south anyway and you aren't fulfilling her needs. Like I said she won't be stopped if she really wants to cheat, having guy friends don't make any difference.
If you don't trust her, why are you dating her? That was, in fact, the point of that point.
@LightsOff Are you completely ok with your man having gal friends?
@MrCryptic obviously. Where I'm from most people are in a group of friends that consists of both guys and girls. 99% of the guys have at least one female friend. It's kind of inevitable. As long as he doesn't do anything shady behind my back I'm fine. And as long as he doesn't prioritize her over me, or hang out with/text her late at night, I don't see why he shouldn't be allowed to be her friend.
@lightoff Very well. You brought up some decent points throughout this but you might be surprised how defensive some women get when I turn the situation around and how they are NOT ok with their boyfriends having female friends because they say "it's different." The only other point I could argue is that we are human and can be prone to temptation in the wrong situations so why add possible fuel to the fire. Some of the most staunch people I've met men and women alike always talk about how they would NEVER cheat, etc. but sometimes when they are in the wrong situation it happens. I'm not against having opposite sex friends but I think there should be respectful boundaries towards each others SO's for instance what you named in your last post and maybe no hanging out with the opposite sex friends unless the SO is there and things of that nature.
@MrCryptic @LightsOff the only thing you achieve by preventing your SO from having other-sex friends is being a controlling possessive crazy person who's forcing their partner into an abusive relationship that any sane individual would want to run away from.
@Mesonfielde Neither of us said we were preventing it or against them having opposite sex friends. I wish people would run away from abusive relationships but unfortunately many do not.
I love your curvy vs. fat point! And might I just say, DAMN the girl who illustrates curvy is HOT!!! LOVE her!
Thank you very much :) I'm glad people like my take!
I do! I really wish people wouldn't use "curvy" as a euphemism for "morbidly obese." I think you've illustrated EXACTLY how each term should be used.
I don't possess those qualities. Maybe it boils down to luck half the times. The list can be true, but what if the other person just doesn't appreciate you because they're the douches.
You do realize that the only qualities that humans can't change is their basic body shape, base intelligence and their core personality? Fat/muscle can be changed, outfits can be changed hair can be changed, skin tone can be changed (within reason), personality traits can be changed, even intelligence can be changed. You can actually become smarter by learning, but there is a genetic difference that sets limits for people. That's why some people are naturally smarter, but the less intelligent people can also become smarter. So no, only a small amount is luck.
You're point, kid? I am not off the bat of looks and I'm doing a science degree. Divorce rates are 50% and many people of our parents generation (and ours) prefer online dating. A successful relationship can be more difficult nowadays, even if an individual doesn't have those listed qualities or just a few.
Well, you also need to find potential partners in the sense that they're interested in a relationship with you and vice versa.
Also, you totally forgot the mention @Albinoninja66 .
@Medionfielde I have gotten responses without the hashtags and I don't really care to re-message again.
Yes thats a good quality.. Interest!.
Am I the only girl in the world who is ok with guys in sweatpants? lol
Anywho I agree with what you said about both girls and guys.
Hey, when I go to the comic book store I dress for comfort!
Although come to think of it maybe still going to comic book stores after grad school is indicative of a larger problem...
That is not a problem
Just because a girl is "obese" dont really mean she's unattractive
My girl weighs 230lbs with lots of belly fat and all that & she's extremely sexy
She pay what she weigh - Snoop Dogg 2014
Gross...
So judgmental ^^^^^^^^
i agree with the take but concerning the clingy part... so according to you were not supposed to text the so?
"I get that you want someone to talk to all the time, someone to rely on, who makes you feel safe. That's what we all want, really. But I see so many girls dropping every interest and hobby they have, and expecting their boyfriend to be the same. This isn't healthy, and is going to drive him away, and make you both miserable.
You don't need to text him every hour. You don't need to see him every day (especially early in the relationship; it's different if you live together). Take care of yourself, and keep your own social life going. Be reasonable, and let him have his own, too."
Where did I say not to text the SO? I said not abandon your own life and interests in favour of a relationship, and that you don't need to text him constantly. I think they're pretty valid points. Getting texts all day from someone, especially if you're busy, is incredibly annoying, and it's not good behaviour for a new relationship.
my bad lol i agree... i only Skype with that someone special in the morning before i go to classes then in the afternoon when am back... so its not to clingy right?
*too clingy
No of course not! The clingy part mostly refers to texting constantly without him replying, when he's obviously busy, or sending multiple texts in a row.
*feeling relieved lol
There are way too many reasons why I'm single XD But damn, I love it! I haven't met a couple who truly loves each other...
You're right. Neither have I.
@Calex And people around your age is "mature"... Guess love is so damn complicated.
There are also a lot of people that are single because they decided to be so.
This ^. It was completely me for a while.
I feel like all of these points apply on both genders at a certain level.
True.
"How to keep a good relationship" would be an appropriate title. "Why you're single" is vaster.
I'm so far removed from the dating scene these days ^^ this was a good my take though... I might just be a captain sweatpants lol
Very on point on both genders. I've always wondered why Johnny Bravo had trouble getting women despite of his looks
Great article! Really enjoyed it!
Hit the nail on th head!
This article speaks so much truth regarding both sexes. It was a really good read. Thanks for posting it @GingerBear.
I guess
Pretty good and blunt take with a lot of good points, shows you how tuff a relationship can be at times
You forgot about "space " which is really important in relationships. Overall, this is a great take!
And yet I am still unable to get dates, even after genuinely believing in all that.
Well, you're young. I know that doesn't help, but you've probably not met girls mature enough to understand you. If you understand and believe all that, I'm not surprised that they'd have trouble getting you.
lol you're only like two years older than me.
There's a marked difference between men and women when it comes to age and brain development.
Regardless, the fact remains that you ARE young. I'm young too. I'm not surprised it's hard for you to find dates, just like I'm not surprised it's hard for most young people, including me.
I see a lot of "talk to each other" suggestions here but, some girls don't have time to talk about things or just want to avoid talking about negative things.
Wanna know why i'm single? Cuz all the boys at my school are immature ass holes who are clueless. .. xD
Lol this is like 60% of the boys and girls at my school
Well it's true
Well obviously, but under 18, everyone is immature.
I'm pretty sure I didn't become sufficiently mature until I was 21, and I used to think I was "oh so mature" before that all the time.
Well mostly boys are the immature ones, the girls at least have some common sense xD
No. Everyone is immature without exception - without realizing it. That's what being a teenager is about!