Have you ever changed for a guy? Changed for a girl?
Have you ever pretended just a little bit, because it's easier to get love that way?
Be careful, the road ahead is bumpy.
No matter how long we've known the guy, how much we trust him or how well he treats us, we question every thing about ourselves. It's in out nature, a natural instinct telling us "this is not good enough". This is passed on from girl to girl, how men like their women, what men really want and how to be the perfect wifey. So we start playing games. Based on all the expectations we think guys have for us (wich are all bullshit by the way) we start pretending to someone we aren't. We pretend to be perfect, creating a personality and energy so unmaintainable it is bound to go wrong.
We act happy, sexy, flirty because we think, that we have too. The truth is though, this doesn't make us happy. This makes us sad. We start feeling a pressure, wefeel like we're not good enough and when we can no longer keep up, we start being us selves. Then the guy then asks us "what's wrong". He notice you've changed, you'll tell him (as the good girlfriends we are) that "nothings wrong" and you'll both be dissapointed because the relationship has changed, and it's all down hill from there. This is the reason why so many relationships end.
When the mask comes off, the guy blames you because you've changed. He no longer feels like you're the girl he fell in love with and he gets upset. You feel pressured and sad because you can't live up to his expectations for you and this creates a distance so big, the relationship is bound to end.
In my opinion this could've all been avoided, with small adjustments. In the end, we are our own worst enemy, we make up all theese problems and flaws to get rid of, so that we can find the love of our life. Truth is, it's all in your head. Of couse, there's always ways to improve, but focus on your own personality and what YOU like about yourself. If you love what you see, others will do it too. Girls tend to think, that they should believe every one of their girlfriends stories about guys. But the only advice you really need is your own.
The whole idea of a good relationship is to find that one person, with whom you can let all your walls come down. Someone who makes you feel safe being you, and who apreciate you, for who you are.
YOU are what a man wants, and you are not a stereotype.
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