I am a 21 year old female. All my life (I make myself sound so old) I've been told by colleagues and family members that I am too picky when it comes to finding a SO. Anytime I would worry with a friend about my "single status" they would always imply to not worry/expect to remain in this predicament due to being too picky. Okay, I don't know whether I should take their advice or listen to my little gut. I am sure I am not the only female in this situation. I am sure you ladies, probably even patient gents, are questioned at family events regarding your relationship status and are either complimented/questioned in the process. I believe it is due to our morals/standards/sixth sense when it comes to this touchy subject. I mean, why settle for anyone? People would tell me "I think the problem is you will not just pick ANYONE." Well, why the heck would I? There have even been people online that told me the reason I am single is because I tend to go for people "above my league" and remain alone due to shutting down the ones in my league. I find that to be offensive in a way, yet I ponder their judgement. Been considered stuck up and the online community attacks me when I post questions like these, when I am considered the judgmental female with a shitty personality. Really now? Okay peeps, go light on me here, we are all in this together 😬
What is wrong with females being "too selective" when it comes to relationships?
Most Helpful Guy
I'd say your not being you and that's the turn off I think. But that's coming from a guy dating a 20 yr old lol. But that's what I get told to do and what my girlfriend loves about me is that I'm goofy in my own quirky way. Just express yourself differently if one way doesn't work try another
Most Helpful Girl
There's nothing wrong with females being selective. No such thing as 'too selective'. No one should ever have to settle and be with someone who they don't feel is right for them because of external pressures to do so.
The only thing wrong with being selective and the main group of people who hold that belief are the guys who get rejected or 'never get a chance'. We've got a ton of them posting rants on here.. they choose to direct their focus and energy to bitching and being bitter towards the girls who reject them and men who do get female attention for whatever reason instead of just trying to 'fix' the actual problem and improve themselves. Make a 'better catch' of themselves.