I'll start this off by saying I was born into what many woudl call great privleage. This is admitattly a take from an outsider's perspective, but I've seen countless examples of how "gangster" "thug" and "hood" time tend to approach dating and what I feel works.
Regardless of race of the girl or of the guy, there's a fantasy mystique that's been attached to a culture built around not having even the average household income in the States. There's something alluring and comforting even to girls who are no longer or have never been part of this culture or community. There's almost a dark fantasy built around a culture that gives up ideas of "class" for ideas of "swagger." There's a primal, sexuality and rawness to them that seems to appeal against the better judgement of the more well to do and while this is usually rare in practice given the separate social worlds they tend to exist in I do see more and more crossing over especially when it comes to hook up culture.
Confidence, Danger, Lack of Pretention
The first is the most obvious. While rich guys obviously tend to be more arrogant overall, "hood" guys tend to be more confident when it comes to themselves as indviduals not as a part of their "group" like the affuluent do.
The second is obvious as well. There's a danger to getting sexually or romantically involved with some from a lower social economic background. For one, you're not "supposed" to usually and people make judgments which you can see for yourself furthing strengthening the belief that this person deserves your love and attraction. In other words, things are more sexy when they're forbidden, misjudged, and tabboo.
The third is a bit more subtle. There's a rawness we look for in everyone we meet which becomes obscured when you're told you're this, that, and the other. You start to believe you're someone other than just yourself and then you start acting like how you believe "such a person" would act.
THE WHY
There's a lot of reasons we could come with why these three things are often seen as givens when it comes to someone of such a background, but I'm more curious to go deeper than most do about it to find the truth behind the curtain. My reason why for "hood" guys and even "hood" girls tend to have these three in excess?
THEY DON'T HAVE A CHOICE!
If a gangster is too depressed to go to work...he doesn't eat. If a thug doesn't believe in himself there's no helpful guardian figure in their life or well paid therapist to tell them to believe in themselves. They're on their own. If they want that girl at school every one wants but they're dirt broke they have to have confidence becasue that's the only thing they own. Confidence then naturally arrives from need.
They have to be ok with danger because danger is honestly around them. Police obviously don't police their areas as well as others, racial profile them, and drugs are riddled throughout most low income neighborhoods. Given this it's no surprise they're convincing at pulling the bad boy act and for the girls it isn't hard to see why innocent polo wearing guys are thrilled by a woman who doesn't blind at the sound of a gun shot and it's not a surprise why she can be so calm.
The last one well of course is being born without anything obviously makes it easier to become one with the Earth around you. You can't really be materialistic...what materials would you have to obsess over to that degree? Instead you let go of the things that don't matter because, again, you don't have a choice. You don't own anything frivlous things...any luxury. You've lost pretention becuase you never gained it.
Doubtless this pisses some people off because of the obvious generalizations, but next time you get mad the broke guy got the girl consider that he just didn't have a choice but to develop such a personality and also consider that you can develop those same traits if you want but the difference is you have a choice.
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