Test of a Highly Attractive Male: Not Swayed By Beautiful Women

[pavlove]

There's many things that separate guys who get hot girls constantly and guys who are begging and embarrasing themselves struggling to get the attention of any girl at all, but it's not six packs, it's not blue eyes, and it's not full wallets (at least not mostly.) It's a certain attitude...a way of seeing the world that makes a lot of the difference.

So many guys put so much importance into a woman's beauty that she becomes god like. These guys walk around and get passed by a hot girl and think "oh my god" and they could never be with them because they are so incredibly gorgeous. Of course they think this way...if all that matters is how beautiful a girl is then if she's a 10 that means she is in fact god like and better than you could ever get let alone consistently.

Some guys are so into this plastic world way fo thinking that they think of these women as superhuman...

Guys who are actually getting with these women simply see them as human...they spit, they belch, they deficate. They're human they just happen to have that "look" that everyone goes crazy for."

Guys have to learn that it's more about the depth of a person that's 80% of it and once you know how to see that and once you start putting emphasis on that you will not only be going after the right girls but you will be treating girls who are "very pretty" as just normal girls (which secretly they want even if they act like they enjoy walking over men.)

One little thing you can do is see a girl put on make up...really understand how much of a difference it makes. Girls who take guys breathe away just by walking away are often, not always, wearing a decent amount of make up. It's designed to be more dynamic than anyone naturally looks so that "how does anyone look this good?!" feeling passes. Guys who don't live in a huge city may never see a girl at this level but just imagine one of the Guess models walking into the coffee shop like she isn't way more gorgeous than anyone else there. Again, you have to have the attitude who happens to have looks rather than giving her points for her assets...that's like a girl thinking you're a god because she loves money and you are mega rich so she just stares all the stuff you own...yea maybe at first it makes you feel like a boss but eventually after girl after girl does that you'll want one that isn't impressed.

And finally stop thinking that if all you did all day everyday is have sex or if you got to date your dream girl you'd be set and happy and wouldn't ever want anything else in life...in reality, you'd have more problems not less.

^Stop Being This Guy

When You See This v

#pavlove

[Polocrew]

Obsessing over someone you gonna do 5 mins with is really dumb af and those nerds should loose virginity first lol

[Luci92]

I wish you could tell this to the (majority) of the teenage guys in my year!! Like wipe that drool up!

[sexyfart]

maybe you should drool more

[Anonymous]

Are there guys who live in a false reality? Yes. Some guys do treat women like goddesses and I'm not saying that's a good thing. In some ways it can be beneficial because perhaps those guys will treat said women with respect and decency. On the other hand though with this comes superficial tendencies (from females). This is where your logic is incorrect (in my opinion).

See you STILL think that just because a guy acts like he doesn't care about anything in life that he'll get pussy thrown at him. Wrong. Often times when guys are douche bags and they do get pussy it's their confidence that the females liked. Not that they cared about nothing in life. The confidence that they have is what "swayed" them.

I've also noticed that you're a man of variety. I am too in some things, but apparently not in some of the ways you are. A good example of this comes from your example about men having money and women being wowed by it. You said eventually the man would get bored of it (paraphrasing). I'm sure that depends on the man you ask, but in my case it would be more so that someone wants my money than anything. I'm cheap. It doesn't bother me when girls stare and gawk at me. I don't get bored of it. In fact if it doesn't happen in a while I often times feel a bit discouraged. I like the attention and can't get enough. I'm sure some females are like this too hence why guys who treat women like goddesses do run the risk of being a cause for them to be superficial. Again though I believe that in moderation females (though I'm not a female) would be very welcoming of such attention like I mentioned I am.

I also didn't like your small remark towards people who don't live in big cities. I'm glad you said may, but in most cities or towns I've been to be it small, medium, or large population have all had some really hot girls there. Perhaps my open preferences make a difference here, but I doubt I'd be the only guy out of a group of guys who would say so. I also don't think make up necessarily makes a female more or less attractive. It really depends on the female. Some look better natural and some look better with make up. So the chick who puts on make up to "wow" the guys might just look like a clown or mime.

[Opinion Owner]

One last point: I will say that in my case while there are very very hot females out there I've never seen a perfect 10. I really don't have a dream broad either. Not that I've seen yet anyway.

[Rawrzz]

Humans are human. That means we're hierarchical. People are undoubtedly on different levels. People date their equals--and all of them are aiming higher than their equals. If you're not an attractive guy and you're aiming for a 10, then you'd better have a great job, great social skills, /thebankaccount and/or numerous other qualities that even out the difference of values.

And since there's an already-present value discrepancy between males and females from birth, females having natural social value and males start out with 0, males have to gain all the more value to be equivalent to a "hot goddess"--or even an average woman. In society's eyes, that's basically what they are. The only way it would work is if she is super insecure, thus devaluing herself to a typical guy's level. Or if she has some imperfection that she sees as devaluing.

It's convoluted, because the primary way males measure female's value is adding the default social value they have (subconsciously) + attractiveness. Easy enough. Then the way women measure men is a whole shitload of characteristics and attributes and overall value.

But I do agree with one thing. Dating and sex have more problems than they're worth.

[Hal2002]

I tell guys this all the time, stop putting women on a pedestal. A women is out of your league, only if you thinks she is.

The difference between you and the guy that gets the hot girl, is only that he had the confidence to talk to her.

Yes there are some really beautiful women that think they are gods gift, and treat everyone without money or look like crap. But you have some average looking women, that do the same thing.

I never figured out why, it seems a rejection from a really hot girl carries more pain and embarrassment then being rejected by an average girl.

[pavlove]

well said.

i think too that like yeah everyone would hypothetically love to date a perfect 10 just like they would love to earn a million dollars. The problem with both isn't so much the work involved it's that most people think it's crazy to think that that's possible. And if you were to tell your friends hey dudes my plan is to make a million dollars in the next five to ten years they'd probably laugh or if they're very nice they might like oh thats a great goal! and not really think he can do it. or with a girl who looks like angelina jolie they'd be like in the back of your mind uh you're an average guy with average money you're seriously deluded. again this is just confirmation for what most guys already think in their head that such a woman would auto reject. my hope with this take is that you don't see them as goddesses and so the idea of being with them isn't so out of your beliefs that it could happen

[sexyfart]

I don't know if it helps to get girls, it certainly helps with your self respect. Girls are used to guys pandering to them for that pussy. They're not going to stop being spoiled by that interaction, and they generally get mad when you refuse to spoil them to. If they act like a bitch and you treat them like a bitch, they will think something is wrong with you. And sometimes, they will be masochistic and submissive, and sometimes they will fuck you because they think they will earn your respect that way, and they want what they can't have. But to be honest, seeing girls as human beings is not really on par with their agenda at most times, because they've gotten comfortable with the dumbass brigade and all their flattery and goodies. They won't fuck those guys, they won't even touch them with a 10 foot pole, but it doesn't mean they don't wish you were one of them. They're probably mad at themselves for being attracted to you.

[Dandeus]

I totally agree that the depth of a person is 80% of it... I don't agree that chicks who look like those photos have much depth as people. The truly elite beautiful women of the world are coddled their entire lives to depend on their looks and don't wind up developing a personality or intellect.

They walk around their entire lives looking at this surrounding them

cf.girlsaskguys.com/.../...b-89ae-2e592e60fc63.jpg

and those dudes fall over themselves to do everything for the chick. I'm not saying they're rotten people, but they aren't interesting either. I'll take an interesting 7/8 over a boring 10.

[pavlove]

sad truth that most 10's won't have great personalities... but i do believe ever man meets at one 10 who does... yet if looks aren't as important there's no need to wait/chase... look are one component only.

[sexyfart]

i haven't met a beautiful girl once who wasn't absolutely terrible in some aspect. psychotic, stupid, self destructive or narcissistic. Adversity and perspective shapes character. A blade tempered by fire gets strong, while a blade tempered by marshmallows gets sticky, and then those marshmallows rot.

[sp33d]

Oh dear, you contradict yourself
"There's many things that separate guys who get hot girls constantly and guys who are begging and embarrasing themselves struggling to get the attention of any girl at all, but it's not six packs, it's not blue eyes, and it's not full wallets (at least not mostly.) It's a certain attitude... a way of seeing the world that makes a lot of the difference."

VS.

"And finally stop thinking that if all you did all day everyday is have sex or if you got to date your dream girl you'd be set and happy and wouldn't ever want anything else in life... in reality, you'd have more problems not less."

furthermore, you point out that guys shouldn't view "these kind of girls" as some sort of goddesses (ok, I agree here since she isn't one, anyway), BUT then by your description, it would immediately imply that he wouldn't care about dating "these kind of girls" anyway. You are reasoning in circles.

[Rufus335]

there's high sexual desire and high value. just because a girl is sexually desirable doesn't mean she's has high value.

look at the "goddesses" as high in sexuality not value. sexuality means nothing it doesn't mean she's better that you it just means she's hot.

guys can't really discern the two. you have to treat the goddess and any normal girl which is how they should and want o be treated

[sp33d]

@Rufus335 by referring to "them" as godesses I see your point as moot.

[Rufus335]

by using goddesses in quotations im referring to what the article authors definition of goddesses were. if you could read you would have deduced that.

[KBob93]

I really like this. When I was at my peak of beauty I hated being called beautiful all the time. It got so redundant. I say this to validate your point in which beautiful girls long to be treated normally instead of worshiped.

[pavlove]

Thanks : )

How come you're no longer at that peak?

[KBob93]

My hair is shorter, my stomach is still relatively flat but not as flat as it was when I was 20...

[pavlove]

lol the difference two years can make i guess...

why the short hair?

[KBob93]

I got on a medication for a few months that caused my hair to frazzle. I had to cut the dead hair off into a bob, now it's past my collarbone.

[pavlove]

oh, sorry to hear that... hopefully the meds work pretty well?

[KBob93]

I'm off them now. I don't know... I feel undesirable but it's whatever.

[UtopianLobotomy]

You are 22?

[KBob93]

@UtopianLobotomy Yes... does it not look it?

[pavlove]

what about extensions?

[KBob93]

It's growing back so it's not a big deal.

[UtopianLobotomy]

You aren't at "your peak beauty"? You are prime age, you can change the things you mentioned if you really wanted to. Not that it should effect your true beauty anyway.

[pavlove]

but in the meantime your boyfriend suffers...

[KBob93]

How am I making my boyfriend suffer?

[sexyfart]

LMAO. i don't think its that simple. girls love to be worshipped. They CRAVE to be treated like a normal human being, but most are in denial about it.

[Phoenix98]

I agree it's a simple matter of attitude as well as seeing women for what they are human beings though some are more plastic then human. Though I never got the obsession with flawless women, to me that isn't real nor realistic, no one is perfect nor flawless.

[Dulcedulcexoxo]

I get what your saying but you are contradicting yourself. Also, in 2016 the last thing you should worry about is make up but plastic surgery, that is the ultimate illusion and it's far more common than you think but if your o. k with that than you should be o. k with makeup.

[pavlove]

and how am i contradicting myself?

[kittykatbrat]

(laughing)

The key to getting a hot girl is that SHE has to be physically and sexually attracted YOU while simultaneously not being repelled by your personality... the end :)

[kittykatbrat]

*to YOU

[pavlove]

i think we're all aware of that?

[kittykatbrat]

Tbh, I think most men aren't and believe in a mythical "one-size-fits-all" approach or anti approach.

Looks DO matter.
Personality and sex are just bonuses.

[Azara]

a bit misleading. i thought this was going to be about behavior women would find attractive in a guy- not basing everything on looks- not a guide to appear un phased by looks you can get 'looks'. ok.

but yeah generally being realistic about things in life makes more sense and garners better results. and no one likes being treated like a thing, even if that thing is beauty

[Anonymous]

You're contradicting yourself. this is basically a guide on how to get the really hot girls but you're basically telling guys that to get these girls they have to stop seeing them as these godesses. but if they did, they wouldn't care about dating super hot girls in the first place. thats circular reasoning and doesn't make sense. i agree that it isn't all about looks but that's something people can only learn on their own

[pavlove]

if you look at it like that I suppose you're right, but the way i meant it was that you can recognize a guy is hot but the problem is when that's the only standard of attraction for a guy than any girl who is a perfect 10 is an absolute goddess to you. Instead, if you see beauty as just one thing that makes a girl attractive than you can be less swayed by that trait. make sense?

[dominiquois]

It's rare to find a pretty girl whose not a least a little stuck up. It comes with the territory.

[pavlove]

but even the stuck up ones appreciate a man who isn't impressed with them just for their beauty

[dominiquois]

It depends.

[dominiquois]

As in it depends on the guy and how attractive he is.

[Dandeus]

He's right. I was friends with a model for a while who appreciated me specifically because I didn't kiss her ass.

[dominiquois]

It happens

[brain5000]

Even though I know drooling over a hot girl is always a bad idea, I struggle with it at times. Thanks for the Take, it is always good to have the reinforcement.

[ChromAzonyx108]

Some guys may just be asexual - so it's not necessarily attractive guys who care less about women's appearances.

I agree that a guy's attitude is important. It's not a question of time but a question of the quality of your mind.

[FilthyPervert]

You are half correct.

There is no woman on Earth who doesn't want the power to make her boyfriend/husband render incapable of resisting her if she really puts the charm on but she also doesn't want it to be too easy.

It's about making yourself look hard to get but being medium to get for her that is how being a true player works. :)

No girl wants to be with a guy who isn't unable to keep his hands off her but it's about knowing that the guy is not easy to get that makes it worth it.

[DizzyAster]

I think every guy gets to that point with time and experience. It's like the 13 y/o he probably came from touching a girl. At 33, he tells his super hot, naked girlfriend to move because she's blocking the game.

[pavlove]

haha whoever that guy is... he's a boss

[YepThatsIt]

This definitely said it. That feeling when your girlfriend blocks the view on your newest released video game. I know, I know, you're pretty. Now let me see what happens to Ellie. I'm busy.

[Dousj]

Exactly! Therein lies the key to success. Most guys dont get it, they see a pretty face and get worked up and already lose mentally. Then I realized, a pretty face is just that.

[pavlove]

thanks yeah it's very simple but so often missed!

[red324]

This only helps if you see a girl regularly and you can treat her like a normal human being. I agree though, you shouldn't drool over a hot girl cause the ugly ones can be just as bitchy as the hot ones.

[red324]

@notenough This sounds more like it. I'm 5' 4'' tall super skinny, and probably average looking at best, girls don't even look at me, and girls treat me like I'm some pyshco.

[notenough]

6,3
big dick
not super skinny at all, yes I have muscles
and yeah I'm average looking in my opinion

I've had sex over 1000 times probably more than 2000
trust me I know what im talking about

[UtopianLobotomy]

@notenough I've had sex that much, but 99% of that was with one woman. LOL you probably have VD if it wasn't with just a few women that you did it that much with

[notenough]

@UtopianLobotomy \
why would I go around and have sex with a large number of women nah that's stupid
I've been with few women and I like it that way, plus I'll have more as I get older so I'm in no rush

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Lol good my take, essentially all dudes like putting chicks on pedestals. Its that mindset that screws them over leading to girls using them or screwing them over.