She works 10AM-6PM yet cannot manage to get her life in order. She’s consistently struggling with “stress” because she doesn’t get to spend enough time doing the things she wants to do, yet she goes out 3-4 times per week. Her parents still pay most of her bills because her college major won’t pay the bills…yet. Or so she says.
2. She’s unable to make a decision without consulting her daddy.
Confidently making decisions is the sign of a true adult. We may have absolutely NO idea if it is the right one, but we make it, learn from it, and move on. If your girlfriend needs to have a phone conference with her “daddy” to figure out if it’s “OK” to put air in the tires of her car, reconsider the fact that she’s your girlfriend.
Sure, that Louis Vuitton handbag looks great tucked under her spray-tanned skin and dyed hair, but if she worries about paying rent this month, her priorities are clearly out of order.
4. She’s simply “figuring out her next move.”
The uncertain, unmotivated, “drifting through life” type of female is more common than one might think. I’ve had the great pleasure of meeting several driven, successful women that make it even worse for this type of girl. You wonder if they’ll ever make moves that will ultimately lead them to their idea of success or if they’ll continue to work at the local five-and-dime.
5. She believes that “twerking” is an acceptable dance move in her mid-twenties.
Miley Cyrus is her “hero.” She firmly believes that no one can “hold her down” and “judge her,” but the truth is that everyone does. The way you represent yourself while out on the town still exists the next day. Just because you had one too many shots of vodka doesn’t mean the girl snapping your picture and posting it online did. Welcome to the world of social media.
6. Lying, stealing, and cheating. Yeah.
7. She has a severe case of FOMO.
Fear of missing out, also known as FOMO, is one of the worst diseases to ever plague young women and men. It causes severe anxiety, depression, and a chronic use of the phrase, “Wish you were here!!!” It’s hard to put into words how difficult it is to deal with someone that suffers from severe FOMO, but imagine being on a romantic getaway that you’ve been planning for months, and your girlfriend is upset that she can’t “go out with the girls to the piano bar.”
8. She consistently talks about her ex-boyfriends.
While it’s important to understand where your significant other is coming from, if you take her to dinner and the only thing she talks about is how her ex once took her to a fancy restaurant and what they ordered, it’s excessive. Learn to filter. And by the way, the whole “I don’t have a filter” thing, yeah, that’s not real. And if it is, you should probably seek medical attention.
9. She is unable to speak in a logical fashion about anything.
If confronting your significant other about something simple turns into something that is out of control…run. Again, the bigger things in life will require someone that has a level head, can think for themselves, and isn’t afraid of the unknown or at least won’t run from it.
10. She expects you to be there for her, but it isn’t reciprocated. You break your back to make time for her, but you’re still an option. Move on!
11. She can’t get over the fact that you have friends who are girls.
Some of my best friends are girls. They’ve never been anything but my friend, nor will they ever be, so why worry? Is it because you’re unable to control yourself with a guy friend? This type of action is worrisome. Personally speaking, I’m a professional, surrounded by PEOPLE, male and female, and respect them as such. While I do understand there is a fine line between being friends, lovers, and nothing, I believe that respect and trust go a long way.
12. She seeks the attention of others via massive amounts of selfies. I’ve taken selfies. I’ve added filters. I’ve hashtagged. But I do not seek the approval of others via a selfie. If your girlfriend’s Instagram account is more than 50% selfies… run!
As a guy, you want to feel like your opinion matters when your girlfriend asks, “How do I look?” However, this question has been replaced by a newer one, “How many likes will this get?”
I've seen people argue for it and firmly believe that demanding that your partner doesn't make friends with anyone who dares being born with compatible sexual genitalia is a totally normal thing, it makes sense to be jealous, it's not at all controlling and it isn't emotional abuse.
Wanting to win arguments can be fun, I like to have good competition in an interesting discussion. I also disagree with your explanation of assertiveness. That's obviously just your type. Lastly, I don't think guys have to be able to fix things. I like to fix things. And I hate cooking, Id much rather have a guy who's good cook. Or one who cleans, or one who is just extremely nice and funny.
Furthermore, you gave a list of "good" and "bad" qualities, not of boyish and manly. Guys who are obviously still boys can be delightful partners. I cherish my inner child and don't think it would be a bad thing for a guy to do the same. Why so serious?
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A man is a man when he truly fell in love with a woman.
So a man can fall in love with someone whilst abusing and restricting his girlfriend and pretend it's "love". Doesn't happen too uncommon.
LOL @ all girls agreeing with the op just lol.
Age: 17 You're still a little girl.
Girls are seriously stupid.
SIGNS YOU'RE DATING A GIRL, NOT A WOMAN.
1. Her life is “so” complicated.
She works 10AM-6PM yet cannot manage to get her life in order. She’s consistently struggling with “stress” because she doesn’t get to spend enough time doing the things she wants to do, yet she goes out 3-4 times per week. Her parents still pay most of her bills because her college major won’t pay the bills…yet. Or so she says.
2. She’s unable to make a decision without consulting her daddy.
Confidently making decisions is the sign of a true adult. We may have absolutely NO idea if it is the right one, but we make it, learn from it, and move on. If your girlfriend needs to have a phone conference with her “daddy” to figure out if it’s “OK” to put air in the tires of her car, reconsider the fact that she’s your girlfriend.
3. She has champagne tastes on a PBR budget.
Sure, that Louis Vuitton handbag looks great tucked under her spray-tanned skin and dyed hair, but if she worries about paying rent this month, her priorities are clearly out of order.
4. She’s simply “figuring out her next move.”
The uncertain, unmotivated, “drifting through life” type of female is more common than one might think. I’ve had the great pleasure of meeting several driven, successful women that make it even worse for this type of girl. You wonder if they’ll ever make moves that will ultimately lead them to their idea of success or if they’ll continue to work at the local five-and-dime.
5. She believes that “twerking” is an acceptable dance move in her mid-twenties.
Miley Cyrus is her “hero.” She firmly believes that no one can “hold her down” and “judge her,” but the truth is that everyone does. The way you represent yourself while out on the town still exists the next day. Just because you had one too many shots of vodka doesn’t mean the girl snapping your picture and posting it online did. Welcome to the world of social media.
6. Lying, stealing, and cheating. Yeah.
7. She has a severe case of FOMO.
Fear of missing out, also known as FOMO, is one of the worst diseases to ever plague young women and men. It causes severe anxiety, depression, and a chronic use of the phrase, “Wish you were here!!!” It’s hard to put into words how difficult it is to deal with someone that suffers from severe FOMO, but imagine being on a romantic getaway that you’ve been planning for months, and your girlfriend is upset that she can’t “go out with the girls to the piano bar.”
Way to go girl, way to go.
8. She consistently talks about her ex-boyfriends.
While it’s important to understand where your significant other is coming from, if you take her to dinner and the only thing she talks about is how her ex once took her to a fancy restaurant and what they ordered, it’s excessive. Learn to filter. And by the way, the whole “I don’t have a filter” thing, yeah, that’s not real. And if it is, you should probably seek medical attention.
9. She is unable to speak in a logical fashion about anything.
If confronting your significant other about something simple turns into something that is out of control…run. Again, the bigger things in life will require someone that has a level head, can think for themselves, and isn’t afraid of the unknown or at least won’t run from it.
10. She expects you to be there for her, but it isn’t reciprocated.
You break your back to make time for her, but you’re still an option. Move on!
11. She can’t get over the fact that you have friends who are girls.
Some of my best friends are girls. They’ve never been anything but my friend, nor will they ever be, so why worry? Is it because you’re unable to control yourself with a guy friend? This type of action is worrisome. Personally speaking, I’m a professional, surrounded by PEOPLE, male and female, and respect them as such. While I do understand there is a fine line between being friends, lovers, and nothing, I believe that respect and trust go a long way.
12. She seeks the attention of others via massive amounts of selfies.
I’ve taken selfies. I’ve added filters. I’ve hashtagged. But I do not seek the approval of others via a selfie. If your girlfriend’s Instagram account is more than 50% selfies… run!
As a guy, you want to feel like your opinion matters when your girlfriend asks, “How do I look?” However, this question has been replaced by a newer one, “How many likes will this get?”
13. Sloots gonna sloot
Ah yes, #11 is completely valid.
I've seen people argue for it and firmly believe that demanding that your partner doesn't make friends with anyone who dares being born with compatible sexual genitalia is a totally normal thing, it makes sense to be jealous, it's not at all controlling and it isn't emotional abuse.
Yeah, right.
@GingerGuy this seems like a legit 11 signs for that
@Mesonfielde Ah, there we go lol
These are good things both sexes can improve in. Another grown up trait you left out is being responsible.
Being on time
Making sure bills are payed
Keeping your promises
This is a load of shit ! I can't believe anyone with half a brain would believe one word of this.
Actually I think she has it right on.
@Rissyanne I disagree. Rissyanne, once again we agree to disagree. That's cool.
Now we need the 11 signs we're dating a girl not a woman!
I don't share all of your views. Except the obvious ones like whining and arrogance.
Which point do you you disagree with?
Wanting to win arguments can be fun, I like to have good competition in an interesting discussion. I also disagree with your explanation of assertiveness. That's obviously just your type. Lastly, I don't think guys have to be able to fix things. I like to fix things. And I hate cooking, Id much rather have a guy who's good cook. Or one who cleans, or one who is just extremely nice and funny.
Furthermore, you gave a list of "good" and "bad" qualities, not of boyish and manly. Guys who are obviously still boys can be delightful partners. I cherish my inner child and don't think it would be a bad thing for a guy to do the same. Why so serious?
Number 8 kind of contradicts number 2. You can't really be both humble and assertive at the same time.
So does 4... if you're assertive, you probably aren't going to concede when you know you're right about something.
Ur totally right. I liked this. I'm dating a 18 yo guy and he has none of these things u said. So I hope he's a real man.
>.> by law he is an adult. Not yet old enough to be a man. Being a man comes with life experience. None of which any of you under 20 year olds have.
Buuut, of course that's to be expected from a bunch of whiny women.
I would rather have a wank than sleep with you anyway.
^^^One sign a woman wrote something defining something she knows nothing about^^^
you dont argue with women, you tell them how its going to be and stop listening to them.
17 year old girl trying to define what a man is. Wow.
Pretty much on point.
I'm glad you didn't stick "plays video games" in there. LOL.
I only agree with some of these points. Some of them are just ridiculous
This is a good take. Don't mind all the bitter and butthurt men on here. I only saw 3 or 4 guys that took this positively which is good on them.
Sorry, but 3, 4 and 9 kind of conflict with each other. You want him to be upfront and honest and stand up for himself. Just not to you.
These kinds of things are reasons why young posters are not really taken seriously.
Most of the things on this list are very shallow. They have nothing to do with whether or not a guy is mature.
Seems to describe most of the boyfriends I hear women complain about, I guess it's what they want, lol
That's what separates us from the boys fellas. Let's be men about this. Also I know I still need more to grow.