I knew there was something in the nature of the two sexes to keep this tradition alive. It's exactly because we don't impress guys by paying for them, but they impress us by paying for us.
What if the man pays for everything? Do you also say "she doesn't actually love him, she's just getting a free ride"? My boyfriend and I break tradition, and we are very happy about it.
Men: if i offered to help you pay for our date knowing that i have a much higher paying job, would it make you feel like a slap on the face if i offered? I want to be sensitive.
@Trashay, no I wouldn't be bothered by it. For 50 years., Women have fought for economic and social equality for men. They should bear equal responsibilities as well. Also, Women are now beginning to earn MORE than Men and will continue to do so.
Wow you actually made this lol So if you're traditional do ask your girlfriend to cook, clean, and have sex on command or do you let her walk all over you?
You're not doing it because you're looking for her to return the favor, like I was saying near the end. It's because you like her. Gentlemanly behavior IS often taken for granted, and when it happens you don't have to take it. Cut her loose. You do something because you want to, regardless of if the favor is returned or not.
I feel so used man when they dont return the favor. I have a tendency to be too kind to people who dont deserve it becauase they take advantage of me, so will not pay for their food on a first date.
I've been there before myself, and that's okay. Being used is always gonna happen by all kinds of people, but you don't have to stand for it. There is a way to let people know you're not gonna let them take advantage of you. I had to learn it years ago myself.
If you're not a gentleman and stand on that then you don't have to pay. Women will learn that about you too. Nobody can make you pay, it's just something special to do if you want.
Your favor is actually in return for her favor. She probably spent much more time money and energy on her physical appearance than you did. And men get much more pleasure from gazing at an attractive women than women do.
if she gives you pleasure it's only fair you reciprocate
@mistixs whats the next thing she's gonna ask me? to wipe her ass? if it was up to me. if she spends a lot of time on her physical appearance then she does so for herself, not for me. i never asked her to do these things.
You are like 30, you are stuck in old thinking and can't get over it and now you don't have that much options ofcourse you will go for that lol young guys like me however. Id rather think girl is interested in me
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I knew there was something in the nature of the two sexes to keep this tradition alive. It's exactly because we don't impress guys by paying for them, but they impress us by paying for us.
Speak for yourself, my boyfriend was very impressed when I paid for him.
of course he was impressed- most guys out there want to use women and not pay anything.. duh
@jennsmith99223
It's not gonna make him love you, he's just getting a free ride.
That should have been for Kirah
@jennsmith99223 if that's really what you think of men, then that's on you. I've had a wonderful time with my boyfriend.
@raspberry0416 aren't you projecting a little bit?
What if the man pays for everything? Do you also say "she doesn't actually love him, she's just getting a free ride"? My boyfriend and I break tradition, and we are very happy about it.
@Kirah
Did you read the post?
This is actually true. 😊
i had a girl paying for me and i felt in debt once. give her the D and she forgot about it
oh, to be Young and broke!
I'm a traditionnal girl so I think men should paid on date plus to know generally the guys ear, more money than the girl. It's fair.
Men: if i offered to help you pay for our date knowing that i have a much higher paying job, would it make you feel like a slap on the face if i offered? I want to be sensitive.
@Trashay, no I wouldn't be bothered by it. For 50 years., Women have fought for economic and social equality for men. They should bear equal responsibilities as well. Also, Women are now beginning to earn MORE than Men and will continue to do so.
Wow you actually made this lol
So if you're traditional do ask your girlfriend to cook, clean, and have sex on command or do you let her walk all over you?
If i pay for a girl on a date, how is the favor returned? I get that its gentlemanly, but gentlemanly behavior is taken for granted to often!
You're not doing it because you're looking for her to return the favor, like I was saying near the end. It's because you like her. Gentlemanly behavior IS often taken for granted, and when it happens you don't have to take it. Cut her loose. You do something because you want to, regardless of if the favor is returned or not.
I feel so used man when they dont return the favor. I have a tendency to be too kind to people who dont deserve it becauase they take advantage of me, so will not pay for their food on a first date.
I've been there before myself, and that's okay. Being used is always gonna happen by all kinds of people, but you don't have to stand for it. There is a way to let people know you're not gonna let them take advantage of you. I had to learn it years ago myself.
Im young man i dont know much about these things.
Don't worry about that, you'll learn with more time and more interaction with people if you give yourself the chance. We all learn.
Yeah but why do i have to pay though? Im not a gentleman, women will know this.
If you're not a gentleman and stand on that then you don't have to pay. Women will learn that about you too. Nobody can make you pay, it's just something special to do if you want.
Thats true.
Your favor is actually in return for her favor. She probably spent much more time money and energy on her physical appearance than you did. And men get much more pleasure from gazing at an attractive women than women do.
if she gives you pleasure it's only fair you reciprocate
@mistixs whats the next thing she's gonna ask me? to wipe her ass? if it was up to me. if she spends a lot of time on her physical appearance then she does so for herself, not for me. i never asked her to do these things.
Take note boys. This dude has the game.
On the first date I think it would be nice for a guy to pay. But on any other date I would feel guilty and prefer to pay at least my part.
That's understandable.
You are like 30, you are stuck in old thinking and can't get over it and now you don't have that much options ofcourse you will go for that lol young guys like me however. Id rather think girl is interested in me
Great my take! Very well put!
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I pay for sex, not dates.
The one who asks should pay the damn bill