BDSM club... where you can just sit there with a mask on and have things done to you or do things to women? Massages are also a good way for sensual, nurturing contact. Just trying to help.
I want to move to a different country for other reasons, but it will take at least 6 more years before I even had a chance. I never mentioned why because I don't know. Nobody knows.
Bdsm clubs generally don't have sex but just standard scene play (flogging without sex for example). To get the sex part of it you still need to be vouched for or go with a female partner, which means attraction, which means it's difficult for some guys.
Therapists don't help much with game.
I've been down both these roads. A pick up artist helps far more.
Depends on the situation, since many of those girls I met through a social circle so it wasn't always a direct approach. But usually we talk, laugh and all that but there is never any attraction. In the end we usually be "friends" and lose all contact. They just talk and laugh with me like they would with their friends or parents or whatever. Nothing sexual involved
Sure thing. Your career is the most important thing in your life. When it's on track, throw money and get some hoes. And then continue doing what you love and what makes you happy. Good luck, fella :)
When you are completely missing one aspect of your life (especially something as basic as this), you can'thelp but stress about it. Imagine having a brand new Mercedes but its missing one wheel. And there is no way for you to ever get that wheel. You will always stress about the missing wheel, instead of looking at the rest of the awesome car
Its simple. A guy who can't have any girl in the world is a fucking loser. And it does not matter if he has a billion dollar business or whatever, as long as no girl in the world wants him - he is a fucking loser. Relationships and sex are a natural human need, a basic one too. And every normal guy on this planet can do it. Hell, even gay guys get kisses from girls. Nick Vujicic has a wife and kids. Thats a guy born without arms and legs. I have all body parts yet I can't get a kiss from any girl in the world. Not to mention sex. I can't achieve the simple basic thing everybody can
Well there really doesn't seem to be wrong with you in that way, no so called obstacles for someone not to be attracted... Maybe you are looking at wrong girls? You could just lower your standards when in comes to looks especially if you are ever planning to have an actual relationship and not just lose your virginity. There are some women who prefer experienced"men, but for the most part, being a virgin is a big deal only if you make it a big deal.
My standards are already pretty low. Beggars can't be choosers. And being a virgin is kind of a big deal for others, because people follow the logic "there's gotta be something wrong with him if no girl wants him"
They react just fine, but its all in a friendly way. I can talk to girls, make them laugh, but they talk to me like to a girl friend or their parents or whatever. There is no attraction involved.
No worries buddy, things don't sound that bad. Maybe you should try being more mysterious and masculine. While talking to them, keep your answers short, don't smile or laugh too much only few smirks here and there just look at them intensively and ask them out in a way that it doesn't sound like a queston even though it is. "You will give me your number will you?"
Still, its like they don't see me as a man. As if I am invisible (the reason I chose this nickname). No matter how I try, they never even consider being with me.
Well if I see not only jerks, but unattractive jerks with women, it's very unbelievable that a man better than that isn't able to get a girlfriend. You could try online dating, it's easier and your options are not as limited.
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Move to a different country, maybe it's just the women in your country. People love exotic people.
Have you talked to a therapist? You never mention WHY girls aren't interested in you.
BDSM club... where you can just sit there with a mask on and have things done to you or do things to women? Massages are also a good way for sensual, nurturing contact. Just trying to help.
I want to move to a different country for other reasons, but it will take at least 6 more years before I even had a chance. I never mentioned why because I don't know. Nobody knows.
@WaterRat
Bdsm clubs generally don't have sex but just standard scene play (flogging without sex for example). To get the sex part of it you still need to be vouched for or go with a female partner, which means attraction, which means it's difficult for some guys.
Therapists don't help much with game.
I've been down both these roads. A pick up artist helps far more.
@Scrambledagain oh I see. Insightful.
How many girls have you asked out? Out of curiosity.
I don't know exactly, as I said, its been over 7 years...
So you've been constantly been asking girls out these 7 years? And not one has even said yes?
What are your rejections like then? Describe what they say or do.
Depends on the situation, since many of those girls I met through a social circle so it wasn't always a direct approach. But usually we talk, laugh and all that but there is never any attraction. In the end we usually be "friends" and lose all contact. They just talk and laugh with me like they would with their friends or parents or whatever. Nothing sexual involved
Earn money and get some prostitutes. And then earn even more money.
Thats the plan, but I gotta wait about 6 months - 1 year more, while I deal with some other stuff in my life
Sure thing.
Your career is the most important thing in your life. When it's on track, throw money and get some hoes. And then continue doing what you love and what makes you happy.
Good luck, fella :)
Thats the plan, hopefully one day I will make enough money so I can get prostitutes every day
Not just prostitutes but gold diggers too ;)
maybe, but that still requires some sort of attraction, and i honestly doubt its possible for me
Why does your whole worth center on not having a girlfriend? You sound like you have a pretty nice and exciting life to me.
When you are completely missing one aspect of your life (especially something as basic as this), you can'thelp but stress about it. Imagine having a brand new Mercedes but its missing one wheel. And there is no way for you to ever get that wheel. You will always stress about the missing wheel, instead of looking at the rest of the awesome car
Maybe you need a new analogy then?
Its simple. A guy who can't have any girl in the world is a fucking loser. And it does not matter if he has a billion dollar business or whatever, as long as no girl in the world wants him - he is a fucking loser. Relationships and sex are a natural human need, a basic one too. And every normal guy on this planet can do it. Hell, even gay guys get kisses from girls. Nick Vujicic has a wife and kids. Thats a guy born without arms and legs. I have all body parts yet I can't get a kiss from any girl in the world. Not to mention sex. I can't achieve the simple basic thing everybody can
It may be simple for you, but for some of us its impossible. No matter what I did, girls were never interested in me
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is this fernando alonso? haha, well obviously it isn't a problem for people like you
@ptstat Train as me, eat as me, and then come back and tell me that.
i respect you for your efforts and training that surely will land you girls and a marriage, but let us losers have our prostitutes lol
@ptstat The less competence, the better!! :P
Im 20. Just like you. Only im just too fucking ugly and too fucking fat to every get anyone to evern want to be in a 5 mile radius to me.
Ok, but you can work on your looks man. Don't let that stop you! Start working out, get in shape, and find hair/beard style that suits you.
what about a prostitute? that's what i did, with the price of a date meal at a restaurant i solved the problem
Yes, thats the plan, however I still won't be able to do it for at least 6 months, maybe even more, due to some other things happening in my life
Do YOU approach girls or do you expect them to approach you? Have you been directly rejected by a girl before?
Yes and yes
Bro a woman is just a woman. She's not God. I think you probably come off as to anxiety or a bit rigid towards women and that can turn them off.
I never said women were Gods. However I do have a higher chance of meeting God than a girl who would want to be with me
I'm almost 15 and i haven't even kissed a guy or dated anyone... ever.
No offense but you are still a kid
I don't plan to have sex before marriage so it's not a problem for me
Good for you but that has absolutely nothing to do with my take
I'm 22 and a virgin. I also have no intention of ever having sex
then you are a virgin by choice, and its a completely different story
Welcome to the club. If it makes you feel better, I'm 21 and still a virgin.
By choice or?
It will never happen with that attitude pal.
I already wrote in the take, I didn't always have this attitude, this was formed by years of bad experience and total failure
I know how you feel man, I have the same problem, but I'm almost two decades older than you :(
Oh man, I can't imagine how you must feel :/
Yep, it's quite depressive :(
Have you ever even approached a girl really? It really doesn't seem like it.
Why do you say it doesn't seem like it? Of course I have, thats what I meant by "I was trying for over 7 years"
Well there really doesn't seem to be wrong with you in that way, no so called obstacles for someone not to be attracted...
Maybe you are looking at wrong girls? You could just lower your standards when in comes to looks especially if you are ever planning to have an actual relationship and not just lose your virginity.
There are some women who prefer experienced"men, but for the most part, being a virgin is a big deal only if you make it a big deal.
My standards are already pretty low. Beggars can't be choosers. And being a virgin is kind of a big deal for others, because people follow the logic "there's gotta be something wrong with him if no girl wants him"
Maybe the way you approach is wrong in some way. How they react to things you say?
They react just fine, but its all in a friendly way. I can talk to girls, make them laugh, but they talk to me like to a girl friend or their parents or whatever. There is no attraction involved.
No worries buddy, things don't sound that bad.
Maybe you should try being more mysterious and masculine. While talking to them, keep your answers short, don't smile or laugh too much only few smirks here and there just look at them intensively and ask them out in a way that it doesn't sound like a queston even though it is. "You will give me your number will you?"
Still, its like they don't see me as a man. As if I am invisible (the reason I chose this nickname). No matter how I try, they never even consider being with me.
What you exactly do and say? Why you think they won't notice you?
I don't know why, but they simply don't see me in that way. I can be friends with a girl easily. But thats all I can achieve with any girl
Well if I see not only jerks, but unattractive jerks with women, it's very unbelievable that a man better than that isn't able to get a girlfriend.
You could try online dating, it's easier and your options are not as limited.
Tried that too, quite recently actually. Of course, no results
i'm pretty much the same way at 24, and i'm doin' alright... :/
Well good for you
Stop putting the pussy on a pedestal. Visit Return of kings. com it took me from whiny dud to stud.
Really? Because you sound like those assholes on youtube comments wjo say anything just to share some link
Dude you wrote take about how weak and pathetic you are im just trying to get your dick wet.
Ok, thanks
"im just trying to get your dick wet." ... gay
return of kings is hell is full on misogyny be warned.
@pavlove actually I looked it up after this guy posted it and so far its awesome
You know the head guy hold rallies to make rape legal if it happens on a mans private property?
@pavlove did not know that o. o
I think you need a prostitute.
I was about to comment this...
Thats the plan, but can't do it in another 6 months - 1 year, due to some other stuff thats going on
I've never been kissed either and I'm older.